Prayer board etiquette

[IndianInlaw]

Every day, I post on several prayer boards.  One site will allow you to light virtual candles and will inform you of this, via email.  The emails are generated by the site, so you don't know who is who.

Every day, on several sites, I ask for people to pray for Cop to return to me. Whether or not that is wise or unwise is a moot point.

I get lots of prayer notifications.  Some include kind and reassuring messages. 

This morning I received one that says "Forget Cop and get on with your life". 

How flippin' rude to presume they know what's best for me.

I guess I gotten too comfortable with those nice people and let my guard down.

I usually save the messages, but I deleted this one and emptied the trash as fast as I could.

It's a prayer board, for cryin' out loud!

[Suze]

Every day, on several sites, I ask for people to pray for Cop to return to me. Whether or not that is wise or unwise is a moot point.

May I ask who Cop is?

I was not on the original board and was only on the 2nd one for a day or two before it went down. I think I missed something

Suze

[fklwmn]

(((IndianInlaw))) ugh, I'm so sorry. You know I know how you are feeling and you need love and support now, not people telling you how you should be feeling.

When the Marine and I broke up most of my friends were TRYING to be supportive, but they did it in a "he's an yoohoo! Moderators!  Ban me now! and you deserve so much better and you should be SO glad you did not marry him!!!" kind of way, which was NOT what I needed. Of course, now that we are *kind of* back together, guess who I forgot to tell? hmph!

Anyway, I will pray for God to guide you in your pain and relationship with The Cop. I have a hard time praying for things to happen a certain way (even for me). This is the prayer I still say daily about The Marine... God, please light the path you have for me and guide me along it. If this is the man for me, please show me that, and if it is not, please tell me that so that I can move on.

I pray for you to find peace, and I hope it is the peace that you are wishing for.... but even if it's not, you so deserve it!!!!

Whoever emailed you that needs to stay off the prayer boards!

[blue2000]

This morning I received one that says "Forget Cop and get on with your life". 

How awful! How is that a prayer for you? It sounds more like an insult.
Whatever their opinion of your request, they shouldn't be posting this kind of stuff on a prayer board.

[Tabris]

Even if someone was irritated with what you were asking prayers for, it's a prayer board and not an advice board. They should have been quiet and simply prayed for something else.

Are you going to continue posting there?

[Clara Bow]

You know what? I'm going to give good thoughts to you coming to a place where you are at peace with Cop, either with him or without him, whatever makes you feel happiness and wholeness. I can't imagine someone being so negative to you. It seems to me like you've gone on with your life, you'd just like him back in it....

[HogwartsAlum]

I'm so sorry that happened.  That wasn't a very sensitive thing to say at all.

When my ex and I broke up, I spend a whole year and a half begging God for him to come back to me.  He married someone else instead (ex, not God) and it took another year for me to get over that.  Now, with time, I can see that he wasn't right for me, because he didn't want me to go back to school, among other things.  Somehow I doubt that the right one for me would have such an attitude.  The right one would be more supportive of my efforts both at home and to improve myself.  Even though I haven't met anyone since him (yet!), now I'm ready to do so, and I know what I will NOT do.

I don't know what your circumstances are with Cop, but I understand where you are coming from.  I hope that you will find peace as I did.  *hug*

[ZipTheWonder]

Unless the email you received came from God Himself, somebody has mistaken your request for a prayer as a request for advice.

I don't know the nature of the board, but would it be fair game to implore board members to restrict their communication to prayers and to keep opinions to themselves unless solicited?

[Balletmom]

Yes, it was definitely rude.

The prayer request boards are for other people to petition God on your behalf. If the email sender felt you should act in a different way, he/she should have prayed for God to give you wisdom or a smack upside the head, whatever.

But telling you that was out of line.

If the board is moderated, you should let them know. If not, then maybe a request for a "reposting" of appropriate response outlines.

Seriously, I would be horrified to get such a snarky advice at a vulnerable time. 

[Clara Bow]

Especially from people on a prayer board...

[CrayonOutlines]

He married someone else instead (ex, not God)

HA!  I literally laughed out loud!!!!!

[DottyG]

He married someone else instead (ex, not God)

HA!  I literally laughed out loud!!!!!

I was laughing at that, too!  I didn't know if I should mention it, because I didn't want to distract from IIL's initial post.  But, since someone else is laughing, I'll confess that I am, too!

[Tabris]

The prayer request boards are for other people to petition God on your behalf. If the email sender felt you should act in a different way, he/she should have prayed for God to give you wisdom or a smack upside the head, whatever.

And the best possible way to do that is the all-purpose "God, please may Your holy will be done in the life of IndianInLaw."

Unless the person writing to IIL thought s/he knew better than God what was necessary in this situation...

[Alida]

That's just rude!  Hugs!!

[Sandi Papaya]

IIL, how mean and nasty (and nervy!)!! 

You just reminded me that I want to find a St. Anthony devotional candle to light for my relationship with Paul. According to Cuban tradition, St. Anthony is the patron saint of love and relationships. Even if it doesn't help...it can't hurt!!