Etiquette School is in session! > "Why would I want to do that?"
My Aunt M's Assumptions
Shipoopi:
I've mentioned Aunt M a couple of times on the boards as DF and I prepare for our wedding; once when she assumed we would be getting married at the same place she was, and once when she told me I needed to redo my guest list. She's always been a little inclined to express her opinions whe she really didn't need to, but my engagement has apparently given her carte blanche to say whatever she wants.
I babysat M's grandson Thursday night, as Baby's mother was at work and M and her husband had to go to a function. When she came to pick him up, she sat down on the sofa, I offered her a drink, and she proceeded to get very invasive.
Aunt M: So, have you started birth control yet?
Shipoopi: Why would I want to do that?
M: You want it to have time to take full effect before you get married, don't you?
S: *cough* You know, Uncle's probably wondering about you out in the car.
M: You're NOT on the Pill?
S: I really don't think that's appropriate conversation.
M: How does DF feel about this? You know he doesn't want a baby during your first year! What couple does?
S: Oh my, look at the time. Baby's probably anxious to get home and have his night feeding.
M: Look, I'll get you an appointment with my GYN. I'll call you when it's set.
I was pretty much in shock for the next half hour or so. Regardless of how DF and I feel about children, birth control, and our first year of marriage, (which we have discussed at length) I personally find it less than appropriate that she's grilling me about it. I want to call her this evening to let her know that I won't be needing the services of her GYN, and I was wondering if there's any polite way to handle this.
LibraryLady:
Just tell you that you have taken care of the matter and it isn't up for discussion. End of story. Repeat as necssary.
Good luck!
LL
MayHug:
I just wanted to say my poor daughter went thru the same thing with her then fiance's aunt. She had only met her a handful of times when this aunt called to discuss their birth control options after marriage. She also offered to get her an appt. as my daughter was new to the area. My daughter has successfully learned the art of bean dipping, but took her a few times to get it through her head that it wasn't up for discussion.
My advice to her was to let her know it wasn't appropriate, she wasn't discussing it and then to continue the bean dipping. Don't dance around it, be point blank with her.
My daughter did get pregnant within the first few months as they had planned, but sadly she lost the baby at sixteen weeks. The aunt tried to bring it up again and was shut down.
Stock up on the bean dip :)
edited to put that h back in where it belonged
gibsongirl:
"I have my own gyn, thank you, and this topic is now off limits. I'll be quite angry if you bring it up again."
Black Delphinium:
--- Quote from: gibsongirl on February 08, 2009, 01:04:32 PM ---"I have my own gyn, thank you, and this topic is now off limits. I'll be quite angry if you bring it up again."
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