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sourgirl27:
My boyfriend has a female friend who moved back to town after being away for 2 years. while she was gone, she read some book, and has recently decided that she can no longer eat meat, sugar, dairy, or high fructose corn syrup. she is on a high horse about this new lifestyle. she showed up at 9:00am one morning and announced that she had already walked 2.1 miles, and what have i done today? i was feeding my baby his breakfast and told her that i hadn't done anything, i had just gotten up, and i never get any real sleep anyway. (my baby has night terrors all night long). she made a show of mocking me and acting like i am making excuses. a few nights ago, she had some sludgy juice that she wanted me to try. i smelled it, and it was not good. it had barley grass and spirulina in it. i have tried a different brand of the same thing before, and it's too much plant for me. i gave it back and said no thanks. she says "too much healthy for you?" i was annoyed because she acts like i live off of kool aid and pop, when in fact i drink milk and water, with an occasional glass of fruit or V8 juice. i told her i don't have a problem with healthy, i have a problem drinking something that i don't like the smell of. my boyfriend went to her house to help her unload her uhaul, and i loaded my baby into his stroller and walked the 4 blocks that my boyfriend drove. when i got there, she made a big deal out of how "proud" she was of me for walking. that pissed me off because she acts like i'm just a lazy bacon-fed knave that never gets off the couch. i have been going to a gym since before we met, but suddenly it's a big deal that i walked a whopping 4 blocks! her attitude about all of this is getting tiring. i didn't ask for nor do i need her to be my dietician or personal trainer. she just texted me and said what a nice day it is, and have i been out yet? i gave her a simple "no."  how should i handle her trying to push her new-found ways on me without getting too snippy?

Black Delphinium:
If she's more BF's friend than she is yours, I'd just let it go and ignore her snarking.

jibby:
What does your bf think of the way she treats you?  Were you friends with her before she moved away?

I would ignore any texts, emails, phone calls, etc. that she sends to you.  In person, either give her an icy glare for a moment, then change the subject, or just ask her, "what do you mean by that?" or, "why on earth would you think that?"   

Elle:
Ugh, the zealot phase. Lots of people who go through a lifestyle change go through it. Most outgrow it.

Unfortunately I don't know how to get a zealot to stop - because you see, they're on a mission to better the world and all the people in it.  ::)

Sabbyfrog2:
I wouild be tempted to answer, "I was TAKING CARE OF MY CHILD?!" or "You got a chance to get our of the house?! Lucky you! I am lucky if I get a shower. Have you ever taken care of a baby? No? Didn't think so."

what have i done today?
Let's see...
I woke up at dawn to a terrified cyring baby, took an hour to put him back to sleep, he woke up again, I changed him, fed him, changed him again, did a load of laundry, made breakfast, cleaned the kitchen, and all before 8 am. Sorry i didn't get a chance to go for a walk. I was busy taking care of my family."

Of course all of those would be rude. Ignore her. She will eventually wear off.

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