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weeblewobble

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23580 on: September 22, 2013, 11:35:57 AM »
DH understands why the speaker didn't apologize, but thinks it might have been a nice gesture to placate the woman.  I said no.

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« Reply #23581 on: September 22, 2013, 11:41:46 AM »
DH understands why the speaker didn't apologize, but thinks it might have been a nice gesture to placate the woman.  I said no.
You are right - because if he apologized she is right and the group was wrong. That means she gets to do the same thing next time. She needs to be told that the meal was over and she was wrong to disturb the talk. If it happens again she should be told to leave instead of being allowed disturb the group.
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« Reply #23582 on: September 22, 2013, 01:56:27 PM »
DH understands why the speaker didn't apologize, but thinks it might have been a nice gesture to placate the woman.  I said no.

Even if the lady was owed an apology, it shouldn't be the speaker who would deliver it. He's the speaker, and not a member of the hosting organization, right? Any apology would come from the hosting organization via one of its officers.

And she wasn't owed an apology anyway.  The speaker wasn't interrupting anyone or hogging/preempting the mealtime with his speech.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23583 on: September 23, 2013, 06:51:03 AM »
DH understands why the speaker didn't apologize, but thinks it might have been a nice gesture to placate the woman.  I said no.

Why placate the woman? She was rude and disrupted a speech. Let her stew.

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« Reply #23584 on: September 23, 2013, 07:09:31 AM »
DH understands why the speaker didn't apologize, but thinks it might have been a nice gesture to placate the woman.  I said no.

I had a similar situation happen in which I did not apologize to placate someone. I think someone at the church eventually did, but my attitude was that heck no, it's not going to be me doing it.

I was a youth advisor and Youth Sunday was coming up in a few months. This is a service that is completely handled by the youth - US 6th through 12th grade. They choose who will do each piece, those people get to do what they want to do (write their own prayer, choose a bible verse, write the sermon, etc.) within the bounds of the church rules on what must take place in order for it to be a worship service.

This event was on both the youth calendar and Church calendar. It was stated in the youth newsletter (1990's snail mail that all the eligible kids in the church received), when the planning sessions were going to be held. As planning went on, the newsletter stated which areas still needed to be covered. By the day of the service, everything was in place and ready to go. Service was held, kids did great, everyone really enjoyed it - mostly because the services done by the kids usually end really, really early  :D

The next week, as I'm stopping in the church to check on something, I'm taken aside by one of the ministers. See, I need to call this one family and apologize. For what? I ask. Well, it seems that they were very upset and offended that their kids had not been personally invited to participate in the service. It wasn't enough that they received every single piece of information that all the other kids received. No, they wanted to be called and now were complaining and demanding that the youth staff apologize to them. Since I was the advisor that oversaw the service, that would come down to me.

I didn't  >:D

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« Reply #23585 on: September 23, 2013, 07:29:50 AM »
DH understands why the speaker didn't apologize, but thinks it might have been a nice gesture to placate the woman.  I said no.

I had a similar situation happen in which I did not apologize to placate someone. I think someone at the church eventually did, but my attitude was that heck no, it's not going to be me doing it.

I was a youth advisor and Youth Sunday was coming up in a few months. This is a service that is completely handled by the youth - US 6th through 12th grade. They choose who will do each piece, those people get to do what they want to do (write their own prayer, choose a bible verse, write the sermon, etc.) within the bounds of the church rules on what must take place in order for it to be a worship service.

This event was on both the youth calendar and Church calendar. It was stated in the youth newsletter (1990's snail mail that all the eligible kids in the church received), when the planning sessions were going to be held. As planning went on, the newsletter stated which areas still needed to be covered. By the day of the service, everything was in place and ready to go. Service was held, kids did great, everyone really enjoyed it - mostly because the services done by the kids usually end really, really early  :D

The next week, as I'm stopping in the church to check on something, I'm taken aside by one of the ministers. See, I need to call this one family and apologize. For what? I ask. Well, it seems that they were very upset and offended that their kids had not been personally invited to participate in the service. It wasn't enough that they received every single piece of information that all the other kids received. No, they wanted to be called and now were complaining and demanding that the youth staff apologize to them. Since I was the advisor that oversaw the service, that would come down to me.

I didn't  >:D

Good for you! I hate when people seem to think they need a special invitation, or their hand held through everything. I could only see you owing them an apology if it was just thorugh word of mouth, or phone calls, and they somehow slipped thorugh the cracks. but in  this case, sorry, you had all the info, so its up to you what you do with it. Or not.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23586 on: September 23, 2013, 09:06:14 AM »
Why give positive reinforcement for bad or SS behavior?

I call SS to my coworker who is always on the fad diet of the month and has now decided she needs to make smoothies three times a day, which require her to bring a blender in to our office. She does so, without closing the door to the break room, and the blender is loud. The blender has tripped the breaker each and every time as well.  ::)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23587 on: September 23, 2013, 09:51:31 AM »
Why give positive reinforcement for bad or SS behavior?

I call SS to my coworker who is always on the fad diet of the month and has now decided she needs to make smoothies three times a day, which require her to bring a blender in to our office. She does so, without closing the door to the break room, and the blender is loud. The blender has tripped the breaker each and every time as well.  ::)

What a showoff!  ::)

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23588 on: September 23, 2013, 11:52:34 AM »
Back to movies not appropriate for children.  Back in the 60s & 70s there was a theater in an affluent suburb famous for its Saturday afternoon kiddie matinees.  Every kid movie ever made showed there (to prove how low the bar was, they even showed Santa Claus VS the Martians).  Parents would slow down in front of the theater, toss their kids out along with money for tickets and popcorn, and speed away.

One weekend they were showing Tales of Beatrix Potter, which my family opted to see as it had excellent reviews.  There were signs everywhere: This Is a Ballet Film!  There Is NO DIALOGUE!  There is classical music and ballet.  The box office staff was grilling parents and refusing to sell to children under the age of ten who were not accompanied by a parent before they sold a ticket.

There were still some poor children whose parents must have said, Fine, fine, fine.  Roscoe loves ballet.

Fortunately for once, there were enough adults in the audience who demanded that children not scream or throw food.  Children were removed by ushers and phone calls made.

And it is a lovely film.
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« Reply #23589 on: September 23, 2013, 06:36:57 PM »
Only on page 1221 but I have a really weird one.  The SS who took my boyfriend's order at the pizza parlour down the street.  He ate there with friends but before he left he placed an order to bring home to wake me up with (grrr midnights!). He ordered my favorite:  onion and pineapple.  She told him she couldn't process his order.  Thinking he'd done something wrong, he asked why.  Her reply:  "Nobody likes that combination!  How about green peppers and onions instead?"  Bless his chivalrous heart, he wouldn't argue with a woman and just went along with it, knowing I like all veggies.  I just thought that was pretty darn presumptuous.  How does she know what I like?!
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« Reply #23590 on: September 24, 2013, 08:13:13 AM »
Only on page 1221 but I have a really weird one.  The SS who took my boyfriend's order at the pizza parlour down the street.  He ate there with friends but before he left he placed an order to bring home to wake me up with (grrr midnights!). He ordered my favorite:  onion and pineapple.  She told him she couldn't process his order.  Thinking he'd done something wrong, he asked why.  Her reply:  "Nobody likes that combination!  How about green peppers and onions instead?"  Bless his chivalrous heart, he wouldn't argue with a woman and just went along with it, knowing I like all veggies.  I just thought that was pretty darn presumptuous.  How does she know what I like?!

That would have prompted a call to the restaurant manager from me. Why is she deciding what someone likes or doesn't? I worked in a pizza place through high school and part of college. We got some orders for combinations that grossed me out on occasion. But, no one would have thought it was okay to tell the customer that they couldn't process the order because "nobody likes that combination."

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23591 on: September 24, 2013, 09:02:02 AM »
DH understands why the speaker didn't apologize, but thinks it might have been a nice gesture to placate the woman.  I said no.
You are right - because if he apologized she is right and the group was wrong. That means she gets to do the same thing next time. She needs to be told that the meal was over and she was wrong to disturb the talk. If it happens again she should be told to leave instead of being allowed disturb the group.

This.  Doors should be closed, allowing no entry during the speaker's part of the event. Once the speaker began, the meal part of the event was over and this woman shouldn't have been arriving, much less with such a commotion. She was the rude one.

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« Reply #23592 on: September 26, 2013, 12:06:05 AM »
I nominate the parents who are trying to sue Brian Holloway  ::) You can bet if I'd done with their kids did, my parents would've dragged me by the ear back down to his house to apologize and clean up. And then I would've gotten more punishments when I got home

http://www.nydailynews.com/sports/football/ex-nfl-star-face-lawsuits-parents-house-crashing-teens-article-1.1462008

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« Reply #23593 on: September 26, 2013, 12:25:43 AM »
I nominate the parents who are trying to sue Brian Holloway  ::) You can bet if I'd done with their kids did, my parents would've dragged me by the ear back down to his house to apologize and clean up. And then I would've gotten more punishments when I got home

http://www.nydailynews.com/sports/football/ex-nfl-star-face-lawsuits-parents-house-crashing-teens-article-1.1462008

I saw this story earlier and there's part of me that hopes, really hopes, that there is more to the story. Otherwise that would mean there are 299 parents who think that breaking into someone's house and vandalising it is okay, but saying "Here's a photo that you yourself posted of yourself vandalising my house" is not. And that would make me weep.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23594 on: September 26, 2013, 12:26:42 AM »
I've had 2 this week

First it was SS waiting room edition. I was at my OB's office and due to the nature of an OB's job it's not uncommon for him to run late. Generally he's pretty good but this week he lost a whole day of appointments and had squeezed 2 days worth into 1 day (he was working extra hours to help cover the extra though) so chances of him running late were greater than usual. His midwives (he had 2 instead of his usual 1 to help with the extra work) were running on time as always.

SS coming in for her appointment 10 mintues late and straight away asks if he is running on time. When the receptionist says there are a few women before her, she gets in a huff and declares she has to be back at work in an hour. Receptionist says midwives are on time so she'll be able to see them very soon and OB is working very quickly so the wait might not be too long. SS says she has to make a phone call to find out if this is acceptable and leaves the room.

A few minutes later the midwife calls for her and she's nowhere to be seen. I got to see OB when and when I come out she's still not reappeared and the midwife is calling her again. No idea if she ever came back or actually bothered to properly cancel her appointment. As it turned out she wouldn't have been too late, I saw OB only 15 mins after my appointment time and I was the booking before her!


Then there was SS illegal parker.

We have a row of permit parking spots for our daycare centre at work since parking can be an issue. These spots are all clearly marked and are angle parking on a one way section of the carpark. At one end of the row there is a gap which isn't a parking spot, it's only about 2/3rds the size of a standard spot.

SS parker decided they would park there. Somehow they managed to reverse into the spot which considering the angle and the one way road would have taken a lot of effort. They also had to fold in their side mirror in order to fit between the curb and the car in the actual spot next to it. They only got 3/4 of the way into the spot because if they went any further back they would have hit the other car's mirror.

The car they were next to was a parent fron daycare. The SS had completely blocked both passenger side doors which meant they had blocked access to the carseat for the child. Due to the side mirror issue that car couldn't back out of the spot either. So they would have been completely stuck until SS came back and moved their car or it got towed.

Someone must have objected to their parking because there was a note on their windshield, it was folded so I didn't get to see what it said!