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#### SCMagnolia

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« Reply #25140 on: January 24, 2014, 12:19:28 PM »
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It was actually my mom who inadvertently gave me the lesson about special days. I was a teenager, maybe 15-ish, and we were watching TV, something with brides, and one of them goes on the "My super special day" rant and my mom goes "That's sad", when I ask what she's talking about she explains "That she thinks she's never had any other special days or she'll never have anymore. I've never even gotten married and I've had plenty. Having you, getting my driver's license, getting my GED, starting college...yeah...lots of special days...and more to come", a little lesson that stuck with me. I've had tons of special days, and the best part is that some of the most special ones (meeting Partner for example) started off ordinary and boring. So yeah, the wedding will be a special day, but not my one and only.

This reminds me of a story I heard a long time ago.  It was prom season at a high school and all the girls were talking about nothing but.  A teacher stood in front of the class and told them all that she hoped their prom was wonderful but that it was NOT the most wonderful night of their lives.  A girl questioned her as to why she'd say such a mean thing and she told them to think about it....  if prom night was the most wonderful night of their lives, wouldn't that be just terribly sad?  To know that at their young ages, that for the rest of their lives, there'd be no more "wonderful"?

I never forgot that story.  Glitter, your mom was awesome to teach you that lesson! It puts a lot of things into perspective.  And it makes me just want to slap every single bride that says "this will be the most wonderful day of my life."  Wow.  May as well just up and die after the guests go home because what else is there to look forward to.

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« Reply #25141 on: January 24, 2014, 12:20:28 PM »
We seriously need a blush smiley!

Like this one but with a smile instead of a frown.
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#### GlitterIsMyDrug

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« Reply #25142 on: January 24, 2014, 12:22:58 PM »
We seriously need a blush smiley!

Like this one but with a smile instead of a frown.

Exactly! Cause...not a frowney moment.

#### cabbagegirl28

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« Reply #25143 on: January 24, 2014, 12:23:59 PM »
I have seen that commercial and it is terrible. You met the guy, became a couple, decided to marry and went through all that effort because of a garment?

Maybe they do not know that bridal shops don't bother to check if you're actually engaged? I mean, you can just go out and buy a wedding dress if you want one that bad. My grandma has bought several, to fix up and resell but still she's bought several without having to get married. And Liz did it on 30 Rock.

In my area, you have to tell the salesperson your wedding date before they will let you try on dresses.

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#### GlitterIsMyDrug

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« Reply #25144 on: January 24, 2014, 01:25:35 PM »
I have seen that commercial and it is terrible. You met the guy, became a couple, decided to marry and went through all that effort because of a garment?

Maybe they do not know that bridal shops don't bother to check if you're actually engaged? I mean, you can just go out and buy a wedding dress if you want one that bad. My grandma has bought several, to fix up and resell but still she's bought several without having to get married. And Liz did it on 30 Rock.

In my area, you have to tell the salesperson your wedding date before they will let you try on dresses.

Well...you could make one up...or buy one online. Or in a thrift store! Thrift stores get a ton!

#### Carotte

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« Reply #25145 on: January 24, 2014, 01:37:22 PM »
I have seen that commercial and it is terrible. You met the guy, became a couple, decided to marry and went through all that effort because of a garment?

Maybe they do not know that bridal shops don't bother to check if you're actually engaged? I mean, you can just go out and buy a wedding dress if you want one that bad. My grandma has bought several, to fix up and resell but still she's bought several without having to get married. And Liz did it on 30 Rock.

In my area, you have to tell the salesperson your wedding date before they will let you try on dresses.

Well...you could make one up...or buy one online. Or in a thrift store! Thrift stores get a ton!

Or just invent one. I guess they ask future brides so that they know they're not waisting time on someone who will not buy a dress and maybe also so they know they have to point out that some of the dresses would have to be ordered in and that would take too long considering the wedding date.

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« Reply #25146 on: January 24, 2014, 01:39:19 PM »

Yeah, now that I'm actively looking for one, I signed up on their webpage.  I saw that ad and thought, "Pffft, it's all about marrying DF."  I then found a beautiful dress for $160 at a different sight. Yeah, it's all about my dress so much I'm spending more on my bridesmaids' dresses than I am on my own. If it's all about my dress...I'm really doing it wrong! Though I did care a lot about my dress because I really wanted to wear the one my grandma wore to marry my bio-grandpa (mom's dad), her second wedding. And if not that dress (we couldn't find it at first) then one in a similar style. But if it didn't happen, I'd still get married! We did find the dress, and grandma had one for partner, so now we both have our dresses and they cost nothing. The wedding industry is sooo mad at me... They didn't like me either. I made my own to get what I wanted. #### BB-VA • Hero Member • Posts: 1264 ##### Re: Special Snowflake Stories « Reply #25147 on: January 24, 2014, 02:03:00 PM » That phrase, "The most wonderful day of my life" might be true with the addition of two words - "so far". "The Universe puts us in places where we can learn. They are never easy places, but they are right. Wherever we are, it's the right place and the right time. Pain that sometimes comes is part of the process of constantly being born." - Delenn to Sheridan: "Babylon 5 - Distant Star" #### Katana_Geldar • Hero Member • Posts: 1782 ##### Re: Special Snowflake Stories « Reply #25148 on: January 24, 2014, 04:24:21 PM » I agree. And I hate the emphasis on the dress. I wanted to get my dress for under$1000 and ended up getting it for under $500. #### Elfmama • Super Hero! • Posts: 6130 ##### Re: Special Snowflake Stories « Reply #25149 on: January 24, 2014, 07:09:29 PM » How about that appalling ad for a chain of Bridal salons? 'it's all about your dress'. Yeah, now that I'm actively looking for one, I signed up on their webpage. I saw that ad and thought, "Pffft, it's all about marrying DF." I then found a beautiful dress for$160 at a different sight.  Yeah, it's all about my dress so much I'm spending more on my bridesmaids' dresses than I am on my own.

If it's all about my dress...I'm really doing it wrong! Though I did care a lot about my dress because I really wanted to wear the one my grandma wore to marry my bio-grandpa (mom's dad), her second wedding. And if not that dress (we couldn't find it at first) then one in a similar style. But if it didn't happen, I'd still get married! We did find the dress, and grandma had one for partner, so now we both have our dresses and they cost nothing. The wedding industry is sooo mad at me...
But what about the poor bridesguys?  Are you going to make them wear tuxes with big butt-bows?

They didn't like me either.  I made my own to get what I wanted.
So did I. The styling of the ready-made dresses available when I got married (1973) were either GWTW hoopskirt HUGE, or made you look pregnant.  Or both.  Yes, even when you are most emphatically not pregnant, and only weigh 100 pounds wringing wet!
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« Reply #25150 on: January 24, 2014, 10:39:19 PM »
A year ago a good friend and I were looking for a costume for her daughter for HS marching band matching trick or treat out fits for her DD's instrument group.

We came across a wonderful wedding gown, absolutely simple yet beautiful, and under 50 bucks, great condition.  We talked ourselves out of it, since our DD's are only 16, and neither really dating.  But, over a year, we still mention that dress on occasion.  It was just so lovely!

And we might have been snowflake moms to hold onto that dress for several years, keeping it away from a "real" bride with a real date set and a groom, but...I kinda wish one of us had bought it.

But then, who is to say either of our DD's would want it, and we would not force a dress on them. Still, it was...so lovely!

(we did find a costume for friend's DD, and she has some great group photos of her sectional music group.)

I hope whoever did buy it used it for a real wedding (not a Halloween costume) and is very happy with all her special days.
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#### Piratelvr1121

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« Reply #25151 on: January 24, 2014, 10:46:13 PM »
I agree. And I hate the emphasis on the dress. I wanted to get my dress for under $1000 and ended up getting it for under$500.

I got mine for less than $100 and I loved it! I got it from a department store. It was silver and had shamrocks embroidered on it. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata #### jedikaiti • Swiss Army Nerd • Hero Member • Posts: 2732 • A pie in the hand is worth two in the mail. ##### Re: Special Snowflake Stories « Reply #25152 on: January 25, 2014, 12:21:04 AM » How about that appalling ad for a chain of Bridal salons? 'it's all about your dress'. Yeah, now that I'm actively looking for one, I signed up on their webpage. I saw that ad and thought, "Pffft, it's all about marrying DF." I then found a beautiful dress for$160 at a different sight.  Yeah, it's all about my dress so much I'm spending more on my bridesmaids' dresses than I am on my own.

If it's all about my dress...I'm really doing it wrong! Though I did care a lot about my dress because I really wanted to wear the one my grandma wore to marry my bio-grandpa (mom's dad), her second wedding. And if not that dress (we couldn't find it at first) then one in a similar style. But if it didn't happen, I'd still get married! We did find the dress, and grandma had one for partner, so now we both have our dresses and they cost nothing. The wedding industry is sooo mad at me...
But what about the poor bridesguys?  Are you going to make them wear tuxes with big butt-bows?

They didn't like me either.  I made my own to get what I wanted.
So did I. The styling of the ready-made dresses available when I got married (1973) were either GWTW hoopskirt HUGE, or made you look pregnant.  Or both.  Yes, even when you are most emphatically not pregnant, and only weigh 100 pounds wringing wet!

They're not much better now. I had to ditch the crinoline they gave me during my 1st shopping excursion, as it made every dress look like I should have been an extra in an updated version of GWTW.

#### SCAJAfamily

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« Reply #25154 on: January 25, 2014, 01:18:52 AM »
The dress wasn't all that important to me either.  I bought it off the rack at Macys for $50 in 1998 thinking I'll get something better if I want, and I never did. I'd rather spend the$ else where.
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