Facebook: Tag! You're Eek!

[Morticia]

Someone posted a bunch of pictures from an event we all attended to their FB account, and tagged me. Unfortunately, none of these photos of me are very good (okay, they're awful, taken at the most unflattering angles he could find). I'm not saying he did it on purpose, but I wouldn't hire him as a photographer, KWIM? So my question is, would it be horribly rude to untag myself? Is there something I should say to him if I do so? I've only met this guy once, he's an old friend of DH's.

[Shoo]

Untag away.  It's not rude at all.

[secretrebel]

It's fine. Perfectly acceptable to detag yourself. People tag you so you know the picture exists, if you don't like the picture you remove the tag.

[TootsNYC]

You don't have to explain why. People have lots of reasons to untag themselves.

But if he notices, he may assume that you in general don't want to be tagged, and he may refrain. Then, if you tag yourself (can you do that?), he'll be all confused.   

(never explain    )

[kingsrings]

Some months ago I posted a bunch of pictures from our elementary school days. I tagged all my classmates who were in the photos, who were on my friends list. One of them went to each of her photos and untagged herself. Why, I don't know, she looked perfectly decent and they weren't embarrassing photos at all. But she had her reasons, and I respect that. I did have one of my friends also posted a school photo, and she tagged me - except it wasn't me, so I untagged myself.

[Morticia]

Thanks everyone! I'll feel better once I'm not identified.

[gmama]

It could also be that if your picture settings are set to 'everyone can see' it might be an intrusion on their privacy.  e.g. I have business friends that I keep in touch with on facebook.  If a good friend of mine posted a picture of me drunk and tagged me then I wouldn't want my business friends to know that it existed... all hypothetical, of course  

edited to add: I don't think it would be rude to untag yourself - you could use the example I just mentioned as an excuse.

[RobinJ]

You can definitely untag yourself.  I have done that recently.  I have my FB page set to very private and all my pictures are set to 'Only Friends' visibility.  If anyone tries to tag me in a photo, I always untag myself as a precaution.  DH has a job with a high security clearance and we have to be extremely careful what is out there about us.

[guihong]

Agreed with the PP's, but this is the best title in a long time .  I'm sure you weren't as "eek" as you think!

gui

[trailgrrl]

I have some pic from High School of friends that I was thinking about posting on FB, except for one friend has an extremely unfortunate hair disaster in those pic.  Essentially, he mom took her to get her hair cut after getting gassed at the dentist, and she leaned forward at juuust the wrong time....... and ended up with bangs bout  1/4 inch long. 

They're cool pictures, but I won't post them on FB until I get her ok.

[siamesecat2965]

I am a very private person, and also don't take the most flattering photos (in my opinion).  I HATE being tagged in photos, so i always will untag myself.  No one has ever said anything, but if they did, i would simply explain I'm not ok with my name being out there, as a lot of my friends have their pages (where said photos are posted) more open to viewing, i.e. friends of freinds can view photos, and so on. I know I can't stop friends from posting photos of me, and I can deal with that, but the tagging simply makes me uncomfortable.

I also do something similar when posting photos from way back that may make some folks uncomfortable if ALL my friends can veiw them, so I've simply set that particular album to where only me and that person can see it.  Maybe a bit extreme, but I'd like to think that someone woudl do the same for me!

[ilrag]

If you don't want to answer questions about why you untagged something just wait a week and then untag.  No one ever notices.

[Information_queen]

You can definitely untag yourself.  I have done that recently.  I have my FB page set to very private and all my pictures are set to 'Only Friends' visibility.  If anyone tries to tag me in a photo, I always untag myself as a precaution.  DH has a job with a high security clearance and we have to be extremely careful what is out there about us.

I do the same thing with photos, but in my case it's because my MIL friended my BIL's friend, and the friend chose to make some very nasty comments about my weight and profession, and we were emailed the comments because we were tagged in the photo. Now he can't see any photos I'm tagged in, because I really don't want to ever see such comments again.

[TootsNYC]

Agreed with the PP's, but this is the best title in a long time .  I'm sure you weren't as "eek" as you think!

gui

Pod. Right down to the 


(there is a school of thought that says it's rude to tag people without asking them first.)

[audrey11]

Some months ago I posted a bunch of pictures from our elementary school days. I tagged all my classmates who were in the photos, who were on my friends list. One of them went to each of her photos and untagged herself. Why, I don't know, she looked perfectly decent and they weren't embarrassing photos at all. But she had her reasons, and I respect that. I did have one of my friends also posted a school photo, and she tagged me - except it wasn't me, so I untagged myself.

Your classmate may have done this because all of the comments by everyone tagged in the photo were overwhelming her inbox.