Child etiquette

[kitty-cat]

I would also like to add that parents should remember that their children are individuals with their own interests and abilities.  Although Mom or Dad may have been a great soccer player, math student, or singer, it does not mean that the child will share the same abilities or skills.  Parents should have realistic expectations and not yell at their children, teachers or coaches if their children are not the best at an activity or subject.

POD!!! I know this one is kinda older, but still. And a corrolary- just because said child has been good in one subject for ages, it does not mean they will always be good in it.

Focus on the good grades, not the bad ones. I would bring home A's and B's in everything and then a C-D in precalc/calc and that was the ONLY grade my stepdad  noticed... Math was not my strong suit in high school, I did my best, but my best was not all that good. In fact, the ONLY reason I got a D and not an F in calc is because according to my teacher "You come to class every day and you come in before school for tutoring twice a week, you are at least trying."

[Nanny Ogg]

Don't force a child to give you a hug or kiss, even if the child is your godchild, grandchild, niece or nephew.  It sends a message that a child isn't allowed to refuse to be touched.  Even if you are the Auntie, to a 3-yr-old who sees you twice a year, you are a stranger for all intents & purposes.  The more time you spend with him or her, the child will warm up to you and feel more comfortable hugging you.

oh hell yeah.

This is so true.

I totally agree with this. I'm an adult who HATES to be touched, apart from immediate family and my boyf (and a very licky rabbit!) - I think a lot of it stems from "go kiss uncleauntystranger XYZ goodbye", and not being listened to when I said no.

I was at a party a little while back, and there was one young kid there, about 7 years old, whom I had not met before. The kid who was really well mannered and very grown up for his age, was playing Xbox in another room, and occassionally come in to chat to us/his mum.

At the end of the night, the mum told the kid to give all of us a hug and a kiss goodbye, and the kids face dropped so I told the kid that he didn't have to hug me if he didn't want to, and gave him a high five instead. Funnily enough, after saying that, he looked like he wanted to hug me!

[MummyPumpkin83]

Instead of specifying "horror movies", how about: Please don't bring your children to R or NC17 rated movies.

I wish theaters would enforce such a rule. Any time I ever saw a kid under 14 at an R rated movie, they were either scared and crying, or bored and being a nuisance. And no, I never said anything. It wasn't worth missing half the movie to get into an argument with a clueless parent. Awhile back, on another thread, someone suggested that theaters should charge ALL tickets to R rated films at the adult price. I think that is an excellent idea.

If parents deem it acceptable for their young children to see these films, they can always wait for the DVD to come out and screen them at home.

That's what I like about the system in the UK- a child under the age limit is forbidden to enter the cinema and see the film.

Australia is similar ratings are:
G- General - all ages
PG - Parent Guidance for under 15s
M15+ - reccommended fro 15+, but younger can view
MA15+ = restricted to 15+ - have to show ID to get in or be accompanied by a parent / adult guardian
R18+ = restricted to 18+ - have to show ID to get in

[Kimblee]

Instead of specifying "horror movies", how about: Please don't bring your children to R or NC17 rated movies.

I wish theaters would enforce such a rule. Any time I ever saw a kid under 14 at an R rated movie, they were either scared and crying, or bored and being a nuisance. And no, I never said anything. It wasn't worth missing half the movie to get into an argument with a clueless parent. Awhile back, on another thread, someone suggested that theaters should charge ALL tickets to R rated films at the adult price. I think that is an excellent idea.

If parents deem it acceptable for their young children to see these films, they can always wait for the DVD to come out and screen them at home.

This is true in most cases. but I have younger cousins who love to accompany me to horror movies. And the DVD just isn't the same experience. One of them only gets to go with me when she has gone over a month without a violent meltdown, so this is a special treat.

But we go to matinee showings, and usually about a month after it comes out. Not because she wouldn;t behave herself in a nioght time/brand new showing, but because I hate driving at night, and she gets nervious when people are too close.

because watching a ghost come out of a TV and kill people is entertainment, but godforbid she be brushed by someone going to their seats.

(Before anyone wonders, her violent outbursts just don't happen in public. I have a suspision that it isn't just coincidence that they ALWAYS happen around her stepdad.)