On the way home from work, it somehow came up that my mom purchased my brother not only Blahblah Movie, which I'd gotten him on his request, but she'd gotten him Blahblah Movie in a boxed set with Whatsit Movie, as BM is actually the sequel to WM, among other things. My brother actually already has WM, so he doesn't need another copy of that, but my mom doesn't know that. Anyway, I asked my mom nicely if she could maybe hold off on giving him those movies (since she'd gotten him other stuff), so I could give him BM (which was the only thing I'd gotten him, as it was pretty expensive--$30 for a movie is a bit steep by students' standards), since he'd asked me for it, and it'd be harder for me to exchange it and find a replacement gift, but she said "Too bad, so sad, you should have asked me first, I bought it a long time ago."; which is all well and good, except while she was doing that, I was at school, with exams, juries, papers, paintings, rehearsals, etc., coming out my ears.
So, I asked my mom to tell me everything ELSE she got for my brother, so I wouldn't end up replacing one duplicate gift with another duplicate gift. It so happened that we were in the area of the video store this evening, when we went to pick up my friend because he was coming over but didn't have a ride, so I was able to just run in and exchange it, but now I have to figure out something else to get my brother. The ice skates probably aren't going to happen, because he has huge feet (mens' size 12), so buying him any kind of footwear is an adventure in and of itself, let alone a surprise pair of skates, which I thought I could get my dad to try on in my brother's place, but no dice, his feet are only size 10 1/2.......but that's a whole other story. Anyway, back to my main point, was I rude for suggesting that my mom hold off on giving my brother Blahblah Movie, or was my mom rude for making me go through the hassle of finding a replacement gift, and saying I was thoughtless for feeling inconvenienced?
Edited to add: I know buying him another movie sounds logical, but I can never keep track of which movies he owns, or has on his computer. I only originally bought him BM because he saw it and said he wanted it, and he hates surprises, so I was sort of grateful that he told me point-blank what he wanted.