WTG Hubby!! I agreed with those who were saying that while your inlaws may be loopier than a pack of loons, your biggest problem was DH. Judeo-Christian weddings usually include some phrasing about leaving your father and mother and "cleaving" to your new spouse. Whatever your religious background, I'm thinking the concept pretty much applies. You have to prioritize and frankly you can't hold spouse and parents equally important. You are his wife, you are right, and frankly, you are the one that he shares happy time with. He needs to remember who he wants to please the most and that better be the woman who sleeps beside him at night!!