+1 Guest in RSVP when not specified in invitation

[MadMadge43]

What an obnoxious jerk!

But even obnoxious jerks need to be pacified sometimes. Saying, there's going to be plenty of cute single guys at the wedding, and we're sitting all the singles together...so you never know.

I always loved meeting men at weddings, I have no idea why single people even want to bring dates to such a great place to meet people.

[Lorelei_Evil]

You are completely in the right.  The woman clearly has issues.  Did she really say "the misery of being single" ?   Something tells me she'd be miserable single, married, widowed or divorced.  At any rate, the etiquette faux pas was hers, not yours. 

I have to POD this.  But then, I've never found being single to be miserable!   

[kingsrings]

ITA w/everything said. Unfortunately though, just about every single person I know would do that same as this friend tried to do and think absolutely nothing of it. To them, they just can't be expected to attend a wedding alone, and have every right to bring a date, even if it's the flavor of the week. If they were to be told no, they'd think the couple was being very rude to them.

[Hawkwatcher]

I don't know anyone who would do this.  At my wedding, I had single guests and none of them ever requested to bring a date. 

[PoisonIvy]

I think the friend is very rude.  As was mentioned before, she always has the right to decline the invitation.  I've attended weddings solo and had a great time, and I once declined an invitation where I knew I would feel awkward.  But I would never, ever ask to bring a +1 if "and guest" wasn't specified on the invitation.

[vandalfan]

A wedding is not The Ark. It is not necessary to go two-by-two.

[KeenReader]

What an obnoxious jerk!

But even obnoxious jerks need to be pacified sometimes. Saying, there's going to be plenty of cute single guys at the wedding, and we're sitting all the singles together...so you never know.

I always loved meeting men at weddings, I have no idea why single people even want to bring dates to such a great place to meet people.

Unfortunately, many weddings turn out not to be great places to meet people.  Due to bad seating arrangements and other factors, sometimes single people get seated with all couples or others who are not open to meeting other people; relatives get seated together and aren't encouraged or are actively discouraged from talking to other people at the wedding (this is what usually happens to me), the wedding might be over-scheduled with "special dances," speeches, slide shows, and other things that discourage talking to each other, music is turned up too loud, and so on.

The only weddings I get invited to are those of my relatives, so I always end up getting seated with them.  Aside from their being relatives, they're also all almost married.  It turns into a family reunion more than a "place to meet people" for me.  I barely danced at the last few weddings I was at-because I had practically no one to dance with.

[mechtilde]

This is why you have to be careful with seating arrangements at receptions. Also, gentlemen in the wedding party should take care to ensure that they dance with any single ladies present- that includes the Groom.

Although this can backfire- we had a ceilidh at our reception and DH danced with the best man's widowed mother. Unfortunately the dance turned out to be the most complex one of the evening and as they are both German and not familiar with the dance they got a bit tangled up. The g*a*y Gordons isn't easy unless you've done it a few times.