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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24360 on: November 11, 2013, 08:13:39 PM »
Oh, I definitely agree that they should have been called on their behavior.  However, the manager doesn't get to decide how much anyone tips unless he institutes an automatic gratuity, or he can deny service I suppose.

Really not condoning the no tipping either, just how I feel.  After all tipping is not law and cannot be enforced.  I do tip and feel that waitress should have gotten a hefty one.  Anyway, I won't comment more on this.   :)

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« Reply #24361 on: November 11, 2013, 08:21:55 PM »
...   Anyway, I won't comment more on this.   :)

Okay.  Then I will.   :D

If this was an event where the kids were accompanied by coaches or other adults affiliated with the school, then yes, I'd definitely think the school should be notified of what happened there.  The coaches should have been responsible for seeing to it that an appropriate tip was left.  It's an important lesson for the kids they're supervising. 

The only excuse I can possibly think of is that maybe they assumed without looking carefully at the bill that there was an automatic gratuity (for groups of more than x number) already added into the total, so they didn't feel the need to leave more.  The $1 tip that was left may have been left by a kid whose Mom told him he needed to leave a tip.

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« Reply #24362 on: November 11, 2013, 08:49:04 PM »
The restaurant should call the school if their behavior, while in a uniform identifying the school was unacceptable, but for not tipping?  The school has nothing to do with that as it is not a behavior thing, it is a business thing and kids don't understand tipping.  My 18 yr old DD will still call me and ask how much she should tip when she is out.  As far as the poster calling to complain, no, I don't think she should simply because she was not there, did not see the actions (is only getting second hand info), wouldn't be able to identify any of the kids...nothing that would be helpful.  It would be like me calling our school after the neighbor told me about deplorable behavior of the students at a football game..I wasn't there so I can't say what actually happened other than what I was told by another so the school would not really take me seriously.  Only first hand witnesses will be of any use.

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« Reply #24363 on: November 11, 2013, 09:28:51 PM »
I was at a fast food restaurant later one evening when a group of about 12 teens came in, all wearing identifiable team shirts.  The two adults sat in a different section and when it was time to go, they simply hollared over to the youth.   The kids got up with nary a hint of cleaning up the smeared ketchup, wrappings, and trash.  They left a MESS!!

I called the school to report what a black eye the members had so obviously left. 

I was thanked, and have not seen such a mess ever left again.  Admittedly, have not seen that same team, but I have seen other teams from that same school, and all was nice and well.

so, so not know if my call mattered, but I like to think it did.

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« Reply #24364 on: November 11, 2013, 10:57:23 PM »
A very annoying SS waitress at a restaurant today. She kept trying to bait customers in the most random ways, so that she could share "I have a (specific model) motorcycle. I race. It's parked out back." Seriously, every.single.table. She actually trotted over to some frat boys and asked "My friends and I are having a debate. What do you consider manly to be ?....Yeah, beards are manly, I agree. I don't have one, but I ride motorcycles. I guess that makes me a dude without a beard lol I race them. Mine is parked out back. (cue long story about the waitress' boyfriend and her motorcycle hobby)." It was like that episode of the Big Bang Theory where Howard kept bringing up "I went to space." The bike she had actually wasn't that impressive. Evil me was tempted to leave a note on the seat saying "lol @ you bragging about this piece of junk. Lame. I've seen cooler tricycles"  >:D

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« Reply #24365 on: November 11, 2013, 11:03:43 PM »
That waitress does sound annoying, TeamBhakta!

I definitely agree.  Calling the school about the kids' behavior was definitely the right thing to do.  (Okay, sorry, one more comment.  :) )

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« Reply #24366 on: November 11, 2013, 11:34:24 PM »
Many seniors often went to a Ninfa's for lunch. They started getting rowdy and drunk.

Well, that is because Ninfaritas are pure, irresistible, yummy works of the devil.  The kids were powerless in the face of such temptation.

I do not miss much about those years in my life, but I do miss Ninfaritas.

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« Reply #24367 on: November 12, 2013, 12:17:18 PM »
My husband went today and talked to the neighbors about the missing dog. Apparently it was the neighbor's adult son who came down and was being awful to mom about the dog. DH informed the neighbor that Mom is 95 lbs and terminally ill. She can't handle a large, energetic breed of dog like a husky. She can barely manage her small dogs. He said the neighbor had no idea his son had talked to Mom like that, and the neighbor apologized on his son's behalf and said he would talk to him about it.

So hopefully that is the end of it.

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« Reply #24368 on: November 12, 2013, 01:14:58 PM »
Many seniors often went to a Ninfa's for lunch. They started getting rowdy and drunk.

Well, that is because Ninfaritas are pure, irresistible, yummy works of the devil.  The kids were powerless in the face of such temptation.

I do not miss much about those years in my life, but I do miss Ninfaritas.

This made me think of a time when I was the SS.

In my early 20's (late 80s) I was working for a smallish company who was holding an open house for our customers. I suggested Ninfa's for catering and the boss turned everything over to me. When I placed the order I was given the option of either frozen Ninfarita's or regular frozen margaritas. For those unfamiliar, a Ninfarita had not only tequila but a small amount of Everclear. I knew this, but I figured what the heck I love Ninfaritas. I as the person placing the order knew to take it easy with the frozen treats. I didn't think to share this information with our guests or other staff.

The Marketing Manager pulled me asside after an hour concerned that it was apparent several of our clients and the staff were getting smashed. He was not overly thrilled with me, to say the least. He shut down the margarita machine and started pumping lots of fluids and food into the guests and had to stop several from driving. Several people were driven home, others remained for hours and hours after the planned ending time. And many employees didn't make it to work the next day.

The company never held another open house again. But I learned a good lesson about catering.

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« Reply #24369 on: November 12, 2013, 01:28:59 PM »
I nominate my Dad based on a recent conversation we had. 

Dad:   Oh by the way you know cousin Mike is getting married next year
Me:     Yes I heard, but I also heard we're not invited
Dad:   What?
Me:     Yes I may be wrong but <Mike's sister> told <my sister> that they're just doing something small so not including all of the cousins etc
Dad:   Oh that's a shame.   I wonder if it's about money?    I should call them and offer to pay for all of our plates. 
Me:     I'm not sure if that's a good idea, they've probably already picked their venue so it might have a limit on headcount.

In his defense, he is a little bit wealthier than his relatives so does pay for things from time to time, for example taking Mike's parents (his sister and her husband) on vacation with him etc, which they appreciate, so from his perspective if it's a simple matter of finance then he should be able to fix it.     But given Mike and his fiance have probably agreed on who they want to attend their wedding - most like in consultation with Mike's fiance's family who she is very close to - I don't think calling and insisting that they should invite our whole family is reasonable, particularly given we don't know the actual situation e.g. who is going to be invited and the size of the wedding.    Did I mention that I have several siblings, plus our spouses and children, so inviting us isn't just an extra couple, we're talking about an extra 15 people!    :)


At least he was going to offer to pay, instead of saying "Oh, they won't mind a few more people!"

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24370 on: November 12, 2013, 05:01:39 PM »
I nominate my Dad based on a recent conversation we had. 

Dad:   Oh by the way you know cousin Mike is getting married next year
Me:     Yes I heard, but I also heard we're not invited
Dad:   What?
Me:     Yes I may be wrong but <Mike's sister> told <my sister> that they're just doing something small so not including all of the cousins etc
Dad:   Oh that's a shame.   I wonder if it's about money?    I should call them and offer to pay for all of our plates. 
Me:     I'm not sure if that's a good idea, they've probably already picked their venue so it might have a limit on headcount.

In his defense, he is a little bit wealthier than his relatives so does pay for things from time to time, for example taking Mike's parents (his sister and her husband) on vacation with him etc, which they appreciate, so from his perspective if it's a simple matter of finance then he should be able to fix it.     But given Mike and his fiance have probably agreed on who they want to attend their wedding - most like in consultation with Mike's fiance's family who she is very close to - I don't think calling and insisting that they should invite our whole family is reasonable, particularly given we don't know the actual situation e.g. who is going to be invited and the size of the wedding.    Did I mention that I have several siblings, plus our spouses and children, so inviting us isn't just an extra couple, we're talking about an extra 15 people!    :)


At least he was going to offer to pay, instead of saying "Oh, they won't mind a few more people!"

Yes that's true!   The thing with my Dad is he's very much of the "doesn't hurt to ask" mindset.    A lot of people when they first meet him think he's arrogant, but I'd describe it more as cheeky with a touch of the opportunistic.     So from his perspective it's a simple problem solving exercise - I want my whole family to be there, they can't afford to invite us, I'll give them money.     He just didn't stop to think through the complexity of wedding planning and all of the social implications. 
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24371 on: November 13, 2013, 06:46:45 AM »
Quote from: Hmmmmm
This made me think of a time when I was the SS.

In my early 20's (late 80s) I was working for a smallish company who was holding an open house for our customers. I suggested Ninfa's for catering and the boss turned everything over to me. When I placed the order I was given the option of either frozen Ninfarita's or regular frozen margaritas. For those unfamiliar, a Ninfarita had not only tequila but a small amount of Everclear. I knew this, but I figured what the heck I love Ninfaritas. I as the person placing the order knew to take it easy with the frozen treats. I didn't think to share this information with our guests or other staff.

The Marketing Manager pulled me asside after an hour concerned that it was apparent several of our clients and the staff were getting smashed. He was not overly thrilled with me, to say the least. He shut down the margarita machine and started pumping lots of fluids and food into the guests and had to stop several from driving. Several people were driven home, others remained for hours and hours after the planned ending time. And many employees didn't make it to work the next day.

The company never held another open house again. But I learned a good lesson about catering.

That's not being a special snowflake, that's just inexperience. It only would've been special snowflakery if you'd thought, "Well, there's a lot of alcohol in here, but I like it, so to heck with anyone else."

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« Reply #24372 on: November 13, 2013, 03:00:22 PM »
I'm reporting my oldest sister.

Relevant BG on my sister: She's very dramatic, loves to air out her dirty laundry in public, twists the truth around, flat out lies, etc.  /BG

Our cousin got married this Summer.  A few months prior to the wedding, my Oldestsis found out that invitations had gone out, and she hadn't received one.  Cue public flip out on Facebook.  She was so HURT!  She didn't understand why cousin was so MEAN to her!  I mean, she had invited cousin to HER wedding!  Why didn't cousin want my sister to share in her happy day???

First, sister's wedding was in 1993, when cousin was 10 years old.  Second, sister didn't pay for her wedding; my parents did.  Cousin and her fiance are paying for the wedding themselves.  Third, sister got married in a tiny town where prices were MUCH smaller.  Cousin got married in Toronto, Ontario=HUGE overpriced city.  And did I mention the HUGE family?  That's just on her mother's side!  The guest list also had to include the equally large family on her father's side, her fiance's family and their close friends.  The line had to be drawn somewhere.

Knowing cousin, she must have physically felt every cut to the guest list that she had to make.  My twin sister and I were appalled, embarrassed and ashamed by our older sister's behavior.  We weren't invited to the wedding either, but completely understood why!  We both contacted our cousin and let her know as much: she's not made of money, our family is huge, and we knew she would have invited everyone if she could have.  Twinsis and I made it clear that we absolutely did not share Oldersis's sentiments.  Poor kid needed to hear it!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24373 on: November 14, 2013, 06:00:34 PM »
A waitress and former marine was refused a tip on religious grounds.

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/new-jersey-waitress-dayne-morales-denied-tip-because-of-gay-lifestyle/story-fnixwvgh-1226760859617

Don't these people realize that acting rude in this way doesn't help or convince anyone? I don't think religion us enough of an excuse to be rude. And it's not the first time it happened.

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« Reply #24374 on: November 14, 2013, 07:28:15 PM »
A waitress and former marine was refused a tip on religious grounds.

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/new-jersey-waitress-dayne-morales-denied-tip-because-of-gay-lifestyle/story-fnixwvgh-1226760859617

Don't these people realize that acting rude in this way doesn't help or convince anyone? I don't think religion us enough of an excuse to be rude. And it's not the first time it happened.


How would they even know if she was g@y or not? Just because she had short hair? *SMH* And how does that have anything to do with her waiting on them... if she was g@y did it make her slower or something?

I wish people would just worry more about improving themselves, helping others and improving the world vs wondering and worrying about other people's sexual choices/family decisions/mores and ideals/lives.
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