Poking around in the iTunes store, I saw that there was an instrumental version of "Be Still My Soul" on an album that touted itself as "wedding music."
While it's a beautiful hymn, and one of my favorites, I think I'd be wondering a little about the state of the relationship if I heard it in a wedding ceremony...
I mean, you only have to get as far as the second line to hear: "Bear patiently the cross of grief or pain."
Well, that could make sense, in a ceremony that talks about "for better or for worse".
Also, the melody is taken from "Finlandia," by Jean Sibelius, so while I don't think the hymn itself is in anyway inappropriate for a wedding, the tune itself is simply a lovely piece of classical music.
When DH and I got married, probably the only thing that could have raised eyebrows was the entrance of the wedding party to the reception-we went with the Barenaked Ladies "Who Needs Sleep?" mainly because by that point in the decision making process, I was just sick and tired of making decisions...And several of the members of the wedding party had been involved in the theater when we were all in high school, and lots of sleepless nights occurred! DH and I entered to the fanfare from the Overture to the musical "The Scarlet Pimpernel." It's one of our favorite musicals, and I thought it would be fun to have a fanfare! Otherwise, we danced our first dance to "Come Away with Me," by Nora Jones (it's in 3/4 time, so we were able to waltz to it!), the parent/child dance was "I Hope you Dance" by LeAnn Womack, and that was it for specialized music at the reception. We weren't allowed to have secular music in the church for the ceremony, so no fun options there.