I am telling on myself as a special snowflake today.
My wife bought some Egyptian cotton sheets a few years ago. She assures me that they become more comfortable the more you use them.
I hate them. They feel like sleeping on 120 grit sandpaper while you are slowly sliding downhill. It's not relaxing. I toss and turn all night long.
I try, however, to remember that sometime in the future they will become as comfortable as other sheets are right after you buy them and that in order for that to happen we have to use them.
This morning, I was trying to say: "Oh, are those the Egyptian cotton sheets on the bed?"
Unfortunately, what came out was: "Oh, are those the sheets that might get comfortable in a few more years?" I blame the lack of sleep and coffee.
I don't think you're being a special snowflake. I love nice sheets and there's no way I'd put up with bad ones for years without saying anything. You may want to work on your early morning tact, though
I really don't think it should take *years* for cotton to soften up!
I typically buy 1200 count or better Egyptian cotton sheets. They are easy to soften if you know how. Some manufacturers coat them with stain resistant gunk and lots of starch to make them look pretty in the package...the extra stiffness can also be because they are vat dyed.
Wash them in cool or warm water if you must, do not use hot as it can actually burn the fiber tips. Use a very small amount of detergent (maybe 1/4 of what you normally would), 1 cup of baking soda and NO fabric softener and NO bleach (bleach will damage the fibers and fabric softener/dryer sheets CLOG the fibers them making them hot and uncomfortable). Use a full cup of white vinegar in the rinse.
Dry on low setting, do not use fabric sheets.