Thank You Note Question

[MissManager]

For my best friends bachelorette party a we went to a pro-baseball game. A lady my dad knows through business got us the tickets... Actually 8 tickets, 8 awesome tickets for free. So naturally she deserves a handwritten thank you note.

My question is... This lady is an attorney so she has some initials after her name. When addressing the envelope do I include the suffix's or not?

[TootsNYC]

No.

This was a personal, social favor, and so you address her as a social friend, not as a professional.

The fact that her job made it possible for her to get her hands on the tickets has no bearing on the thank-you note.

[MissyMa'am]

No.

This was a personal, social favor, and so you address her as a social friend, not as a professional.

The fact that her job made it possible for her to get her hands on the tickets has no bearing on the thank-you note.

I have a different spin - the tickets came to you through a business relationship of your dad's, which makes it more business than personal to me.  If this thank-you note is being mailed to the attorney's office rather than her home, I would definitely use the suffix.  Even at home, a lot of people with such "titles" are really miffed when people don't use them - because they feel (rightly) that they've earned it.

[Aeris]

I have the same initials, and I agree with TootsNYC - I would find it odd to receive a thank you note with Esq attached.

(You are talking about Esq, right? Not J.D.? Because J.D. would be inappropriate in any case.)

Generally, as far as I'm aware, Esq. is only used out of respect when corresponding with someone IN THEIR CAPACITY as lawyer - corresponding on the litigation or deal going on...

[TootsNYC]

I bet she is going to be really happy to get a thank-you note, esp. a longish one that mentions how happy it made you to be able to treat your friend well.

Warm fuzzies all around!