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Re: Pregnancy/birth etiquette
« Reply #180 on: June 01, 2012, 09:55:54 AM »
I work with the L&D staff at my hospital.  They treat the mom's with kindness and respect at all times.  They sometimes struggle to remind the moms that a healthy baby is more important than their birth plan.  In fact, the team is well aware of the irony that it seems like the best way to have things not go the way the mom wants them to go is to actually do a written birth plan.  Sure, we want your birth experience to be just like you've imagined it.  But the truth is, it rarely will go like you dreamed.  I think the medical team can certainly remind patients to keep their options open.  But in the social setting, I think the best response is "That's admirable.  I hope it goes well for you."  said with the utmost sincerity.

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Re: Pregnancy/birth etiquette
« Reply #181 on: July 06, 2012, 02:46:01 PM »
When a woman asks "Do I look pregnant or just bloated?"....don't say "You don't look pregnant.". Bad idea, bad move.

Going a looong way back for this one:

I'd say the "rule" here is for the pregnant woman (or anyone, really, but this is the pregnancy etiquette thread...) not to ask that kind of uncomfortable question.

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Re: Pregnancy/birth etiquette
« Reply #182 on: July 06, 2012, 03:11:34 PM »
When a woman asks "Do I look pregnant or just bloated?"....don't say "You don't look pregnant.". Bad idea, bad move.

Going a looong way back for this one:

I'd say the "rule" here is for the pregnant woman (or anyone, really, but this is the pregnancy etiquette thread...) not to ask that kind of uncomfortable question.

Really  :o
Why would you, even?
Hey, purplemuse, is my butt big or does it just look that way in these pants? There is no good answer there; the question is just not fair.

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Re: Pregnancy/birth etiquette
« Reply #183 on: July 07, 2012, 02:03:09 PM »
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Re: Pregnancy/birth etiquette
« Reply #184 on: July 07, 2012, 02:58:49 PM »
When a woman asks "Do I look pregnant or just bloated?"....don't say "You don't look pregnant.". Bad idea, bad move.

Going a looong way back for this one:

I'd say the "rule" here is for the pregnant woman (or anyone, really, but this is the pregnancy etiquette thread...) not to ask that kind of uncomfortable question.

Really  :o
Why would you, even?
Hey, purplemuse, is my butt big or does it just look that way in these pants? There is no good answer there; the question is just not fair.

Exactly. That's just mean to even ask.
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Re: Pregnancy/birth etiquette
« Reply #185 on: July 18, 2012, 08:06:19 PM »
When a woman asks "Do I look pregnant or just bloated?"....don't say "You don't look pregnant.". Bad idea, bad move.

Going a looong way back for this one:

I'd say the "rule" here is for the pregnant woman (or anyone, really, but this is the pregnancy etiquette thread...) not to ask that kind of uncomfortable question.

I don't think saying "you look bloated" would go over well either. 

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Re: Pregnancy/birth etiquette
« Reply #186 on: July 18, 2012, 10:02:23 PM »
When a woman asks "Do I look pregnant or just bloated?"....don't say "You don't look pregnant.". Bad idea, bad move.

Going a looong way back for this one:

I'd say the "rule" here is for the pregnant woman (or anyone, really, but this is the pregnancy etiquette thread...) not to ask that kind of uncomfortable question.

I don't think saying "you look bloated" would go over well either.

I might do it just to take vindictive pleasure from someone asking me a loaded question like that. :)


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Re: Pregnancy/birth etiquette
« Reply #187 on: March 31, 2014, 02:17:14 PM »
Please do not comment on the weight gain even if you mean it as a compliment. Just because you might think the person looks better at the higher weight caused by pregnancy doesn't mean the person agrees or that it would even be healthy for them if not pregnant.

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Re: Pregnancy/birth etiquette
« Reply #188 on: March 31, 2014, 04:47:07 PM »
When a woman asks "Do I look pregnant or just bloated?"....don't say "You don't look pregnant.". Bad idea, bad move.

Going a looong way back for this one:

I'd say the "rule" here is for the pregnant woman (or anyone, really, but this is the pregnancy etiquette thread...) not to ask that kind of uncomfortable question.

Agreed.  If someone were to ask me that question, my response would be "I plead the Fifth."