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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24015 on: October 24, 2013, 03:42:48 PM »
It's a fine line between not stifling this little girl's exuberance and maintaining order for the rest of the class.  Maybe she'd be better served in a class that was more about individual movement than choreography, so that she could do her own thing without distracting the others.  She was very cute but I relate to her neighbor on the end of the line, sticking to the plan and doggedly ignoring the improv going on next to her! I have not a creative bone in my body but give me a pattern and I can follow it to the T.

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« Reply #24016 on: October 24, 2013, 03:46:05 PM »
Yesterday, a patron who is always flamboyant and usually a delight to help, wore a T-Shirt that had a truly outrageous, crude and rude message of a carnal nature.  I mean, it was offensive!  In what was not my best moment of judgment, I suggested that he consider wearing something a lot less offensive the next time he was in.

Next thing I know, he is demanding my supervisor's address, wants to talk to Stonecold (if you can find her, be my guest), is getting his lawyer involved and so forth.  My supervisor and I finally spoke to him together and I apologized profusely (which really made me mad as all get out, but it seemed the right thing to do) and ultimately, he and I ended up laughing over it.

What made it a snowflake moment for me is that he flat out admitted he had worn it to tick people off. 

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« Reply #24017 on: October 24, 2013, 04:29:58 PM »
What made it a snowflake moment for me is that he flat out admitted he had worn it to tick people off.
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« Reply #24018 on: October 24, 2013, 04:39:42 PM »
Let me introduce Mr. ICanParkMyMotorcycleAnywhereIWantus:  I live in Waikiki.  Parking is always difficult unless you own your own parking stall (which we do).  This morning I took our dog out to pee in the designated pee spot.  There was a motorcycle parked on the sidewalk in front of my condo.  Not a bicycle, not even a moped.  A full sized motorcycle.  It wasn't in my way, but it is illegal to park a motorcycle on the sidewalk.  Bicycles, mopeds, skateboards, roller skates, and Segways are not allowed on the sidewalks in Waikiki.  Sidewalks are just for people.  They are that crowded.

I asked our building security guard what the motorcycle was doing on the sidewalk.  He said, "I don't know; It was there when I came on shift."  I said, "It is still parked illegally."  It is the security guard's job to take care of these matters.  When I left to catch my bus over an hour later the motorcycle was still on the sidewalk ... not doing much, just parked illegally. >:(
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24019 on: October 24, 2013, 04:50:24 PM »
I'm not sure any teacher of 3 year olds expects them to follow choreography very well.

I haven't seen the video, but it sounds like she's too young to have any malicious intent. Hopefully she will gain more grace in all areas of her life as she matures.
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« Reply #24020 on: October 24, 2013, 04:54:02 PM »
I'm not sure any teacher of 3 year olds expects them to follow choreography very well.

I haven't seen the video, but it sounds like she's too young to have any malicious intent. Hopefully she will gain more grace in all areas of her life as she matures.

She absolutely has no malicious intent, she's just having fun.  And of course no one expects much in the way of performance out of 3 year olds, but this little girl is all over the place, and at one point is waving her hands in the face of the girl next to her...like 'Hey, lookit me!'  So she was  making it  hard for the girls on either side of her, who actually were kind of following the moves, to do their 'step turn step'.

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« Reply #24021 on: October 24, 2013, 05:02:02 PM »
I know obviously the little girl didn't mean badly - it's hard to follow choreography at the age of 3. But I just feel, maybe if the dance teacher knew that particular girl had trouble following the routine, they could have placed her at the end? Then she wouldn't have confused the other little girl who was on the end, who really was trying her best to follow the others.
True, the girl who didn't follow the routine was pretty cute, and was most likely enjoying herself. But I just spent the video feeling so sorry for the little girl on the end. I'm not saying the other girl should stop dancing (especially if she enjoys it), but maybe find a class/method/form of dance where she isn't distracting someone else, or almost bumping into them?

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« Reply #24022 on: October 24, 2013, 05:25:28 PM »
It reminds me of our annual skating carnival in my home town.  The littlest ones would practice a choreographed routine prior to the carnival and they would start out doing their routine.  But then someone would turn on the bubble machine positioned above the ice and then they'd all gather under it, trying to pop the bubbles.  It was the cutest thing.  One year, the 'leader' (she was the tallest so she was at the front of the line) carried on doing the routine while all the little ones behind her went to the bubbles.  That was even cuter.
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« Reply #24023 on: October 24, 2013, 05:34:41 PM »
I wonder what she's like in class.  Does she always go off and do her own thing?  Does her teacher have to spend a large percentage of class time keeping her with the group?  Maybe she's just not quite ready for group activities yet.

I saw this on the news and thought "Oh good grief, that girl would have caused my DD to quit dance class." 

My DD was a perfectionist even at 3 and having someone not follow the choreographed routine would have driven her nuts. I hope the instructor can reign in the girl without breaking her spirit.

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« Reply #24024 on: October 24, 2013, 05:48:16 PM »
This video is all over the internet currently:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=ab9M_St6bPk

Almost all the comments abut the little girl are positive: about her enthusiasm, cuteness, and show-stealingness.

Honestly, I feel sorry for all the other girls who were trying to stick to their routine.  Especially that girl on the end, she was just about isolated out there and was really doing well, despite the disruption.

They're toddlers, darn it! They're all fairly clueless, and what they've been "trained" to perform is way above their ability to understand or absorb in any useful way. The little "overperformer" is barely able to contain herself because that's the way kids that age are.

I'd watch it again but I can't find a couple of pencils to stick in my eyes.
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« Reply #24025 on: October 24, 2013, 06:04:39 PM »
I was honestly kind of distracted by the little girl on the very end to pay attention to the one I was supposed to pay attention to. She was so cute, trying to follow her choreography (it looked like they might have been following an instructor in the audience), watching the other girls, and she'd look so proud when she got it!

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« Reply #24026 on: October 24, 2013, 06:14:06 PM »
It brings to mind the Christmas concerts my old secondary school choirs did (and do). (More than one choir - there's a junior choir, senior choir, junior and senior special choirs, chapel choir, etc. All in one school, with some students in more than one choir.) Now, I'm talking a staged performance in the local theatre venue, with maybe 500 students in the choir. Lots of trooping on and off, and up and down, the stepped seating (think almost amphitheatre style seating on a stage), for different choirs doing different songs, orchestras and other instrumental groups coming on and off for their performances, Head Girl making a speech, etc.
In order to be in the concert, you had to attend the rehearsals. And I mean had to. And if you weren't at the dress rehearsal on the day of the concert, you simply couldn't be in the concert.

Some of the parents of the Year 7 (12-year-old) students, who had just moved up from primary school, couldn't understand why their child couldn't be in the concert if they couldn't be at the rehearsal that day. It had to be explained to them, that this wasn't like primary school, where you could just plonk them on stage in the school hall. This was effectively a military operation - everyone had to know what they were doing at any given time, or the whole thing would have looked a mess. With a minimum of 500 students in the choir, plus the orchestras and other musicians, plus stage crew, and everyone else who needed to be there, it was also a safety issue; nobody had time to baby-sit someone who didn't know what they were doing, where they were going, etc.
There is a huge difference between
-going to choir practice at school and learning the carols off by heart, and....

-also going to the dress rehearsal in the actual auditorium in town on the day of the concert
-knowing all the carols off by heart
-knowing where you stand in which line to come on and off stage
-which entrance you're coming on from, and off by
-which staircase to go up and down
-knowing the order in which everything happens (eg which carols are 1st, 2nd, 3rd, then the special senior choir, then the orchestra, then the head girl makes a speech, then the entire choir sings carol x, then the flute ensemble perform, then the special juniors come down to the front of the stage for carol z, then the orchestra comes back again... etc etc etc.)
-knowing when to use which prop in which carol (this is told, but not actually rehearsed in school)
-teachers assisting the choir mistress, saying whether or not x carol could be heard from the very back of the (large) auditorium, and so would need to be sung louder/quieter
- last-minute changes to routines, timings, props, actions, program scheduling, costume changes, etc etc.
-also, the fact that seating was sorted out at the rehearsals. We were all practically squished into the pews; there simply wasn't room in the actual concert for anyone who hadn't been in the dress rehearsal.

All of this isn't just the sort of thing you could pick up on the night. So however unfair it seems to the parents, if the child hasn't been to the dress rehearsal (along with other rehearsals), they can't be in the concert.

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« Reply #24027 on: October 24, 2013, 06:24:39 PM »
And honestly...who cares? Are peoples lives that uninteresting that they're upset with how they think people think about them? I wish I had that few problems.

High school students everywhere would beg to differ.  It's nice to look back now and know I have the self-confidence that I don't care about the kind of things my peers said and did then, but it's a rare high school student who can truly not be bothered even a little bit.  The girl who wrote the article isn't that much older than high school, and I can completely understand assuming a dirty look is accompanied by judgemental thoughts - especially if you're often in situations where those judgemental thoughts are frequently expressed aloud.
But she went to a private school and a private university, were while people may have judge about money but it wasn't likely to be "oh look at daddies little rich girl" type judgements. If she cited more examples I might have felt more for her as it stands she seems snotty and snobbish.   Coming to the conclusion that a cashier in a grocery store was rude because of your high end shopping bag since you must just be spending daddy money is bizarrely self important.  It's really hard to tell the difference just by looking from a $600 wrinkled  white T shirt and a $20 one. Unless she's always walking around with shopping bags why would anyone think she was rich?

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« Reply #24028 on: October 24, 2013, 06:32:54 PM »
Anyone else struck by the poor little rich girl's rant where she says "I ate McDonald's on the weekend"... going out to eat, even fast food, was WAY too expensive for our family.  It took me a second to catch on that she was referring to eating at McDonald's to mean she was POOR.

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« Reply #24029 on: October 24, 2013, 10:27:03 PM »
This video is all over the internet currently:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=ab9M_St6bPk

Almost all the comments abut the little girl are positive: about her enthusiasm, cuteness, and show-stealingness.

Honestly, I feel sorry for all the other girls who were trying to stick to their routine.  Especially that girl on the end, she was just about isolated out there and was really doing well, despite the disruption.


I have attended most of my niece's dance recitals and I have to say, this is perfectly normal.

There is always at least one kid (or more) with flair. There is always at least one kid who stands still and gapes at the audience, despite the best efforts of their class and the helpers to push them along. And there are all the kids in between, who sometimes get the routine and sometimes get distracted by their neighbour, the clapping, the lights, etc. You don't really see everyone dancing the exact same steps until the higher grades. Even then, there are still people who dance noticeably better than others.

The only thing the teachers ever suggested ( that I know of) was skipping the child ahead to a higher grade level or having private lessons at a higher level, because sometimes they were bored with the baby steps that their peers were doing.
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