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Arianoor

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My Rudest Guest.
« on: April 23, 2007, 05:27:22 PM »
*Back Story*
During the summer, I like to throw parties.  I serve drinks, have fondue, and munchies, I set-up a fire pit on my patio so that people can congregate and roast marshmallows.  There's Scene It in the computer room and music in the living room.  An enjoyable and low-key evening for my 18 to 35 y/o "peer group".

I've spent most of my life being very high strung and anxious, I've only recently learned to calm down, so I purposefully surround myself with "chill" (id est calm, relaxed, easy-going) people.  I welcome my friend's friends to my get-togethers as long as they are "chill" and they understand that there is no drinking for those under 21 and NO illegal drugs EVER.

Sooooo, one Saturday night, the party is getting into full swing when my friend Richard (who used to be a friend of a friend, btw) arrives with his two friends, let's call them Barbie and Gidget.  Barbie and Gidget are introduced to me as soon as they arrive, they loudly proclaim that THEY are lesbians.  Okay, I think, that's a little more than I wanted to know.  From the looks on their faces apparently I am supposed to be shocked.  (Yeah right, half my friends are gay!)  I simply say, *pleasant smile* "That's lovely for you, may I get you a drink?"

I get them some drinks, point them in the direction of the fondue, and go back to entertaining my other guests.  About 30 minutes later, another friend rushes up to me and says, "Bonnie, you have GOT to come see what's going on in the living room!"  I rush into the room to see that Barbie and Gidget have one of my darling girlfriends backed into a corner, they are groping her!  (Full-on seriously groping!)  My friend is obviously terrified and shocked beyond belief.  I am appallled.

I march over and grasp each one firmly by their upper arm and escort them out of my home, explaining calmly that they were no longer welcome.  I take them all the way outside, across the courtyard, and out of the gate, depositing them on the sidewalk.  Richard rushes out after us, apologizing profusely, saying that he will take them home.  Barbie and Gidget then pitch a major drama fit, "No, we'll walk back home!"  *sob* *sniffle* (About 10 miles through a city and across 2 freeways in the middle of the night.)  Apparently, they were expecting me to try to pacify them and "save" their 20 year old selves by inviting them back into the party.

FAT CHANCE!  Two men who did something like that would be facing the police!

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« Reply #1 on: April 23, 2007, 05:29:54 PM »
And if that isn't a wake-up call to Richard to choose his friends more carefully, I don't know what would be.  I'm glad he apologized to you....and hopefully to the woman these girls were groping as well.

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« Reply #2 on: April 23, 2007, 05:34:31 PM »
Richard has never stopped apologizing to my friend or me!  He really is a sweet guy, just has bad judgement.  (Understatement, I know! ;))

Oddly enough, he doesn't bring friends to my parties anymore!    ;D

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« Reply #3 on: April 23, 2007, 05:41:07 PM »
I'm pretty sure that two women who try something like that SHOULD be dealing with the police. Unwanted groping is unwanted groping, regardless of gender.
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« Reply #4 on: April 23, 2007, 05:48:11 PM »
Believe me, I wish I had called the police!  I was just so furious at the time that all I wanted was to see them GONE.

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« Reply #5 on: April 23, 2007, 05:52:01 PM »
That sounds like assault.

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« Reply #6 on: April 23, 2007, 06:00:14 PM »
It is.  You're right.

I couldn't convince my friend to press charges, after the fact.

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« Reply #7 on: April 23, 2007, 08:14:37 PM »



I get them some drinks, point them in the direction of the fondue, and go back to entertaining my other guests.  About 30 minutes later, another friend rushes up to me and says, "Bonnie, you have GOT to come see what's going on in the living room!"  I rush into the room to see that Barbie and Gidget have one of my darling girlfriends backed into a corner, they are groping her!  (Full-on seriously groping!)  My friend is obviously terrified and shocked beyond belief.  I am appallled.



I think that one of the most disturbing things about your story is that no one intervened before you arrived to rescue your friend from these women.  Were most of the guests in another room?

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« Reply #8 on: April 24, 2007, 12:16:39 AM »

I get them some drinks, point them in the direction of the fondue, and go back to entertaining my other guests.  About 30 minutes later, another friend rushes up to me and says, "Bonnie, you have GOT to come see what's going on in the living room!"  I rush into the room to see that Barbie and Gidget have one of my darling girlfriends backed into a corner, they are groping her!  (Full-on seriously groping!)  My friend is obviously terrified and shocked beyond belief.  I am appallled.


I think that one of the most disturbing things about your story is that no one intervened before you arrived to rescue your friend from these women.  Were most of the guests in another room?

I honestly don't know.  I can't believe I've never though of that before!

I don't remember anyone being in the room, I think that most everyone was outside around the fire pit.  But then, I was livid, I may not be remembering correctly.

I did rip a GF of mine's new BF a new one soon after Barbie and Gidget left because he was saying something about "a little hot girl-on-girl action".  He was also asked to leave and never return.

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« Reply #9 on: April 24, 2007, 04:11:23 AM »
I applaud you for your immeadiate action!  I applaud you for standing up for your friend and frog marching those two, ummm "ladies" out of your home.  So many people let horrible things like that slide because "I don't want to make a scene".  Sometimes a scene is necessary, and here it was. 

Their behavior had nothing to do with them being g*a*y and everything to do with them being uncouth, gauche jerks.

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« Reply #10 on: April 24, 2007, 09:41:42 AM »
My intuition tells me that these girls also might not have really been lesbians, but just immature brats out to get a rise out of strangers.


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« Reply #11 on: April 24, 2007, 09:52:34 AM »
Good for you!

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« Reply #12 on: April 24, 2007, 09:56:41 AM »
I applaud you for your immeadiate action!  I applaud you for standing up for your friend and frog marching those two, ummm "ladies" out of your home.  So many people let horrible things like that slide because "I don't want to make a scene".  Sometimes a scene is necessary, and here it was

Their behavior had nothing to do with them being g*a*y and everything to do with them being uncouth, gauche jerks.

Amen to this post!

My intuition tells me that these girls also might not have really been lesbians, but just immature brats out to get a rise out of strangers.

And to this one too!
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« Reply #13 on: April 24, 2007, 12:23:31 PM »
My intuition tells me that these girls also might not have really been lesbians, but just immature brats out to get a rise out of strangers.

I seriously doubt they were.  That's why I took so much pleasure in being completely UN-surprised when they announced it moments after meeting me!

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« Reply #14 on: April 24, 2007, 12:24:27 PM »
I applaud you for your immeadiate action!  I applaud you for standing up for your friend and frog marching those two, ummm "ladies" out of your home.  So many people let horrible things like that slide because "I don't want to make a scene".  Sometimes a scene is necessary, and here it was. 

Their behavior had nothing to do with them being g*a*y and everything to do with them being uncouth, gauche jerks.

Thank you for the compliment.  I just wish I had done mmore.