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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26685 on: May 05, 2014, 07:31:50 PM »
He did apologize though, it sounds like.
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« Reply #26686 on: May 05, 2014, 08:52:00 PM »
I refused to teach my daughter to drive.  As a teenager, I watched my father teaching my stepsister, and decided he was NOT going to teach me.  After that, I decided it is something that was best left to a third party, and as I told the kid, I want us to be speaking when you get your license.   

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gmatoy

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« Reply #26687 on: May 05, 2014, 09:02:31 PM »
He did apologize though, it sounds like.

Yes, but I think it was one of those "easier to apologize than to ask permission" apologies.

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« Reply #26688 on: May 05, 2014, 10:39:15 PM »
I refused to teach my daughter to drive.  As a teenager, I watched my father teaching my stepsister, and decided he was NOT going to teach me.  After that, I decided it is something that was best left to a third party, and as I told the kid, I want us to be speaking when you get your license.
I personaly still find the concept of letting amateurs teach people to drive baffling, and then I hadn't even thought about what it would do to the relationship between parents and children to do this :)
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« Reply #26689 on: May 05, 2014, 10:41:38 PM »
We sent our kid to a pro instructor, but she needs a lot more driving time, just for practice. I refuse to pay through the nose for that!

I had lessons through school, but I got my driving practice w/ my parents, and I actually mentally think that my mother taught me to drive. She didn't, but the coaching she did as I practiced with her is the instruction I remember most.

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« Reply #26690 on: May 05, 2014, 11:40:17 PM »
I refused to teach my daughter to drive.  As a teenager, I watched my father teaching my stepsister, and decided he was NOT going to teach me.  After that, I decided it is something that was best left to a third party, and as I told the kid, I want us to be speaking when you get your license.
I personaly still find the concept of letting amateurs teach people to drive baffling, and then I hadn't even thought about what it would do to the relationship between parents and children to do this :)

I had a friend whose dad was *not* very good at teaching her to drive.  Whenever she did something he didn't like, he'd elbow her really hard.  She got bruises all up and down her side and was terrified of getting in a car and terrified of driving.  He was not normally abusive (although rather strict and authoritarian and didn't have a good relationship with her), but the car just pushed him over the top.  She went off to college without having learned to drive or gotten her license.  Interestingly, both my dad *and* the boy who was to become my husband ended up giving her driving lessons, and she got her license at 19 or 20 I think.  And my husband had only gotten his own license at 18 and was a year younger than us, so he'd just gotten his license himself before teaching her.

It is odd in some ways that an amateur teaches you to drive, but I think part of the problem is that it takes a *lot* of driving time and practice to get good at driving, it's best done naturally (i.e. driving to pick little sister up from soccer, driving to the mall, driving to and from your job), and it would just get too expensive to pay somebody to teach you all of those hours.

Of course, I read a book that talked about a guy sending his kids to a special driving academy (in Colorado?) where they do things like deliberately put you into a skid on a greased track and have you pull out of it, etc., so that they would really truly be safe and proficient drivers in any circumstances.  They'd already had licenses and been driving for years, but he said their minds were blown at their experiences there and they became *way* more confident and controlled behind the wheel.
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« Reply #26691 on: May 06, 2014, 12:47:05 AM »
My mom hated having to practice driving with me (because, wasn't that what Driver's Ed was for?  Never mind that I would have failed if I didn't get enough practice outside of that...), so as soon as I'd learned enough to pass Driver's Ed and the driving test she handed me the keys to the subcompact I'd be driving. 

This was the same car I learned to drive a manual in...needless to say I didn't know she even knew certain curse words until she tried to teach me to drive a stick.  Basically it was "you're 18 and you have a license, stick to the less busy roads until you have a better idea of what you're doing".  So, after school most days I'd drive around the neighborhood practicing and perfecting my driving skills.  MUCH more relaxing than having a parent in the car.

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« Reply #26692 on: May 06, 2014, 06:16:58 AM »
The laws in my state require a certain amount of practice driving time -- that can be expensive if you're paying a driving school.  The one near us charges $55/hour to use their car for extra driving practice. 

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« Reply #26693 on: May 06, 2014, 06:56:35 AM »
DH's mother drove trucks for a living for a while and she was the one who taught him to drive, including taking him to an icy parking lot to learn how to handle a car on ice if he were to encounter it. 
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« Reply #26694 on: May 06, 2014, 07:18:32 AM »
Took DS to the farm yesterday.  It was a fab day until we got beseiged by a flurry of snowflakes who decided that the picnic area was theirs and theirs only. No, no it's not.
 
Yes, we moved for this "family" of at least 4 kids...not because we really wanted to, but because we felt sorry for the kids having parents like that.  Smoking in an area full of babies and kids (there are notices asking people politely to stand just to the right of the main entrance to smoke, to protect those who don't want to breathe in cigarette fumes), shouting the odds to anyone who would listen, telling the children to "just sit there, they'll move cos people do for kids, innit?"
 
Ditto when it came to feeding the lambs with the milk.  The same family shoved their ways in front of DS and I, so that DS was forced to wait until the next intake (only 4 people allowed in at a time and then they were out, next children in). Fair enough, DS has to learn to wait. But what is this mother teaching her children by encouraging them to push into queues like that? "You're special, you don't have to wait, you can just go straight to the front."
 
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« Reply #26695 on: May 06, 2014, 07:36:22 AM »
I nominate a driver I saw last night.

I work in a hospital (I'm in the business office, but we're physically in the hospital), and driving cross town from work on a road which is semi-country (fields most of the way, but there are some businesses here and there, mostly towards one end or the other of the road), two lanes (one each direction) although wide enough that they could put a third lane in.  This road is quite straight, and mostly flat, so you can see almost all the way to the other end of the road from where the hospital is.

As I'm driving on this road about a half mile from work, I see coming toward me an ambulance with lights and siren on.  There's a car in front of the ambulance which did *not* pull over, but did take a turn after about a quarter of a mile (so they left the road in question).  Everyone in my direction of travel had pulled over and everyone else in the other direction had also, so once the SS departed, the ambulance came down the middle of the road to get to the hospital.

Because clearly, being delayed for, at most two minutes, is just absolutely intolerable for a SS.  I can't imagine where one might be going that is more important than getting a patient to the ER (I know that not all ambulances come in with lights and siren, so when they do, you know it's quite serious and one of those 'every minute counts' situations).




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« Reply #26696 on: May 06, 2014, 10:00:37 AM »
(More silly one)
I nominate the Mama and Papa goose that were taking their fluffy gossling for a walk this morning across a busy rush hour road.  And little fluff goose was checking out the road for bugs.  SIGH.

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« Reply #26697 on: May 06, 2014, 10:23:09 AM »
Yes, we moved for this "family" of at least 4 kids...not because we really wanted to, but because we felt sorry for the kids having parents like that.  Smoking in an area full of babies and kids (there are notices asking people politely to stand just to the right of the main entrance to smoke, to protect those who don't want to breathe in cigarette fumes), shouting the odds to anyone who would listen, telling the children to "just sit there, they'll move cos people do for kids, innit?"

Side note, I will never forget my mom addressing the man blowing smoke right in her face on a train platform: "Excuse me, do you mind? I mean, I don't fart right in your face, now do I?"

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« Reply #26698 on: May 06, 2014, 04:43:30 PM »
Yes, we moved for this "family" of at least 4 kids...not because we really wanted to, but because we felt sorry for the kids having parents like that.  Smoking in an area full of babies and kids (there are notices asking people politely to stand just to the right of the main entrance to smoke, to protect those who don't want to breathe in cigarette fumes), shouting the odds to anyone who would listen, telling the children to "just sit there, they'll move cos people do for kids, innit?"

Side note, I will never forget my mom addressing the man blowing smoke right in her face on a train platform: "Excuse me, do you mind? I mean, I don't fart right in your face, now do I?"

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gmatoy

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« Reply #26699 on: May 06, 2014, 06:54:58 PM »
Yes, we moved for this "family" of at least 4 kids...not because we really wanted to, but because we felt sorry for the kids having parents like that.  Smoking in an area full of babies and kids (there are notices asking people politely to stand just to the right of the main entrance to smoke, to protect those who don't want to breathe in cigarette fumes), shouting the odds to anyone who would listen, telling the children to "just sit there, they'll move cos people do for kids, innit?"

Side note, I will never forget my mom addressing the man blowing smoke right in her face on a train platform: "Excuse me, do you mind? I mean, I don't fart right in your face, now do I?"

I think I love your mom. ;D
Elisabunny, I agree!