DH has a friend, who I think I've posted about before. He's rude, loud, disrespectful, misinformed about a lot of topics, and generally unpleasant. I put up with him for a few years, even though after every meeting I liked him less and less. The last straw for me was last year, when DH invited him (I'll call him D) and another friend to watch the Superbowl at our condo. The Superbowl ends pretty late for us, since we're on the East Coast. But D wouldn't leave, and when the other friend made motions to go home, D would convince him not to go. It was starting to get really late, like after midnight, and then they all got into an extremely loud discussion. Actually, they were all yelling. I waited for DH to tell his friends to keep it down, but he didn't, so finally I had to. D actually argued with me, saying that our neighbors wouldn't mind. Um, actually, they probably do, and in fact, I also minded. Then D told me to go to bed, he wouldn't mind. Excuse me, I am NOT your child. Because in DH's culture, it's apparently rude to tell guests that it's time to go home, I didn't. But, I was giving DH evil glares, and DH at least told his friends that they couldn't be yelling anymore. I had made the mistake of mentioning earlier that I didn't have to go to work the next day, so apparently D felt that meant he could stay at our house as long as he wanted. Whenever I yawned, or tried to subtly imply that he should leave, he said "but you don't have to work tomorrow, so what's the big deal?"
Finally, sometime after 2am, D and the other friend got up to leave. I told DH that D was NEVER going to be invited to our place again. DH tried to defend his friend a little, but even he admitted that he wished he would have left earlier. And to DH's credit, he's never invited D over to our place again.
Unfortunately, this past weekend, D showed up uninvited at our place. DH was throwing me a bday party (turned 30!), and invited between 15-20 people. Somehow, word got out that there was a party at our place, and over 30 people must have showed up. Most of the people who showed were fine, except for D. Of course. The party had winded down around 11pm, except for a few close friends. I should mention that most of the people invited were DH's friends, so from the same cultural background as DH. (All my family and friends live in a different state, so that's why this party was mostly DH's friends.) Anyway, around 2am, the only people left were D, and the same friend from the Superbowl party (I'll call him Ted.) This time Ted was here with his wife and 2 year old kid. Ted's wife had been asking for them to go home for a while, but Ted wanted to stay longer. And D was also telling Ted to have just one more, every time. Ted was easily convinced to have another one, each time. I was getting increasing annoyed, and finally told DH that the party was over. He said "okay, okay - just let them finish their beers". At 3am, D asked DH if there was anything else to eat. There wasn't, except for some uncooked meat. So he asked DH to fire up the grill. He also asked DH all of this in their language, so I didn't understand what they were saying. DH was actually going to do it, but I think he clearly didn't want to. When he got up, I asked him what he was doing and he explained what D wanted. I said "absolutely not! It's 3am! We're not going to cook more food now." I stopped short of saying that everyone needed to leave now, but they did finally leave at 3:30am. I again told DH that D was never being invited here again, and DH wholeheartedly agreed.