i have an uncle who likes to bully like that. he is in his 40's and has went so far as to jab his fingers at my eyes because he was furious about not getting the response he wanted out of me. i just picked up the phone and called the police. he got the hell away from me pretty quick at that point, and while he still likes to make his snide remarks and give me dirty looks all the time, (he has an issue with the fact that my grandpa and i were close, he's jealous), he hasn't gotten physical with me again. as hard as it is, i have learned to take the high road with him. i invite him to my kids' birthday parties, and other get togethers, i send him a Christmas card every year. it seems to make it a little harder for him to be such an bacon-fed knave. he still does it, but he's toned it down, because he's learned that i simply won't tolerate his behavior, and i won't hold a grudge like he wants me to, so we can keep fighting, either.