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Asharah

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From E-Hell Blog: Do People Listen To The Lyrics?
« on: August 05, 2009, 12:23:08 AM »


After reading an National Public Radio survey of listeners about the most inappropriate wedding songs they’ve heard, I had to wonder if people bother to actually listen to the lyrics being sung in songs they process down the aisle to or dance that first dance.

The winning songs are:

1.  Send In The Clowns by Judy Collins.     Yes, people have actually walked down the aisle to meet their beloved and begin a new chapter in their lives to this sad dirge of a song.  And what is worse, it’s a sad break-up song that almost makes me want to slash me wrists from the melancholy funk I’d been in listening to it.

Just when I stopped opening doors
Finally finding the one that I wanted - was yours
Making my entrance again with my usual flair
So sure of my lines - then nobody’s there

Don’t you love a farce; my fault I fear
I thought that you’d want what I want - sorry my dear
But where are the clowns - there ought to be clowns
Maybe next year


 2.  You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling by the Righteous Brothers.  Not exactly my first…or hundredth choice of music to accompany my first dance with my husband but some people obviously have different standards than I do.   
Now There’s No Welcome Look
In Your Eyes When I Reach For You
And Girl You’re Starting To Criticize Little Things I Do
It Makes Me Just Feel Like Crying Baby
’cause Baby, Something Beautiful’s Dying

 

If I were a guest forced to witness this first dance, I’d have serious reservations as to the health and longevity of the marriage.
3.  The Lady is a Tramp by Frank Sinatra.  Just because Sinatra sings it doesn’t make it an appropriate wedding song but some dinglehead chose to sing it to his new wife at the reception.   It just doesn’t seem particularly smart to sing a song to one’s wife, with her relatives in attendance, with the word “tramp” in it 14 times.
 
 Doesn’t like dice games, with sharpies and frauds
Won’t go to harlem, in Lincolns or Fords
Won’t dish the dirt, with the rest of those broads
That’s why the lady is a tramp


Oh, cute. The song also refers to women as “broads”.  Lovely, simply lovely.

 
4.  La donna e mobile by Verdi (Rigoletto)    The translation from the Italian of  this famous opera piece is:
Woman is flighty
Like a feather in the wind,
She changes her voice — and her mind.
Always sweet,  pretty face,
In tears or in laughter, — she is always lying.
Always miserable is he who trusts her,
He who confides in her — his unwary heart!


Yeppers, just the right words to sing during a wedding ceremony.   And now you know why some churches and pastors forbid secular music to be played in church wedding ceremonies. 

Okay, what is the most bizarre song you've heard at a wedding?
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« Reply #1 on: August 05, 2009, 01:06:27 AM »
It's not "wrong," but you've gotta expect a few raised eyebrows.  A lot of people consider the music selection to be a part of the content of the wedding ceremony.  If you're walking down the aisle to a song about people who have broken up, people are going to notice (and probably be a little amused.)

I went to a wedding a few years ago where the bride and groom wrote their own vows.  These vows were very non-committal for a wedding ceremony.  They basically said that they were happy to be together at this stage in their lives, and if at some point down the road it would benefit them to split up, they will look back on this time kindly.  Sure, it's their wedding and they can promise each other whatever they want...but I couldn't help but think "Wait, did they just promise to have a civil divorce in a few years?" 

Basically, I think that if you do something outside what people are expecting, which you are within your rights to do. they're going to notice and probably discuss it.  Just look at the dancing wedding party on YouTube.

Oh, and as for bad song choices.  I have a friend who is getting married early next year.  Her future MIL really wants Alan Jackson's "Remember When" for their parent/child dance.  "Remember When" is a lovely song about a couple who is looking back on their many, many years together (including the first time they played scrabble.)  It would be great for an anniversary...not so much for a parent/child dance!

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« Reply #2 on: August 05, 2009, 10:08:26 AM »
Actually, I don't mind "The Lady Is a Tramp". I've always seen it as a song about a woman who doesn't care what other people say about her unconventional ways, because she has her own integrity.

And "broads" is pretty mild, considering the way women are referred to in songs today.
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« Reply #3 on: August 05, 2009, 10:28:41 AM »
a) perhaps that song holds special meaning to the couple regardless of the song writer's meaning and b) the First Dance is just that- the first dance as a married couple.

It's not "wrong," but you've gotta expect a few raised eyebrows.

I'd agree with both of these. There are a few songs that might be absolutely crashingly inappropriate, but I'm all for more unusual choices - especially those which mean something special to the couple.  Equally, though - as with any particularly unconventional or non-traditional aspect of the wedding - the HC going this route should realistically expect that there may be some comment about it, and to explain why they opted for it.

(Says the woman who wants Jonathan Coulton's 'Still Alive' at her wedding/civil partnership. 8) [Hey, just because I am lacking in an SO at present doesn't mean I can't consider these things. Remind me to add 'Portal fan: desirable' to the hypothetical personals ad. ;) ])

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« Reply #4 on: August 05, 2009, 10:38:37 AM »
DH is an enormous fan of Queen.  I love Bowie with an almost scary passion.  That does not mean, however, that we wanted to dance to "Under Pressure" at our wedding.  I also vetoed the playing of "White Wedding" despite my love of Billy Idol (I let the DJ - a friend of mine - get away with Rebel Yell though ;)). 
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« Reply #5 on: August 05, 2009, 10:44:56 AM »
The DJ also sometimes gets the music wrong.  I know that at our wedding, he started playing entirely the wrong song for our first dance, realized it, and fixed it.  For the father-daughter/mother-son dance, though, he played the wrong one (something random and probably inappropriate; I've blocked it out) but shrugged and let it go on.  Not much you can do at that point but grin and bear it.

Some of them might raise eyebrows, sure, but it's not polite to go about gossiping about it.

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« Reply #6 on: August 05, 2009, 10:48:46 AM »
Actually, I don't mind "The Lady Is a Tramp". I've always seen it as a song about a woman who doesn't care what other people say about her unconventional ways, because she has her own integrity.

And "broads" is pretty mild, considering the way women are referred to in songs today.

Yes, I totally agree.  The song is about doing what you like and not comforming to society's roles.  Of course, originally the song was in the first person

I go to Coney - the beach is divine.
I go to ball games - the bleachers are fine.
I get the papers and read every line:
That's why the lady is a tramp!

I like a prize fight that isn't a fake.
I love the rowing on Central park lake.
I go to opera and stay wide awake:
That's why the lady is a tramp!

I like the green grass under my shoes, what can I lose?
I'm flat! That's that!
I'm all alone when I lower my lamp:
That's why the lady is a tramp!
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« Reply #7 on: August 05, 2009, 10:50:20 AM »
I was astonished that Sting's 'Every Breath You Take' wasn't on the list.

For a while it was a very popular wedding song, and Sting himself was amazed by this. Not only is it a post break-up song, it's about a stalker!



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« Reply #8 on: August 05, 2009, 01:16:53 PM »
I had a friend who used Remember When as her dance with her dad. I always thought it was SUPER inappropriate! Especially the part when they are talking about the first time they played scrabble!

Although, our first dance song probably raised a few eye brows as well, so who am I to talk! We chose Thank You by Johnny Reid, which is a man looking back on his life with his wife when she dies. But the lyrics are just so beautiful, and you wouldn't know what he meant if you didn't watch the video, so we didn't care! There was something about saying "Thank you for loving me" on our wedding day that really appealed to us!

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« Reply #9 on: August 05, 2009, 01:20:00 PM »
Born to be Wild at the last church wedding I went to.  It was awesome.  Not truly awful, but it got some great reactions, though technically it was the recession song (and yes it was a biker wedding).

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Re: From E-Hell Blog: Do People Listen To The Lyrics?
« Reply #10 on: August 05, 2009, 01:52:56 PM »
My uncle's last wife walked down the aisle to the theme from Laverne & Shirley...

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« Reply #11 on: August 05, 2009, 02:03:13 PM »
4.  La donna e mobile by Verdi (Rigoletto)    The translation from the Italian of  this famous opera piece is:
Woman is flighty
Like a feather in the wind,
She changes her voice — and her mind.
Always sweet,  pretty face,
In tears or in laughter, — she is always lying.
Always miserable is he who trusts her,
He who confides in her — his unwary heart!


Yeppers, just the right words to sing during a wedding ceremony.   And now you know why some churches and pastors forbid secular music to be played in church wedding ceremonies. 

Of course, double irony is that the character singing this is a confirmed seducer and betrayer, and one of those "flighty" women gives her life to save his. "Rigoletto" is, as a whole, not a happy source for wedding music.
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« Reply #12 on: August 05, 2009, 02:30:33 PM »
OT, but didn't a former US President dance with the Queen of England to "The Lady is a Tramp" at some fancy party?
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« Reply #13 on: August 05, 2009, 02:34:19 PM »
OT, but didn't a former US President dance with the Queen of England to "The Lady is a Tramp" at some fancy party?

Gerald Ford, I believe...

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« Reply #14 on: August 05, 2009, 02:38:01 PM »
OT, but didn't a former US President dance with the Queen of England to "The Lady is a Tramp" at some fancy party?

Gerald Ford, I believe...

Ah, yes. Quite the social faux pas.
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