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English1

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23595 on: September 26, 2013, 08:22:33 AM »
I couldn't believe this one...

A couple of friends got married. They had a terrible time deciding on the guest list (both large families and lots of friends) and who to invite all day, who to the reception, who they could not invite at all. It was a very formal event at a hotel so not possible to add last minute extra people.

His best friend from childhood was the best man. 2 weeks before wedding best man's girlfriend of a couple of months demanded to be invited to the wedding (she had not been on the scene when invitations were done, my friends have never met her, they'd only recently started dating...) and if she wasn't - he wouldn't be allowed to be best man!

They had no option to give in to the blackmail. A real friend of theirs had to be 'uninvited' from the wedding, took it in good grace and luckily they had a last minute drop out due to illness so they were able to re-invite him.

The story went round the whole wedding and I'm surprised she didn't fizzle up and burst into flames from all the looks she was getting. And we all wondered why on earth best man didn't dump this special snowflake as soon as she showed what sort of awful person she was...
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« Reply #23596 on: September 26, 2013, 08:39:27 AM »
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and if she wasn't - he wouldn't be allowed to be best man!

Wow, why would anybody put up with that type of behavior especially from someone they had only been seeing a couple of months?  I just don't get it!

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« Reply #23597 on: September 26, 2013, 09:26:55 AM »
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and if she wasn't - he wouldn't be allowed to be best man!

Wow, why would anybody put up with that type of behavior especially from someone they had only been seeing a couple of months?  I just don't get it!

Frankly, I would have pushed back on the best man. "Sorry, dude, but she's not getting an invitation. If you are going to put her tantrum over being in our wedding, then we'll miss you, but understand."
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23598 on: September 26, 2013, 09:40:12 AM »
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and if she wasn't - he wouldn't be allowed to be best man!

Wow, why would anybody put up with that type of behavior especially from someone they had only been seeing a couple of months?  I just don't get it!

Frankly, I would have pushed back on the best man. "Sorry, dude, but she's not getting an invitation. If you are going to put her tantrum over being in our wedding, then we'll miss you, but understand."

She could not possibly have provided a more obvious warning that she is a total control freak.  The Best Man, upon hearing her ultimatum, should have run like the wind!!

And if he didn't have the spine to tell her that yes, he indeed WAS going to be the Best Man, then I agree with Art that he should have been the one dropped from the wedding party and perhaps the guy who WAS initially dropped should have stepped in to take his place.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23599 on: September 27, 2013, 07:09:12 AM »
I think your friends mishandled it, honestly, by throwing out someone else to accommodate a woman like that. If he was willing to go along with the blackmail, then he was as rude, and guilty, as she was.

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« Reply #23600 on: September 27, 2013, 08:38:21 AM »
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and if she wasn't - he wouldn't be allowed to be best man!

Wow, why would anybody put up with that type of behavior especially from someone they had only been seeing a couple of months?  I just don't get it!

Frankly, I would have pushed back on the best man. "Sorry, dude, but she's not getting an invitation. If you are going to put her tantrum over being in our wedding, then we'll miss you, but understand."

She could not possibly have provided a more obvious warning that she is a total control freak.  The Best Man, upon hearing her ultimatum, should have run like the wind!!

And if he didn't have the spine to tell her that yes, he indeed WAS going to be the Best Man, then I agree with Art that he should have been the one dropped from the wedding party and perhaps the guy who WAS initially dropped should have stepped in to take his place.

I think we're all operating under the assumption that the Best Man knew she was going to make this threat. If I were the couple, I would have as quickly and politely as possible gotten off the phone with Crazy and immediately called Best Man to ask him if he was aware of what was going on. Because he 1) might not have known about the ultimatum, 2) not agreed with ultimatum if she had brought it up and didn't realize she was moving forward with it, and 3) it then prevents her from then turning around and complaining to Best Man that the couple were SO MEAN to her and she didn't understand WHY.

Forget the control freak nature, this raises red flags to me of beginning to try to isolate Best Man from his friends. Does the OP know if Best Man stayed with her after this?

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23601 on: September 27, 2013, 08:45:07 AM »
Don't drive on the roadside:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6kOVRddGFm0&feature=youtu.be


Mean Jayhawk kinda wishes the camera had shown the driver's expression as they drove by.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23602 on: September 27, 2013, 10:56:16 AM »
That may be the BEST immediate karmic payback I have ever seen!  >:D



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« Reply #23603 on: September 27, 2013, 11:18:51 AM »
I laughed and laughed in my office while watching it, then posted it on my facebook page!
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23604 on: September 27, 2013, 11:21:55 AM »
Don't drive on the roadside:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6kOVRddGFm0&feature=youtu.be


Mean Jayhawk kinda wishes the camera had shown the driver's expression as they drove by.

I was really hoping the camera would pan over to the driver, too. Oh, man. That is awesome.

mmswm

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« Reply #23605 on: September 27, 2013, 11:47:15 AM »
I can waste days of my time watching dash cam videos from Russian truckers.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23606 on: September 27, 2013, 03:02:35 PM »
I can waste days of my time watching dash cam videos from Russian truckers.

It's possibly their most valuable export.  A lot of people would give their families for that much gold.  :D
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23607 on: September 27, 2013, 03:20:49 PM »
Don't drive on the roadside:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6kOVRddGFm0&feature=youtu.be


Mean Jayhawk kinda wishes the camera had shown the driver's expression as they drove by.

That one reminds me of a karmic payback I once saw.  Back when I worked at a military hospital I had to drive past a prison on my way to get to work.  There was a large sign in front of the prison, and the local motorcycle officers liked to hide there in the mornings.  Well, one morning a motorcyclist decided to pass the long string of cars on their way to the military base on the right - and was promptly stopped by that morning's motorcycle officer who had been hiding behind the prison's sign and saw what was happening. 

Another morning someone in a VW Bug tried the same thing - and also got collared by the motorcycle officer hiding behind the prison's sign.  Except for these two there were remarkably few instances of drivers being pulled over on that particular stretch of road - probably because everyone who drove it regularly knew there were motorcycle officers hiding behind the sign.

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« Reply #23608 on: September 28, 2013, 03:55:35 PM »
Reminds me of an event when I was driving to work years ago. This was on a stretch of rural highway, a nice new highway that tempted one to hurry along.  ::) It had a few overpasses. One day, I was warned by a co-worker whose husband was a deputy sheriff that I should keep a very particular eye on my speed for the next few days, and I'd see why, on my way in.
The local law enforcement entities (highway patrol and sheriff's office) had just about every patrol car in the jurisdiction parked on the uphill slope past the overpass. On the overpass was an officer with a radar gun, and overhead was the spotter airplane. The airplane radioed in about people who were speeding 3-4 miles before the speed trap, the officer on the bridge confirmed the speeders, and the rest of the officers were just peeling off the overpass and chasing them down. All the speeders who giggled to see the first speeder get tagged, then carried on their merry way, were stunned to discover there were enough officers there to catch them all.
And it went on day after day after day. I never got tired of watching people blow past me, then catching up with them in a long line of traffic stops.

mmswm

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23609 on: September 28, 2013, 04:40:50 PM »
Reminds me of an event when I was driving to work years ago. This was on a stretch of rural highway, a nice new highway that tempted one to hurry along.  ::) It had a few overpasses. One day, I was warned by a co-worker whose husband was a deputy sheriff that I should keep a very particular eye on my speed for the next few days, and I'd see why, on my way in.
The local law enforcement entities (highway patrol and sheriff's office) had just about every patrol car in the jurisdiction parked on the uphill slope past the overpass. On the overpass was an officer with a radar gun, and overhead was the spotter airplane. The airplane radioed in about people who were speeding 3-4 miles before the speed trap, the officer on the bridge confirmed the speeders, and the rest of the officers were just peeling off the overpass and chasing them down. All the speeders who giggled to see the first speeder get tagged, then carried on their merry way, were stunned to discover there were enough officers there to catch them all.
And it went on day after day after day. I never got tired of watching people blow past me, then catching up with them in a long line of traffic stops.

This has been a pretty common tactic in my county for years. Still makes me giggle even though I've seen it hundreds of times.
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