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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #60 on: July 18, 2014, 12:51:27 PM »
Wow!  My flabber is officially gasted.

Don't waste any more time or thought on this rapacious female dog.  Don't send a gift.  Cut her out of your life in every possible way.

I'm also curious how the other friends in the group feel about this (if they know).

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #61 on: July 18, 2014, 01:26:37 PM »
Or, if you want to give a gift, get her a charming paring knife.    >:D

Isn't it the tradition that you should never give sharp objects as gifts as it's said to sever the friendship?


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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #62 on: July 19, 2014, 04:05:35 AM »
I recommend an etiquette book.  Except she probably wouldn't get the motivation.

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #63 on: July 19, 2014, 09:44:59 AM »
This is beyond the pale and I'm sorry that you are on the receiving end of this. I, too, would move on from this person.

However, I'm curious. Noting the bolded:

Thanks for all the kind words! :) I am overweight but work very hard to wear appropriate clothing and carry myself in a good way. I was shocked because I considered her a good friend and she had never said anything to me in a hurtful way before. However thinking about it-I wouldn't put it past her. It sucks it has to end this way though.

In the moment the conversation occurred (or shortly after) I think a reasonable response would've been along the lines of 'What did you just say?', 'What did you mean by that?', and/or 'Do you honestly not realize how incredibly hurtful that is?'. Not everyone's brains work so well when stunned, though. 

You mentioned her behavior was shocking, but upon reflection, you wouldn't put it past her. So, in retrospect, you noticed previously that she was not a terribly kind person, at least to other people at some point.

After a sufficient period of time nursing hurt (and I would be hurt) please look to the positive that she helped you not waste any more time and energy fostering a friendship with her. She has set you free to put your energies and feelings into more useful directions and persons.

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #64 on: July 20, 2014, 02:20:13 PM »
This is beyond the pale and I'm sorry that you are on the receiving end of this. I, too, would move on from this person.

However, I'm curious. Noting the bolded:

Thanks for all the kind words! :) I am overweight but work very hard to wear appropriate clothing and carry myself in a good way. I was shocked because I considered her a good friend and she had never said anything to me in a hurtful way before. However thinking about it-I wouldn't put it past her. It sucks it has to end this way though.

In the moment the conversation occurred (or shortly after) I think a reasonable response would've been along the lines of 'What did you just say?', 'What did you mean by that?', and/or 'Do you honestly not realize how incredibly hurtful that is?'. Not everyone's brains work so well when stunned, though. 

You mentioned her behavior was shocking, but upon reflection, you wouldn't put it past her. So, in retrospect, you noticed previously that she was not a terribly kind person, at least to other people at some point.

After a sufficient period of time nursing hurt (and I would be hurt) please look to the positive that she helped you not waste any more time and energy fostering a friendship with her. She has set you free to put your energies and feelings into more useful directions and persons.

I was curious about the bolded too.  Did that mean friend has been hurtful to other people , is very concerned with appearance/weight, is judgmental , shallow or has been hurtful but to OP but not in an obvious way ect. 

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #65 on: July 23, 2014, 03:42:18 PM »
If asked in the future if you will be attending the bridal shower, simply reply "X informed me that I was too overweight to attend her wedding. Therefore, I decided that I was too awesome to attend her bridal shower."

And you know what, you are! Not many parties can handle the level of awesomeness us big gals bring to the table!!

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #66 on: July 23, 2014, 03:45:48 PM »
...    "X informed me that I was too overweight to attend her wedding. Therefore, I decided that I was too awesome to attend her bridal shower." ...

I love this!   ;D

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #67 on: July 27, 2014, 02:41:47 PM »
I read the OP to my DH.  He asked me to read the first few words again.  After I did so, his response was "Nope, that's not a friend".  :)

OP, I'd say cut her off, and there's nothing wrong with telling people why you weren't at the wedding or bridal shower if asked.  No reason to go around airing the issue if it's not relevant, but I don't see anything wrong with telling a few of your mutual friends just how badly you've been treated.