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gmatoy

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22605 on: July 30, 2013, 10:52:13 PM »
When my children had their first birthdays, I just made cupcakes for the family and took pictures of them diving in.  I have a spectacular photo of the youngest covered in chocolate frosting.   :) But it was just a box of $2 Betty Crocker mix, $2 frosting and me smearing it all on the cupcakes myself.

I just had to reassure a relative that her b-day party for her 1 year old dd was great!  She too made cupcakes, put a cute teddy bear candle on her dd's cupcake and then had a bunch of beach balls blown up for the kids (all toddlers) to smack around.  The party was over in less than 2 hours and she thought it wasn't enough.  Those kids had a blast and each took home a ball.




When our children were young I did basically the same thing for each party. They decorated a plain white paper bag to hold their favors. We played "hot and Cold" with gum, so everybody got to take home packages of gum. I decorated a cake every year and gave out favors that had something to do with the party theme. Done.

Last year a 37+ year old (based on which child she went to school with) started telling me how much she loved our parties, because "I knew it would be fun and no unpleasant surprises." So, I think the parties with clowns, Disney princesses, etc. can be stressful for some children.

IrishGenes

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« Reply #22606 on: July 30, 2013, 10:58:45 PM »
It's midnight, I am all snuggled in bed with my iPad and the cats, and all I can think about now is CAKE! ::) ;D

Oh, and lemon is one of my favorite flavors. 
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22607 on: July 30, 2013, 11:57:52 PM »
I had a HUGE slice of lemon cake for my last birthday, actually... with coconut frosting!  *happily noms on virtual lemon cake*

Work SS from a couple of days ago:  Job candidate sends in her resume.  She looks good, so we call her for an interview.  She's from out of state, so we offer to do a Skype interview--which we've done, quite successfully, before.  She doesn't have Skype, so she suggests an in-person interview... OK, none of this is SS, so far...

But THEN she insists on being PAID for the interview!  Um, not happening.  My employer is a mom-and-pop company, not a Fortune 500 company with the budget to pay interviewees' travel expenses.

*arranges a close encounter with a cross-cut shredder for the SS's resume*
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22608 on: July 31, 2013, 05:00:46 AM »
When my children had their first birthdays, I just made cupcakes for the family and took pictures of them diving in.  I have a spectacular photo of the youngest covered in chocolate frosting.   :) But it was just a box of $2 Betty Crocker mix, $2 frosting and me smearing it all on the cupcakes myself.

I just had to reassure a relative that her b-day party for her 1 year old dd was great!  She too made cupcakes, put a cute teddy bear candle on her dd's cupcake and then had a bunch of beach balls blown up for the kids (all toddlers) to smack around.  The party was over in less than 2 hours and she thought it wasn't enough.  Those kids had a blast and each took home a ball.

When our children were young I did basically the same thing for each party. They decorated a plain white paper bag to hold their favors. We played "hot and Cold" with gum, so everybody got to take home packages of gum. I decorated a cake every year and gave out favors that had something to do with the party theme. Done.

Last year a 37+ year old (based on which child she went to school with) started telling me how much she loved our parties, because "I knew it would be fun and no unpleasant surprises." So, I think the parties with clowns, Disney princesses, etc. can be stressful for some children.

One of my daughter's favorite birthdays was at about 7 or 8 years old.  I baked a ton of cupcakes, set them on the table, then gave the kids a bunch of tubes of icing from the dollar store, sprinkles, etc.  They all had a ball decorating their own cupcakes.

And Piratelvr1121, the pictures of my daughter's first birthday are hilarious.  We put the cake in front of her, and she just stared at it, had no idea what to do.  So I swiped my finger through the frosting and gave her a taste.  She liked it, so she swiped her finger and offered it to me to have a taste.  And then she offered her finger of icing to everyone else. She didn't make much of a mess that year.
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« Reply #22609 on: July 31, 2013, 06:38:32 AM »
I've noticed in some places it seems like birthday parties are more of a competition in who can spend the most on the birthday party and provide the most fun.  For a while it seemed like everyone was having parties at the places with inflatable play structures. 

We've gotten such a poor turnout at my son's parties (last time 4 people rsvp'd and only one kid showed up) that I'm real close to just saying "Okay kids, we're just doing family parties."  When I got to the age of my oldest two (12.5 and nearly 11) I wasn't having big birthday parties anymore, just having a friend sleep over or just doing stuff with one close friend and we stopped calling it a party. 

Once, when my oldest turned 10, he had his best friend sleep over and we were making tie-dyed shirts on the porch when another kid, who had been horribly rude to the pirate boys, decided his invitation must have gotten lost and kept trying to join the party.  ::)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22610 on: July 31, 2013, 06:40:51 AM »
When my children had their first birthdays, I just made cupcakes for the family and took pictures of them diving in.  I have a spectacular photo of the youngest covered in chocolate frosting.   :) But it was just a box of $2 Betty Crocker mix, $2 frosting and me smearing it all on the cupcakes myself.

I just had to reassure a relative that her b-day party for her 1 year old dd was great!  She too made cupcakes, put a cute teddy bear candle on her dd's cupcake and then had a bunch of beach balls blown up for the kids (all toddlers) to smack around.  The party was over in less than 2 hours and she thought it wasn't enough.  Those kids had a blast and each took home a ball.




When our children were young I did basically the same thing for each party. They decorated a plain white paper bag to hold their favors. We played "hot and Cold" with gum, so everybody got to take home packages of gum. I decorated a cake every year and gave out favors that had something to do with the party theme. Done.

Last year a 37+ year old (based on which child she went to school with) started telling me how much she loved our parties, because "I knew it would be fun and no unpleasant surprises." So, I think the parties with clowns, Disney princesses, etc. can be stressful for some children.

I think it can be an unpleasant surprise for a child to be confronted with some ultra-fancy confection with an exotic ice cream flavour. The adult may love it but the child might prefer plain chocolate or vanilla.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22611 on: July 31, 2013, 09:53:44 AM »
I love planning parties for the kids.  I think it's so fun to have a theme.  But I do it at home, and they generally aren't too complicated.  Just... if the theme is doggies, there's a doggie cake, a doggie pinata, pin-the-tail-on-the-doggie, etc.  No actual doggies (as the birthday child was afraid of them--no idea why she wanted doggies as her theme, don't ask me!).  Of course, one kid now wants a mystery party as her next birthday party.  She's making plans already.  Her birthday is in January.  It's now July.  :)

I agree that the customer probably just tries this all the time, hoping for a discount.  I would think that showing her that she'd requested lemon cake, agreed to it in writing, etc., would be enough.  But I like the idea of printing out emails and receipts ahead of time and keeping them on hand in case she shows up.
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« Reply #22612 on: July 31, 2013, 11:02:47 AM »
My niece and nephew no longer have the parties at grandma's house with some family and a few friends showing up.  Now that they are older, its just a few people, no friends at grandparents' place, a simple cake, go out to eat, and they may have a friend or 2 sleep over a night closest to their birthday at their parents' place.   I never really had a real party for my birthday as a kid as I had to share my cake with my grandma who has a birthday a week after mine, and I never had alone for many years.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22613 on: July 31, 2013, 11:15:46 AM »
I had a HUGE slice of lemon cake for my last birthday, actually... with coconut frosting!  *happily noms on virtual lemon cake*

Work SS from a couple of days ago:  Job candidate sends in her resume.  She looks good, so we call her for an interview.  She's from out of state, so we offer to do a Skype interview--which we've done, quite successfully, before.  She doesn't have Skype, so she suggests an in-person interview... OK, none of this is SS, so far...

But THEN she insists on being PAID for the interview!  Um, not happening.  My employer is a mom-and-pop company, not a Fortune 500 company with the budget to pay interviewees' travel expenses.

*arranges a close encounter with a cross-cut shredder for the SS's resume*
I had a request for a Skype interview once...I don't do Skype, either. But I was scrambling to create an account and find someone who could teach me Skype, and borrow a webcam. I mean, why announce to your potential employer that you lack the ability to learn new skills?

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22614 on: July 31, 2013, 11:19:25 AM »
... I never really had a real party for my birthday as a kid as I had to share my cake with my grandma who has a birthday a week after mine, and I never had alone for many years.

My birthday parties ended when I was 24 because my daughter was born on my birthday!  So I feel your pain.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22615 on: July 31, 2013, 11:20:44 AM »
I love planning parties for the kids.  I think it's so fun to have a theme.  But I do it at home, and they generally aren't too complicated.  Just... if the theme is doggies, there's a doggie cake, a doggie pinata, pin-the-tail-on-the-doggie, etc.  No actual doggies (as the birthday child was afraid of them--no idea why she wanted doggies as her theme, don't ask me!).  Of course, one kid now wants a mystery party as her next birthday party.  She's making plans already.  Her birthday is in January.  It's now July.  :)



My kids loved having piñatas at their parties.  That is always the thing they asked for.  One year money was super tight.  I took a card board box and thought "How can I make this into a piñata?"  My son, the animal lover, was thrilled with his "dog house" piñata.  For the non-creative, me, it was easy to do.  I cut out a picture of a dog from a magazine and glued it to the front of the dog house.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22616 on: July 31, 2013, 11:23:22 AM »
My sister gave her kids a choice- they could have a big party, but it would be their present from their parents. Alternately, they could get a big present from their parents, but there would only be a small family dinner with cake. She said that it cut the number of parties to one every 3 or 4 years, which she thought was quite do-able. And the parties were modest- for example, my niece, in junior high, had a dance on the family patio, which involved large quantities of snacks, and of course there was more running around in the yard playing games than actual dancing.  ::)

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« Reply #22617 on: July 31, 2013, 11:34:24 AM »
... I never really had a real party for my birthday as a kid as I had to share my cake with my grandma who has a birthday a week after mine, and I never had alone for many years.

My birthday parties ended when I was 24 because my daughter was born on my birthday!  So I feel your pain.
  :)

After my 25th birthday (which involved friends and I meeting for dinner, all of us paying for our own meals), I never really did birthday parties for myself.  On my 32nd birthday, I also thought, like you that no more birhtday parties for me was pretty much a done thing because my middle child was born on my birthday.  On my 40th birthday, my dh, sisters and parents threw me a very nice surprise birthday party.  So, you may still get birthday parties in your future!


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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22618 on: July 31, 2013, 01:32:04 PM »
... I never really had a real party for my birthday as a kid as I had to share my cake with my grandma who has a birthday a week after mine, and I never had alone for many years.

My birthday parties ended when I was 24 because my daughter was born on my birthday!  So I feel your pain.
  :)

After my 25th birthday (which involved friends and I meeting for dinner, all of us paying for our own meals), I never really did birthday parties for myself.  On my 32nd birthday, I also thought, like you that no more birhtday parties for me was pretty much a done thing because my middle child was born on my birthday.  On my 40th birthday, my dh, sisters and parents threw me a very nice surprise birthday party.  So, you may still get birthday parties in your future!

My entire family surprised me on my 50th birthday at my favorite French restaurant.  It was the best birthday ever (aside from my daughter being born the same day).  My husband and I tried to go away that weekend but a hurricaine was coming so we had to stay put.  I was pretty bummed out but that surprise party turned my mood right around!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22619 on: July 31, 2013, 02:56:27 PM »
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Rula Lenska (born Rosa Marie Lubienski, 30 September 1947) is an English actress. Best known for her work in the United Kingdom, she is remembered in the United States for a television advert that presented her as a celebrity, even though she was not widely known in the US at the time the advert was produced...in the late 1970s and early 1980s, Lenska became famous in the United States and Canada for her Alberto VO5 hair products commercials. The commercial began with a closeup of her stating, "I'm Rula Lenska." People assumed this was a product endorsement by a celebrity whose name the advertisers expected them to know—although, in North America, Lenska was virtually unknown prior to the VO5 ad campaign.

she was also married to dennis waterman (uk actor) and if you've ever watched little britain the take the mickey, it's the sketch where he wants to "write the theme tune, sing the theme tune", as most things he's been in over here he did at least sing the theme tune!

Yes, I was going to say that: I think she's far more famous for being married to Dennis Waterman than anything she ever did off her own back. She was all over the TV in the 80s here, yet I can't name one single thing she was in.

Which brings Dennis Waterman up as a SS himself - from a Telegraph article in 2012:
"Lenska, 64, divorced Waterman, also 64, in 1998 claiming he was a drunken wife-beater, an allegation he has always denied.
However, Waterman has now confessed that he slapped and punched the Polish-born actress on two occasions.
He said he felt “utterly ashamed” of his actions and that on one occasion he left her with a black eye after a drunken dispute.Despite the admission, the actor, famous for playing ex-boxer Terry McCann in the ITV drama Minder, insisted: “She certainly wasn’t a beaten wife, she was hit and that’s different."