Friend drama

[Clara Bow]

Got a question that's kind of bothering me...you bought the spackle (or left the money for it or whatever) right? And when she returned your swimsuit it was all smutty from her car?? But you're getting the rats for messing up something that belonged to someone else??
Hmmmm.....

[blarg314]

I don't think your behavior was wrong, but it was possibly a drawn out for the magnitude of the offence - although demanding six dollars for spackle while returning a damaged bathing suit takes cheek.

At this point I think it's worth dropping the frostily polite behavior - a short time is okay, but carrying it on for weeks would be excessive.  Be pleasant to them, but don't make any effort to be particularly buddy buddy, and avoiding going to any more events at their place is perfectly legitimate, as is refraining from donating any more clothes.

They've been rude, and there are consequences for that, but publicly snubbing someone should be reserved for more serious offenses.

[IndianInlaw]

Gosh, I'm thinking of that old LIFE cereal/Mikey commercial


Mary Ann:  "I didn't make that hole"

Ashley:  "I didn't make that hole"

Both:  "Let's blame Charlotte!"

By the way, six dollars is a LOT for spackle.  You can tubes of it for touch ups.  They go for about $3.

And if you remotely care, you're entitled to whatever is left after they fix "your" damage.


And get new friends...these seem a bit...draining.

[HushHush]

The dirt on the swimsuit came out in the wash or I would have politely asked Mary Ann to pay for a new swimsuit.  This one still had the tags on it when I loaned it to her as it has been my 'goal' swimsuit for a while.

I'm not still frosty towards them.  If they ask me something, I'll respond politely but I don't chitchat with them and have not returned to their house for any reason.

My life has so much less drama in it after cutting out those two.

Thanks for the comments everyone!  I appreciate it.

Charlotte

[Hawkwatcher]

You know what's weird about this?

Hitting a wall hard enough to put a hole in it seems like the kind of thing one would remember.  And anyone nearby would have noticed too.

So, yeah, it's pretty shocking to get a call out of the blue saying you damaged a wall the night before when you are quite sure you didn't.

Odd.

I think that hitting a wall hard enough to put a hole in it would be painful and the OP would probably have a bruise from it.  Fortunately, it sounds like the OP is not likely to spend any more time with these women than necessary because they might continue to hit the OP up for  repairs and this could be an expensive for the OP.

[dawbs]

You know what's weird about this?

Hitting a wall hard enough to put a hole in it seems like the kind of thing one would remember.  And anyone nearby would have noticed too.

So, yeah, it's pretty shocking to get a call out of the blue saying you damaged a wall the night before when you are quite sure you didn't.

Odd.

I think that hitting a wall hard enough to put a hole in it would be painful and the OP would probably have a bruise from it.  Fortunately, it sounds like the OP is not likely to spend any more time with these women than necessary because they might continue to hit the OP up for  repairs and this could be an expensive for the OP.

I dunno, I've put holes in walls.
Depending on the type/thickness of drywall and where between the studs you hit it, it would be rather easy (and possibly wouldn't be noticed if there was a lot of chaos) to put a small hole in one.  (I did it with my head once and it wasn't that painful--truly.  Of course, also from experience, if you hit a stud it becomes incredibly painful)

Although I would agree that the OP might want to be careful to ensure that she isn't hit up for future repairs that might be bogus

[LifeOnPluto]

Echoing the other posters who have pointed out there can be a big maturity gap between people barely out of their teens, and people in their late 20s. (As a 25 year old, I'm shocked to think of how immature I was as an 18 year old.)

I'd say be polite to these girls, but focus on making close friends with members of the group who are of a similar age to you. And I would also think twice before lending these girls more clothes.