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« Reply #21885 on: June 25, 2013, 10:12:05 AM »
There's a girl in graduate school here who is from Europe who is a bit of a snob about America. She got dual citizenship when she was 7 years old but says that she "isn't really" a citizen of America and hates it here, and that things are so much better in her country, that she doesn't "claim" America as her country, etc. Her parents both live in America and her other relatives live in said foreign country. I get that a lot of people aren't very pleased with the U.S. right now but if you're going to gripe about it 24/7 (when the country you're "really" from doesn't have the educational opportunities you want) you're spending too much energy trying to go to school here.

This isn't even about politics or foreign affairs. This is someone who made her bed and doesn't want to lie in it. I see the same thing happen with people from the south who choose to come up here (not because they're backed into a corner, but because they want to) and gripe about the cold weather and how the south is so much better, etc.

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« Reply #21886 on: June 25, 2013, 11:05:57 AM »
I think for those people, you should say, quite sympathetically, "You sound really unhappy! Maybe you should move back."

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« Reply #21887 on: June 25, 2013, 11:41:42 AM »
Recently, they got a call from someone they did not know ("I got your number from Joe!") and this person demanded George come out immediately to service his pool.  George told him that the earliest he could come out was on the weekend (in three days).  This was "unacceptable!" and George "WILL come out and service his pool TODAY!!"

George told the man that is would not be possible and if he wanted to set up an appointment for Saturday, he could come out then.  The man hung up on him. 



Someone needs to slap some sense into George so he stops setting himself up for these situations. At the very least he has to stop being willing to work for free for people who talk to him like that.

Oh, he doesn't work for free, he does charge them (I'm sure it's the friends and family discount though).

ETA: He also never did anything for this guy.  He was willing to set up an appointment for when HE could do it but he wasn't going to drop everything to accommodate this guy.  AFAIK, the guy never called back, so I guess he found someone else.  My friend has said that those who are consistently demanding and can't respect the fact that George has a day job are often put on the "too busy" list.  They don't need clients like that for a side business.
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« Reply #21888 on: June 25, 2013, 01:40:26 PM »
Adelaide, I worked with someone like that.  He couldn't stop talking about how much he missed Toronto, how Toronto was much better than Winnipeg, and so on.  Also, the company he used to work for in Toronto was MUCH better than our company.  You can imagine how popular that made him, and a number of us said bluntly "Maybe you should go back, if you miss it so much."

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« Reply #21889 on: June 25, 2013, 02:29:40 PM »
Sorry, Shalamar. We don't want him either.  >:D
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« Reply #21890 on: June 25, 2013, 03:23:47 PM »
I nominate my husband's once-good friend, who was the best man at my wedding. Afterwards he started to draw away, as we were in a different point of our lives than he was. We do still see him several times a year and the guys are friendly. Understandable and not snowflakey.

What is SS about him? Well he posted on Facebook that he needed mailing addresses for wedding invites. I sent him DH and my address, he wrote back gushing about how glad he was we could come, how he's missed us, hopes the kids are great etc. Guy lives a 5 minute drive from my house and works a half mile away.

So today he shared a post on his wall. The post was originally his fiancée's post, and it essentially says "if you want a wedding invite come to my tattoo shop and pick one up, they are on the counter". Yes. He couldn't post it himself, he shared the post for aaall his FB friends who may potentially want to go pick up an invite. If we want the information we have to go to his fiancée's place of business and grab one, like some picnic flyer. Just seems strange and awkward to me! And not even a pm to pretend at some personal invitation to come to his wedding? Strange. Kinda wondering how many random tattoo customers with no other connection to the couple are going to show up for free cake.

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« Reply #21891 on: June 25, 2013, 03:53:59 PM »
We have a Panera Bread café near work. They are busy during lunch every day. I went a little late so that I could find a quiet spot to eat and study, and I found a side of the dining room that was pretty empty.

I dropped off my tote bag, then ordered my food, filled my cup, and waited for my food to be ready. All was well. About 5 minutes after I picked up my food, a pair of women came in, then sat next to me. They both took out devotional books, and each got water, but nothing else. I was there for thirty minutes after they arrived and they never bought food or coffee (Panera has items for less than $1 on their menu). They left just after I did.

Is it SS to go into a restaurant, drink their water and use their tables to meet someone without spending anything?

Not just SS, but one of my personal peeves as well. I write and work on papers in cafes a lot, and I know places where it is okay to nurse a single mug during low-traffic time for a few hours. That said, there are obvious rules of thumb. If you are spread out over a four-top table or larger, there had better be a group joining you within the next thirty minutes. Turn off your movies, podcasts and music if you don't have headphones. This is not your substitute office in which to conduct big meetings or events, so if there are more than two or three of you who will be talking loudly, a cafe is not the place for you. And yes, you better order at least something from the business that provided the table where you're sitting.

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« Reply #21892 on: June 25, 2013, 04:00:26 PM »
Today I was cursed at and given the finger.

Because I took the time to put my grocery cart away in the cart return, which delayed my pulling out of my parking space in the supermarket parking lot by about 40 seconds. Which was 40 seconds longer than this SS wanted to wait to park her car. Despite the fact that there were dozens of empty spaces just a little further away from the store.

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« Reply #21893 on: June 25, 2013, 04:15:20 PM »
Adelaide, I worked with someone like that.  He couldn't stop talking about how much he missed Toronto, how Toronto was much better than Winnipeg, and so on.  Also, the company he used to work for in Toronto was MUCH better than our company.  You can imagine how popular that made him, and a number of us said bluntly "Maybe you should go back, if you miss it so much."

I was invited to lunch last week by someone like this.  She has been very aggressive in trying to facilitate a friendship between our sons, and I guess she thought that being friendly with me would help towards that goal.   Normally it would help, but lunch was a non-stop litany about how she hates this city.  Can't stand the people, the weather, the school system, etc.    When I mentioned a few things that we enjoy about the area (we've been here a year, and really like it) she immediately tried to negate everything I said with a complaint.    Finally she said, "I guess I really shouldn't be such a Debbie Downer."  At that point I just wanted to say, "But you're so good at it!"   

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« Reply #21894 on: June 25, 2013, 04:17:06 PM »
Adelaide, I worked with someone like that.  He couldn't stop talking about how much he missed Toronto, how Toronto was much better than Winnipeg, and so on.  Also, the company he used to work for in Toronto was MUCH better than our company.  You can imagine how popular that made him, and a number of us said bluntly "Maybe you should go back, if you miss it so much."

I was invited to lunch last week by someone like this.  She has been very aggressive in trying to facilitate a friendship between our sons, and I guess she thought that being friendly with me would help towards that goal.   Normally it would help, but lunch was a non-stop litany about how she hates this city.  Can't stand the people, the weather, the school system, etc.    When I mentioned a few things that we enjoy about the area (we've been here a year, and really like it) she immediately tried to negate everything I said with a complaint.    Finally she said, "I guess I really shouldn't be such a Debbie Downer."  At that point I just wanted to say, "But you're so good at it!"   

You're a better woman than I am, as I expect Evil would have actually said it before I could stop her! Either that or Snarky would have come up with "So why are you still here?"
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« Reply #21895 on: June 25, 2013, 04:32:57 PM »
Kinda wondering how many random tattoo customers with no other connection to the couple are going to show up for free cake.

I'm imagining the K&B Construction guys from Home Improvement showing up
"Thank you for inviting us. I made you this lovely lace table cloth on my lunch break, with plyers & fishing line. I admire the beadwork on your dress, by the way --"
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« Reply #21896 on: June 25, 2013, 04:40:30 PM »
...    "if you want a wedding invite come to my tattoo shop and pick one up, they are on the counter".  ...

Gotta admit, that's unique!  ???

Seriously, I hope that's not a new trend!  And also seriously, it would almost be worth it to go to that wedding just to see what shows up!   >:D

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« Reply #21897 on: June 25, 2013, 05:41:04 PM »
Adelaide, I worked with someone like that.  He couldn't stop talking about how much he missed Toronto, how Toronto was much better than Winnipeg, and so on.  Also, the company he used to work for in Toronto was MUCH better than our company.  You can imagine how popular that made him, and a number of us said bluntly "Maybe you should go back, if you miss it so much."

I worked with someone like this as well.  He said he didn't like living in the US, we have an evil capitalist society that preys on the poor, yet he took a layoff to try and work from home day trading stocks.  He was originally from Vietnam, his parents and he were literally some of the boat people that risked everything to come here since they believed they could have a better life.  He kept saying how things were actually better in his home country, and I asked him one day "Why are you still here then?  there is nothing stopping you from going back to your home country, and it seems you're very unhappy with your way of life here."

His response was very vague.

I understand you may not like being here, but one of the nice things about this country, and thankfully a lot of other countries in this world, there are no laws preventing you from leaving.  You're free to pack and go where ever you want, when ever you want.

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« Reply #21898 on: June 25, 2013, 06:34:09 PM »
Don't know if this is snowflake behavior or Harry Potter Do The Impossible Behavior, but this is the first thread I saw and I am lazy, so it's going here....

I had occasion to be in the Men's Clothing Department the other day and while I was looking for a shirt for my Dad, I could hear a discussion that was becoming heated.  I turned to look at the register and a patron was arguing with the clerk saying over and and over "But I BROUGHT the receipt!  It's still in the package.  I BROUGHT a receipt." 

When the clerk was able to get a word in edgewise he said "Sir, yes, you DO have a receipt and the shirt is still in the packing but if you look at the receipt, we don't take returns after three months and this receipt is five years old."

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« Reply #21899 on: June 25, 2013, 06:38:02 PM »
Adelaide, I worked with someone like that.  He couldn't stop talking about how much he missed Toronto, how Toronto was much better than Winnipeg, and so on.  Also, the company he used to work for in Toronto was MUCH better than our company.  You can imagine how popular that made him, and a number of us said bluntly "Maybe you should go back, if you miss it so much."

I worked with someone like this as well.  He said he didn't like living in the US, we have an evil capitalist society that preys on the poor, yet he took a layoff to try and work from home day trading stocks.  He was originally from Vietnam, his parents and he were literally some of the boat people that risked everything to come here since they believed they could have a better life.  He kept saying how things were actually better in his home country, and I asked him one day "Why are you still here then?  there is nothing stopping you from going back to your home country, and it seems you're very unhappy with your way of life here."

His response was very vague.

I understand you may not like being here, but one of the nice things about this country, and thankfully a lot of other countries in this world, there are no laws preventing you from leaving.  You're free to pack and go where ever you want, when ever you want.

Oh, yeah.  Had a coworker who did the same thing.  EVERYTHING was so much better at home in Mother Country.  Medicine was better.  Sports were better.  Literature was better.  Fruit was better (even though, apparently, you had to stand in line for hours to buy one cherry, but it was apparently worth it).

And one day I had had enough and said "Why on earth are you still here?  I'm ready to leave now listening to your description.  Why ever did you leave such a paradise?"

And off he slunk without another word.  Someone told me later that, yes, once again, he and his family came over here to escape political repression and poverty.  I simply do not get it.