I have a few more.
Do not assume that because you have had a child or children, and have used your methods with them to success that other mothers or new mums want you forcing them onto them. It is fine to offer advice when asked but do so in a matter that is offering a new way to do something,not making them feel stupid or incompetant cause they didnt know or have chosen another way to do it. Alternatively saying to them "i told you months ago to try that" is also not helpful.
Dont insist to mothers,regardless of if its in a joking tone, all that they have to look forward too in their upcoming pregnancies. While alot of women get pregnancy symptoms some dont. Not every woman is going to get morning sickness,put on a bunch of weight,waddle like a duck or crave weird things. Also saying "summer baby? pwoar. the heats going to kill you" isn't helpful either.
Pregnant women,while we know your body is going through alot, we also don't want to hear you constantly whinge about how you are sick of the pregnancy and detailed lists of what you are going through. If I ask you how you are feeling then fine, but I dont want to hear it every day. Those who haven't had babies aren't always going to be able to sympathise, and those who have had babies have been there before too.
It is not your business to lecture or dictate what the current medical birthing board, whatever says you should be doing with your child. If you choose to follow everything by the book then thats your perogodiv,but if someone chooses to do it less strictly and their way...thats their choice. If there child is thriving and growing, then they are obviously okay regardless of what "your" midwife has suggested to do.
Don't ask somebody their feeding methods if you are not going to respect their decision or are going to go on a tangent of why "breast is best" or "formula is easier".....it doesn't matter. Its not your business. Its not your business. Its not your business.
Dont gloat. About anything. Your child may have the best the market advises in cot,wing whatever. If you can afford that great. SOme of us don't require it, or will buy a 2nd hand used one. Someobdy who has had a difficult pregnancy or delivery doesnt want you mentioning it everytime you talk about kids how easy you had it. In the same fashion, somebody who hs had a realively easy pregnancy, does not want to be made to feel bad because they didnt go through 35 hours of labour or 4 mths of morning sickness.
Its not a competition. Children develop at their own rates. Dont be dissappointed that my child was walking by a certain age, and yours hasn't. They will when they want too. But also don't ask me when my kid did this by and then say "oh baby einstein did that at this month" to make me feel like my child isn't progressing the way they should.
DO NOT use the excuse you are eating for 2 for gluttony. While you can indulge in cravings, and eat what makes YOU feel better if you are going through nausea etc; you should not be eating double serves of meals everytime or eating junk food prominetly because "baby" wanted it. That may be fine once or twice a week,but not every single day. I'm pretty sure baby wants a nie balanced meal once in a while too.
