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Possible Christmas mix-up
freakyfemme:
Hey all,
A little while ago, my mom wrote to me at school to ask me what I wanted for Christmas, and I listed a few things, such as a digital camera (Pablo recommended them for painting class, since shadows of objects and whatnot sometimes move before you get to finish sketching), and a small pair of FAKE pearl stud earrings. Other than that, I basically told my mom to surprise me.
Anyway, yesterday, my brother and I went Christmas shopping together, for gifts for the parents, and he told me that my mom had thought I'd wanted REAL pearl earrings, and gotten me those......I told him there was no way I'd ask for that, because, besides the fact that they could get lost, and couldn't really be worn with jeans and a sweater the way fake ones would, they're just too expensive, especially on top of a digital camera. Also, my mom's taking me shopping for a grad recital dress after Christmas.
Anyway, my brother said I shouldn't tell my mom that I know, because then she'd find out that he told me, and possibly be upset with him, but at the same time, I really don't want her spending that much on me. I know my parents can probably afford it, but I don't want to turn into "one of those girls" with that horrible, entitled, Paris-Hilton-esque "my parents are [insert lucrative profession here], so I can have anything I want!!!" attitude. Fortunately, that attitude is frowned upon at my school, most people I know don't give the spoiled rich kids the time of day......at least, I don't. But, I'm afraid that if someone saw me wearing real pearl earrings (which I didn't even ask for), I could get mistakenly tarred with that brush. However, at the same time, I don't know if I should reveal what my brother told me in confidence, and risk "ruining Christmas" for him and my mom.
Also, my parents have been known to drop ridiculous amounts of money on things for me and my brother, some of which we don't even ask for, need, or want (as well as pointless home-renovation projects, ALL done by professionals, but that's another story), and then complain about the astronomical cost of school tuition, and even basic things like groceries and shampoo.
But, this had me sufficiently worried that last night, I actually got out of bed, went downstairs, and checked the message in my "sent" folder to make sure I'd specified FAKE pearl earrings, and I had......so, I know this isn't really my fault, I'd just like to know what the best course of action would be.
mrsbrandt:
I think you should keep your mouth shut. You don't have to wear the real pearl earrings often and you can just buy yourself a pair of fakes for everyday use. I found some cute ones at Sears for $7. Your mom obviously got you the gifts because she wanted to and I think it would wind up being ungracious (and get your brother in trouble) if you said anything. Just try accepting the gifts as best you can and enjoy them.
Chocolate Cake:
Real pearl (stud) earrings aren't terribly expensive -- they could have easily found a pair for $60-$75, unless they are in a heavy gold or platinum setting, are black Tahitian, or have diamond accents, of course. Either way, if you don't feel comfortable wearing them with jeans, just stick them into a safety deposit box or somewhere else that's safe until the time comes when you feel you'd wear them more frequently.
DottyG:
Freaky, dear. With all due respect, you need to find more important things to worry about! :D
Your mother wanted to get you something special that's going to be something that you'll be able to treasure for many, many years to come. Real pearl earrings aren't out of sight, expense-wise. But, they are special. And, they'll be something that you can treasure long after fake ones fall apart.
There is absolutely no reason why you can't wear them with jeans. Pearls look lovely with casual attire - just as they look with formal dress. Wear them and love them.
Keep your mouth shut about your brother's blabbing and just be a gracious gift recipient.
More people wish they had the kinds of problems you're having. ;)
freakyfemme:
--- Quote from: Chocolate Cake on December 18, 2006, 04:06:03 PM ---Real pearl (stud) earrings aren't terribly expensive -- they could have easily found a pair for $60-$75
--- End quote ---
Well, I sure hope so.....$60-$75 for earrings is still way too much in my world, but I remember I specifically requested SMALL earrings, with just plain, spherical (fake) pearls on studs, so here's hoping the earrings my mom found me were more towards the bottom end of the price range. I just wish she hadn't sprung for real ones, not only because of the practicality issue, and the "snob" issue, but also because I'm afraid she'll throw it in my face later, when it's time to pay school fees or buy groceries.
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