Iíve recently started building my family tree on ancestry.com and have contacted some long-lost relatives to ask for names and dates. I contacted my cousinís 40-year-old daughter, whom Iíve never met (I havenít heard from her father in decades).
She answered ďAre you aware that my father abandoned me and my brother after my parents were divorced [when she was a child]? We donít exist to him.Ē
I replied that I wasnít aware the situation was so bad, but Iíd be grateful to have full names and birth dates for her, her brother, and her mother.
Her response was that she didnít want to be part of my family tree unless I added information about what a jerk her father is and all the ways heís done her wrong.
Seriously . . . itís genealogy, not therapy. There's no place in my family tree for personal issues. I decided not to engage the crazy, but I thought about telling her Iíd replace her leaf on the tree with a box that says ďCrazy PersonĒ.
Oddly, she's Facebook friends with several relatives on her fatherís side and often gushes over their posts.