My boyfriend has been working hard to get his health in order and has completely turned it around in the last two weeks. He eats better, looks better, has even lost a few pounds. He was whistling and cheery when he came in to tell his Mama and me what the doctor said.
Mama responds with, "Good, because I didn't want to be planning a funeral."
Thank goodness his blood pressure is healthy and he can let comments like that roll off but MY blood pressure shot up and I saw stars. How could she say that? Completely serious, too.
We both ignored it and continued making lunch together but it got me thinking that we actually ignore her a lot. And it's because she makes awful comments a lot. For example, one time at the dinner table I asked boyfriend what osmosis is. He started explaining but in the middle of it, Mama stopped him to tell us that he is wrong and osmosis is....it's ummmm...well, she didn't really remember what it was since it's been soooooo long since she's had to talk about it but boyfriend was wrong. He waited till she was finished and then continued telling me. And to be honest her intelligence cannot compare to his. He is used to her but I am often shocked by the things she will say. And I ignore her a lot. She is very negative and I simply choose not to answer to it or try to inject something positive. For example, every single time we make plans to go out, it is going to rain. She knows it. We will get rained on.
We have to ignore it because it is exasperating to do otherwise. Sometimes I feel guilty ignoring her but if I don't, it will turn into badmouthing me or my boyfriend and I will defend it and get angry. Is this an acceptable way to use silence? On a day to day basis like that with someone I live with?