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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21795 on: June 19, 2013, 11:55:00 PM »
http://www.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-wedding-gift-firestorm/

SS brides and insulted guest = blizzard.

I was about to post that! Got interesting didn't it!

That made my jaw drop! I thought the first text was okay - clueless, but okay. Not technically etiquette-approved, but if she really had been gluten intolorant (which doesn't seem to be the case), I could understand her, and would give her a pass.

But her wife's text two days later??? WOW! What a SS!!!

I don't see the insulted guest as being a SS. (S)he 'just' became guilty of retaliatory rudeness... Which I can understand even though I wouldn't have done it myself.
 
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21796 on: June 19, 2013, 11:57:21 PM »
http://www.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-wedding-gift-firestorm/

SS brides and insulted guest = blizzard.

I was about to post that! Got interesting didn't it!

That made my jaw drop! I thought the first text was okay - clueless, but okay. Not technically etiquette-approved, but if she really had been gluten intolorant (which doesn't seem to be the case), I could understand her, and would give her a pass.

But her wife's text two days later??? WOW! What a SS!!!

I don't see the insulted guest as being a SS. (S)he 'just' became guilty of retaliatory rudeness... Which I can understand even though I wouldn't have done it myself.

Quite a story.  I agree, the Brides were SS and the guest sinned by way of retaliatory rudeness. Totally surrendered the high ground there. Why care what a couple you have no relationship with and are clearly in the wrong think anyways?

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21797 on: June 20, 2013, 12:07:16 AM »
http://www.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-wedding-gift-firestorm/

SS brides and insulted guest = blizzard.

I was about to post that! Got interesting didn't it!

I want to know how he ate a beautiful venue.  :) 



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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21798 on: June 20, 2013, 09:00:58 AM »
http://www.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-wedding-gift-firestorm/

SS brides and insulted guest = blizzard.

Appalling -- in so many ways!

I remember that when my son had just graduated from college and had only worked at his job for a few months, an old girlfriend of his from high school got married and he was invited to the wedding.  He could have but did not take a +1.  He attended alone. 

His gift was this gorgeous picnic basket with two plates, bowls, stemware and cutlery and a ground spreadable type tablecloth.  Even then (maybe twelve years ago) the basket cost much more than the $30 being bandied about here, and it didn't even contain food at all!  Bride and husband apparently loved it, or at least they had the decency to say they did. 

I thought it was an awesome gift for them and am quite puzzled at the number of people on the site above who thought it was "cheap".


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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21799 on: June 20, 2013, 09:07:03 AM »
I got a basket like that for my wedding, and I thought it was a really neat gift.  Except that, of course, we found we don't go on picnics and never used it.  :(  Looking at it made me feel guilty for *years*.  I think we used the food from it but eventually passed on the basket and plates, glasses, etc.  At least then I didn't have to feel guilty anymore!  Although I sort of do when I think about it now.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21800 on: June 20, 2013, 09:45:56 AM »
I think that sounds like a really cute gift and would be thrilled if someone gave it to me. In fact, I've given similar gifts in the past (one couple likes to BBQ, so I gave them a selection of interesting BBQ sauces/marinades along with a BB&B gift card, another couple likes to bake so I gave them a couple of fancy cupcake and frosting mixes from World Market with a Target gift card).

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21801 on: June 20, 2013, 10:07:36 AM »
SSTeacher:
 My niece has a week left of school...she came home today with two bundles - one addressed to her mother, one addressed to me. Inside were projects to be laminated, cutout and labeled with the names of each kid in her class ( 28 kids). The teacher sent a note to my sister that was addressed"Mrs XXXXX" and one to Me "Firstname" I need this done for the last day of school, for our party, please send it back with Katie by at least Friday." ( Today's Wednesday, so I have two days to do this according to her.)
  Frankly I am livid that I am being given homework by a teacher with whom, I have never had a conversation about doing this type of stuff with this is ordering me to do hours of work for her! She knows me because I am one of the folks that can pick up Katie - although I've only done so maybe two or three times since Katie has been in school ( she's in second grade). 
  I am going to go to the school tomorrow and tell her that I am not going to comply - but what would she have done if I had not seen my niece between now and then and she never got told that she needed to do it herself?
 

Unbelievable!!   :o

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21802 on: June 20, 2013, 12:14:45 PM »
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http://www.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-wedding-gift-firestorm/

SS brides and insulted guest = blizzard.

None of them can hold their head up as a paragon of etiquette. Very distasteful behavior and words all around.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21803 on: June 20, 2013, 12:48:10 PM »
A fave wedding gift we received was a basket of all the toppings and goodies needed for ice cream sundaes, including the cute service, "just add ice cream."

I guess for the SS bride, no poor students, no one laid off, no one facing a mountain of bills, and no one saving their own money on a tight budget, should share in her joy. 

Only the rich.

And, hey, that comment about "no gifts in the past 50 years" cannot be true, because I have been to some even in the past 5 years and there was still a nicely stacked gift table! 
And what about registering? 

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21804 on: June 20, 2013, 01:53:01 PM »
snowdragon wrote:

"Frankly I am livid that I am being given homework by a teacher with whom, I have never had a conversation about doing this type of stuff with this is ordering me to do hours of work for her!"

There was another thread about this a while ago, where a teacher sent work home with no preamble.  Here, as there, I suggest that you return the work to the teacher without being livid, because it might simply be a mistake.  She might have asked someone, gotten permission and then accidentally marked your niece's name as the student whose contacts are willing to help.  So give it or send it back, but avoid blowing up until you're sure that it's more than a clerical error.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21805 on: June 20, 2013, 04:11:27 PM »
And if it WASN'T an error, and she really did mean to send you homework - that is an "I'm sorry, but that won't be possible" situation if I ever heard one.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21806 on: June 20, 2013, 05:39:23 PM »
And if it WASN'T an error, and she really did mean to send you homework - that is an "I'm sorry, but that won't be possible" situation if I ever heard one.
Or maybe the niece volunteered her mom and aunt. I've had kids do that before. When I sent home a note asking for volunteers to do X. Then I had student crying that Mom or Aunt had said to bring home X. If I send it home. I might end up with an irritated parent/aunt. If I don't I also might get an irritated parent/aunt, who doesn't understand why telling my kid wasn't enough why do I have to send back that piece of paper (that required her to sign her name).
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21807 on: June 20, 2013, 05:51:53 PM »
snowdragon wrote:

"Frankly I am livid that I am being given homework by a teacher with whom, I have never had a conversation about doing this type of stuff with this is ordering me to do hours of work for her!"

There was another thread about this a while ago, where a teacher sent work home with no preamble.  Here, as there, I suggest that you return the work to the teacher without being livid, because it might simply be a mistake.  She might have asked someone, gotten permission and then accidentally marked your niece's name as the student whose contacts are willing to help.  So give it or send it back, but avoid blowing up until you're sure that it's more than a clerical error.

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  It was not a mistake. I went in this morning with my niece and my sister. Niece was dropped off in the Library while we went in to talk to the teacher. She greeted us with " Hi Mrs XXXXX and Myfirstname. That was fast."  When I put the stuff on the desk and told her that I had not volunteered for this and it was not possible for me to do this, she lectured me about supporting teachers and students and told me "I know you're only an aunt, but everyone needs to their part, obviously you don't care how this failure on your part will affect your niece" 
  I walked out and into the office to discuss this with the principal - who will "have a talk with her about doing her own work. And about extending the same level of courtesy to all ( addressing me by first name while  calling my sister by title and expecting us to call her by title.). Principal was unamused.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21808 on: June 20, 2013, 06:05:58 PM »
snowdragon wrote:

"Frankly I am livid that I am being given homework by a teacher with whom, I have never had a conversation about doing this type of stuff with this is ordering me to do hours of work for her!"

There was another thread about this a while ago, where a teacher sent work home with no preamble.  Here, as there, I suggest that you return the work to the teacher without being livid, because it might simply be a mistake.  She might have asked someone, gotten permission and then accidentally marked your niece's name as the student whose contacts are willing to help.  So give it or send it back, but avoid blowing up until you're sure that it's more than a clerical error.

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  It was not a mistake. I went in this morning with my niece and my sister. Niece was dropped off in the Library while we went in to talk to the teacher. She greeted us with " Hi Mrs XXXXX and Myfirstname. That was fast."  When I put the stuff on the desk and told her that I had not volunteered for this and it was not possible for me to do this, she lectured me about supporting teachers and students and told me "I know you're only an aunt, but everyone needs to their part, obviously you don't care how this failure on your part will affect your niece" 
  I walked out and into the office to discuss this with the principal - who will "have a talk with her about doing her own work. And about extending the same level of courtesy to all ( addressing me by first name while  calling my sister by title and expecting us to call her by title.). Principal was unamused.

Not to mention the threat she made about your niece?  I wonder what she meant by "how it will affect your niece."  I HOPE she didn't mean your niece would suffer consequences.  That would be so wrong.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21809 on: June 20, 2013, 06:52:45 PM »
Sounds like somebody's in the wrong line of work. Collecting protection money might be a better career for this person. "Nice little niece you gotz dere. It'd be real tragic if somethin' was to happen to her. Capice?"

Teacher failings: 1) Sending home work for parents/family without checking first; 2) Lecturing you on "supporting teachers" when you refuse to be coerced; 3) Implied threats to the child; 4) "Only an aunt" and other disrespect. Frankly #1 is disrespectful of any parent -- your sister needs to be in the principle's office, too, along with any other "voluntold" parents she can collect.
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