If concern on gifts is really the issue...
I know you are never to mention gifts. But a friend married in November overseas. They told everyone they'd do a in town celebration later. They chose New Years Day. Their invite said something around
A New Year, A New Journey
Jack & Jill invite you to join us as we celebrate our union.
Open House from 2 to 8pm
Kids, friends and visiting relatives are all welcome
A buffet of revolving menu items will be offered through the day*
RSVP We only wish to celebrate with you. But if you chooseJill@xxx.com
commemorate our union with a gift, a donation to the Alzheimer Foundation
would be appreciated.
*She owns a catering company. It was a gourmet extravaganza. We hated to leave.