YarnSpinner, if the husband had said that to me, I would have laughed merrily, thinking he was joking. What. A. Tool.
That reminds me of a guy I used to work with. His wife was a SAHM. He took a few days off work because he had a cold, and when he got back to work, he said indignantly "My wife actually expected me to to do some chores while I was home, instead of letting me focus on getting better." I said "Not that I don't sympathize, but think of it from her perspective. What about when SHE gets sick? With three little kids at home, she probably isn't allowed to just focus on getting better either." He just stared at me uncomprehendingly. "But ... that's her JOB."