Don't tell a woman who has needed C-sections that if she'd only done X, Y, or Z, it would have turned out differently. Are many C-sections done in this country unnecessary? Yes, but not all of them, and it's not an outsider's business to speculate on a friend's situation, especially if she's already feeling sadness and self-doubt over the whole thing. It's also not helpful to tell someone who is a little sad over it that she has a healthy baby, and she'd better be grateful for that, at least. One can be both delighted and happy with the healthy baby and disappointed and sad over the way she got that baby. Human beings can have more than one emotion at once. If she's depressed, or if her disappointment rules her life, she may need counseling or a new perspective on things, but it's not helpful to be a jerk about it, and a small amount of disappointment is totally normal and natural.
Those women were HORRIBLE to my SIL and made her cry. I know many other women who felt attacked by the LLL.
that's why i'm reluctant to contact the LLL when i had problems with lactation.
I see them as a useful tool. They have so much knowledge that it's a shame to pass it up, but I'd never invest in a group emotionally. I use their website for its information, and that's it. My supply has started dwindling over the last couple of months, and I've done everything I can. My daughter is thriving quite nicely despite my having to give her formula each evening. So far, she has not sprouted any extra limbs or gotten any brain damage.