Sophia, if you are going to explain the position, please explain it to the question I am asking.
I am asking if they are not being disruptive why is it rude. Yes I get it. If someone paid for the time - or heck even if they just reserved it for free - its rude. That's beyond obvious. But that's not in the least bit what I'm inquiring about.
I'm asking if they aren't disruptive such as in the OP after the other wedding was over and the happy couple and their friends and family were leaving why is it rude to use the church as a backdrop? Yes if someone has the space reserved - for money or not - they get the space. I get that. Or if services are going on, its disruptive. Of if they are trampling the landscaping, or taking up parking spaces from guests or worshipers. Really, really, really I do.
But if its early morning or late afternoon one day and there are no services or weddings, or rehearsals going on - why is that "rude" or "just wrong" or "tacky"? Those are all words several posters have thrown out there in this thread. Even in the OP the groom seemed put off these people were returning to use the church as the wedding was leaving and no longer using the church. That's my question. Not why is it rude to be disruptive or intrude upon people who have space reserved - I know the answer to that question. Its not the specifics that I'm asking about, its the general - why is it a blanket statement rude to use a random pretty church as a photo backdrop?
Is it because its a church? If it was a beautiful weeping willow tree, or a full bloom cherry blossom tree in a park would it be rude/tacky/wrong to stop and take photos there even if the couple didn't marry in the park? Even if the park required permits for weddings (but they weren't having their wedding there, they were just taking some photos)? If it was a family on vacation driving through the town and the church wasn't being used at the moment, would it rude for them to get out their car and pose for a picture in front of it? Is it ok when its people in regular clothes versus wedding finery?