Hi everyone,
XMAS went great - BIL did have some lasagna - he called me XMAS Eve and was kind of embarassed about his wife's meddling. She tends to a) have no common sense and b) put her nose in where it doesn't belong ( My observations not his ). He asked for the ingredient list for the lasagna and another dish and told me he could make some medicine adjustments to allow him to have a small piece. Which he really enjoyed ! He also told me he had been saving his "free" weekly meal so he could enjoy XMAS. He opted to forgo a pizza party wife was having for the neighbors ..... hmmm - I kind of see who instigated this ......
He did eat the chicken, baked potato and plain green beans I also had for him. His wife tends to be the food police and I think she really overstepped.
Everything else went great - people behaved , had fun with the activities and it was smooth sailing. A few things were definitely not up to par etiquette wise.
Another BIL and SIL ( #2 ) live really far away and flew in for the occasion. They called on their way to my house and announced they were bringing another guest

( a great aunt on her side ). This lady turned on the kitchen TV during dinner so she could eat and watch the game !. I offered to set her a tray in the den with some of the guys - but she refused and said she wanted to stay in the kitchen. ( It's a large open kitchen/dining room ). No one else wanted it on - so I made her turn down the sound !
BIL SIL #2 also showed up at my house with there dog ! They had flown in this week - but had told me before they left darling poochy was staying home. So in they walk with extra guest and dog ! I like animals - but XMAS day with 20 people is not an occasion to bring a pet. - Plus my pets were fed , watered and bedded down in the spare bedroom - while theirs had the run of the house. I decided to let it slide to keep the peace - but it was rude. Their dog pee'd on my carpet as well

But overall - a really nice time - I am still recuperating.