Please give me your opinion - was I rude?

[JudiAU]

I think you made a reasonable assumption and had planned a reasonable timeline. But when it was clear that she really didn't want to met you I think you should have dropped it because you had plans with her first. As the other poster stated, the conversation turned sharply into badgering and bringing up the earlier etiquette issues made it worse.

[mimi_cat]

Thanks, all.

I know I've only got a couple of posts according to our spiffy new post counter, but I've followed this message board for awhile now. 

I know that I can always count on everyone to be honest, rather than telling me what I want to hear. Much appreciated.

I did get another email back from her, accepting my apology and saying she was sorry as well, that she had a bad day yesterday and was reacting to me the way she did because of it.   She then said it might not be a bad idea for her to meet some new people so she'll think about happy hour. 

In hindsight, I probably should have just declined my co-workers.  It's been a hard year with re-locating and not having many new friends, so I am trying to jump on any social opportunities that I can, and I think I went about it the wrong way.  My intent truly was to include her in something I thought she'd enjoy.   

In any case, we've worked it out.  I usually have the patience for dealing with her, but it's been wearing thing.

Thanks everyone, I appreciate your time.

[ShadesOfGrey]

glad you guys worked it out 

[Buffy2424]

That's great; sounds like you are both being gracious in hindsight

[DottyG]

[Your post]

Yea.

[CrayonOutlines]

I'm not sure if there will be other happy hours.  It's not something that happens frequently at my company.

Glad to hear your cousin and you worked things out.

When you said what I quoted above, my first reaction was, "Hey!  YOU can be the cool kid who organizes happy hours!"  Maybe some of your co-workers would enjoy it as much as you, but everyone is waiting for everyone else to step up to the plate to be Cruise Director (which is how I used to refer to myself when I worked because I was always the one who got people together).

[mimi_cat]

That is a really good idea!  I think I'm at the point where I would be comfortable doing that.  Thanks.