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jfulle5:
OK first it's my chest now it's my back!
I have a very large tattoo on my back, absurdly large, that is an alter piece for a church in Mexico (it was started when I was very young and very very stupid.) Last night I was with my fiance at a local bar with my best friend and her coworkers. I was wearing a shirt that was showing my back, which rarely happens. The guy, one of my friends coworkers, first brushed my hair off my back so he could see it. I ignored him and just assumed he was drunk. well he did it again! I gave him the "go to um..down under" look when he THEN asked "can I see your back? Um yeah but wasn't it a bit late? Seriously do i need to wear a sign around my neck that says don't touch, or do i constantly need to wear turtle necks?

Rose2Bear:
He was definetly wrong to touch you. What he should have done was simply ask to see your tattoo.  If you don't want people to see it, then I guess you shouldn't wear shirts that show it, and if you do wear such shirts once in awhile, you probably have to expect a certain amount of people will want to see it.   But he definetly should not have touched you, simply asking would have been much more proper.

Clara Bow:
People feel the need to touch people, I have no idea why. They can't keep their hands off pregnant woman, women with implants, anything outside of the norm and get ready to get felt up.
That having been said, I always make a very obvious point of stepping away from the person's reaching hand, or brushing them off with a look of annoyance. There are some situations where I do not believe that we are required to be according to Hoyle perfect in our behavior and when someone is putting their hands on you without permission, you have the right to be a little huffy. That's an invasion of your space and privacy.
In the future, don't rely on just a nasty look, move away from the person and say "please don't touch me, I do not care for it." If they persist, eat them alive....

Venus193:
I really can't understand people who constantly want to touch other people.  Maybe it's a cultural thing, maybe it's because my family wasn't/isn't very touchy-feely, but I am firmly of the opinion that touch must be invited or it's rude.

Since you can't see it coming all the time because we're talking about your back, you might have to wear full shirts to avoid it.  It's not as though you will always be running into the same people.

Quesselin:
He was wrong to touch you, of course, but if you have a tattoo (it sounds very nice, btw), that *will* happen. I have many tattoos, and I have actually had people pull the sleeves of my t-shirt so hard it tore in order to see/touch my tattoo.

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