Facebook: Tag! You're Eek!

[Suze]

all mom would have to do is reupload the pics?

I don't know - Not on facebook

just asking....

[Nurvingiel]

all mom would have to do is reupload the pics?

I don't know - Not on facebook

just asking....

I hardly ever post photos, but this does make sense.

[Brentwood]

It's never rude to untag yourself from photos. I do it. I don't always want every photo taken of me to be visible to everyone on my friends list. No problem.

[Wordgeek]

I limit photos of myself to a specific group of people.  A friend (in real life ) showed me how to do that.

[Brentwood]

I limit photos of myself to a specific group of people.  A friend (in real life ) showed me how to do that.

There are some people I want to have see some pictures of me but not others, so I'd still have to untag the undesirable pictures.

[Cz. Burrito]

Untagging is definitely not rude and is certainly preferable to, say, hypothetically...

Showing the photos to your boyfriend (who is NOT my FB friend and otherwise would not have seen the photos that were posted), and complaining about how awful they are and what an embarrassment they are, such that he gets irate on your behalf and, the next time I have to see him, makes tons of passive-aggressive remarks about how rude it is to post photos on FB without the subject's permission.  Meanwhile, the subject of the photos has not said a single word, and, additionally, left herself tagged in the photos.  (If it makes a difference, the subject was my niece and the photos were from her childhood.)

So, yes, I think the way to handle unflattering Facebook photos is to untag yourself, and, if you really don't want other people to see them, very politely request that the poster remove the photos from their album.

[estee]

Some months ago I posted a bunch of pictures from our elementary school days. I tagged all my classmates who were in the photos, who were on my friends list. One of them went to each of her photos and untagged herself. Why, I don't know, she looked perfectly decent and they weren't embarrassing photos at all. But she had her reasons, and I respect that. I did have one of my friends also posted a school photo, and she tagged me - except it wasn't me, so I untagged myself.

Well, as they say "You are your own worst critic.".  This applies to the girl you know who untagged herself.  I mean, lets admit it -- most of us dissect photos of ourselves, especially this day in age when we're getting tagged for all to see on Facebook, MySpace, etc!  I know everyone says I am cute and "funny" in pictures (which would normally  be compliments, right?) but little do they know I was trying to look sophisticated and ..well, as gorgeous as possible.  I so obviously failed, or they would've said how pretty I looked, or some other ridiculousness.  So, "Cute" and "You're such a ham" aren't the describing words I was looking for.... thus making me an even more harsh critic of ANY photo involving me in any capacity

I usually don't go so far as to criticize the pics of me as a "youngin'"... because, lets face it, those are SUPPOSED to be downright cute and fun, and maybe embarassing now and then!  That's what I think, anyway.  Your classmate obviously does not share the same opinion.  She probably is just as much of a critic about present-day pictures as she is of her childhood ones, for whatever reason.  Yes, she may even recoil at photos from her youth, even in pictures when she was young, cute, and carefree, where most would say "Oh how adorable!".  I know its hard for a lot of us to fathom... but you are exactly right when you say "..she had her reasons, and I respect that".  Just leave it at that, and all will be well No need to feel insulted (although I do understand that scanning photos and tagging DOES take up a decent portion of one's free time!).  She is not obligated to provide an answer of any sort to anyone who asks why she untagged herself (I've had friends do that when others untag themselves.. awkward!  Its something better left alone...)

[toontownnutter]

In your privacy settings you can set it photos tagged of me viewed by "only me" Those photos will still be in your mum's/friend's album but they won't show up in your album.