I don't know if I was the snowflake or not. I'd like to believe that I wasn't, but I'm not that sure anymore.
I got on a very full bus today, but didn't want to wait another hour so I got in anyway. After a couple of stops I could go further in the back instead of standing directly in front of the door so I did. Upon which I discovered that at the back of the bus there were 3 open places. This child was sitting in the middle of two, so I asked/told him "can I sit please". He did say something that I didn't understand, but moved anyway. Five minutes later it became clear to me what he had said, namely that there was someone sitting there, but he was talking with some other kids. Allow me to explain. A school was coming back from an outing and there were about 15 children and 2 or 3 teachers.
On one hand I do feel a little bit guilty, but on the other hand I was thinking "people were standing thisclose to eachother and you expect to have a seat but not use it? That struck me as snowflakey, but I'm sure they saw me as the snowflake one. I'm sure they do because after I became aware of what I did the boy and his teacher came to sit behind me and I heard them talking about me being rude.
I don't know, I probably was in their eyes. I didn't mean to, but I wouldn't be happy either if someone took my seat and consider them rude as well. BUT I don't feel this applies to a bus (especially when people are packed like sardines), I think the teacher should have explained that when in public you can't assume your seat/table/... stays yours when you are not occupying it for a long period of time instead of berating me behind my back.