I don't want to spend any time with her. *Update, #19*

[LB]

Well, I called Pearl yesterday, but not in time. She looked up Jerry's phone number and called him instead. She looked up a stranger's phone number and called to ask him for tickets to the event. Apparently, it led to a confusing conversation for the first couple of minutes. When Jerry finally realized that this was a "friend of a friend" he of course told her that he had no more tickets left. He did tell her where we were seated, and she called the vendor and got seats near us, but not next to us. Not too bad.

Thankfully, she did not ask me again about activities outside the event.

[rhirhi]

Nothing really to add- it's just that my sister and her fiance's names are the same as one of your couples' names- Jerry and Abbie...lol

[TootsNYC]

Ah, too bad you couldn't get to Jerry, to tell him to not release the seat assignments.

You might mention this to him anyway; it would be a good policy for him not to assume that "a friend of a friend" is entitled to such information, any more than they are entitled to your phone number, etc., from him.

It would be a good educational experience for him, and I am sure you could explain it in a way that doesn't make him feel bad.

But you VERY definitely need to make sure that *everyone* in your group is ready to shunt her aside, because she is going to descend on you. And as pushy as she sounds, she's going to wait for you as you leave your seats, and try to tag along wherever you go.

Get a plan in place!

[MamaMootz]

Toots, you must be my brain sister, because I was posting on here to post the very same thing.

Make plans now, OP, because if she's sitting near you, she's going to try and glom on to everything you guys are doing.

[Nurvingiel]

You might mention this to him anyway; it would be a good policy for him not to assume that "a friend of a friend" is entitled to such information, any more than they are entitled to your phone number, etc., from him.

Oh heck yes. There should be a co-ordinated strategy between all of you to avoid this person.

It sounds mean, but that's what happens when someone with boundary issues tries to horn in on your plans. It's just the way it's gotta go down.

[caranfin]

You might mention this to him anyway; it would be a good policy for him not to assume that "a friend of a friend" is entitled to such information, any more than they are entitled to your phone number, etc., from him.

Oh heck yes. There should be a co-ordinated strategy between all of you to avoid this person.

Yes, you're going to have to have a plan for avoiding them when they find you at the event. Make sure there is no "weak link" who will break down and say "Why don't you guys come with us?"

[secretrebel]

I don;t think the OP can avoid saying hello when friend lies in wait for her. But she does need to rehearse an exit strategy.

"We have to go now, take care," is one good phrase, and don't get drawn into conversation about where you are going and what the plan for dinner etc is. Don't agree to maybe meet up later or she will call your cell to ask where you are meeting up.

[LifeOnPluto]

You might mention this to him anyway; it would be a good policy for him not to assume that "a friend of a friend" is entitled to such information, any more than they are entitled to your phone number, etc., from him.

Oh heck yes. There should be a co-ordinated strategy between all of you to avoid this person.

Yes, you're going to have to have a plan for avoiding them when they find you at the event. Make sure there is no "weak link" who will break down and say "Why don't you guys come with us?"

Ah yes, the "weak link"! I've seen this happen before, where the "weak link" caves, and invites the Annoying/Rude Person along. The rest of the group gives a collective, silent sigh.

It looks like this woman is determined to join your group on vacation, come heck or high water. Stay strong, and fob her off wherever possible.