I nominate the people who came to look at our house last night. please tell me if you think I am being over sensitive because I was instantly annoyed by them. I think its rude for them to walk in to my home without knocking.
We rent and are moving, so perspective new tenants came round at about 5.
The first people to come were nice and while they were upstairs with the estate agent (EA) in walks SS family of 5.
Now I say walks in because they did not knock. I know this because I was stood by the front door for a good 10 Mins before they let them selves in, they were early as well. (in my experience of renting in the UK you wait out side for the EA to come let you in. You don't even knock until the EA is there.)
When they saw me they told me they were here for a viewing and then stood expectantly.
I explained that EA was upstairs and they could come in (although they already were.) and they come in to the living room so I give a quick run down of what comes with the house etc.
They had two kids with them of maybe 9-10 and the boy immediately starts fiddling with everything he sees.
He ask if he can go upstairs even though the adults were not finished looking round down stairs (the only reason he asked was there was a baby gate and he was clearly trying to open it before he asked) I said he needed to wait for the other people to finish upstairs and then EA would show them round. He plays with ornaments and anything within reach Including trying to unscrew a bolt from one of the baby gates. I asked him not to do that in the hope one of the adults would take note and tell him not to touch.
When EA finally takes them upstairs I can hear the rocking chair go like the clappers (when I go up a lot of Boos toys have been messed with).
Then on the way down stairs the little girl decides to rub and prod at an oil painting on the wall. I asked her not to touch the painting as she will damage it.
They then all stand and have a 20 minuet chat in my hall stopping me for leaving my living room and stopping me making dinner.
To top it off as they are leaving the boy is going through all Boo's toys and I ask him jokingly if he is staying with us because the adults have left and he is still there.
aghh! They were treating it like a show home, but its not, it's still my home. With three adults you would think one of them could have kept half an eye on the kids and not let them paw over other peoples things.
Don't get me wrong I had put most brick-a-brack away but I should not have to put every single thing I own in to storage for what should be a five minuet walk round. Maybe this bit is just me but they were also opening all the cupboards under the stairs the kitchen cupboards and the airing cupboard as well.
had the kids been younger I wouldn't have a problem with them homing on and playing with Boos toys while they looked but they were old enough to know better, and even saying that the adults should have stopped them messing with ornaments and things that were clearly not toys. (this is stuff is out of reach of my 18MO and the only reason they could mess with it was because they were older) I mean who thinks it's ok to poke and prod a painting.
N.B they said they were from Ghana(I think thats what they said) so perhaps I am over reacting and it's just a cultural thing.
I don't think that you would have been at all rude if you had told the parents and the EA to make the children stop touching things and for the children to stay right beside the adults. If the children still wandered you could have asked the parents to each hold one of them by the hand, or to carry them. This is still your home, since you have paid the rent, and no one has the right to play with or touch your possessions. If any more children are brought along I think that you are within your rights to politely tell them at the door that the children need to stay with their parents, and that they cannot touch things.
As I reread the last sentence I think that it sounds a bit rude to assume that other children are also "touchers." However, I still think that having the rules stated upfront would be beneficial.
You are kinder than I am - I wouldn't want little hands that are likely unclean to touch my child's toys. After all, these are not social visits.