I know that many kids are loathe to friend their parents or other adults because they sometimes take too seriously a status update or otherwise comment in a serious way on something that is meant not to be serious.
Now, let me preface this by saying that never in all my facebooking have I ever put cryptic messages about my state of mind. I have blue periods but the last thing I want is attention through Facebook for that. Occasionally, I will put something in a status update about having a cold but that's about it. And that can backfire too--my DH did that and his much older cousin shared it as gossip with his mom who called him to scold him for not taking enough Vitamin C. (There's a reason he never tells his parents when he has a cold...)
Anyway, sometimes I post lyrics to songs that I am listening to that seem pertinent to me at the time.
This was my posting:
There nothing better than a car A hundred miles
per hour in the dark I close my eyes and take my hands off the
wheel No better way to find out who you are
Facebook does not allow paragraph breaks so it doesn't look as poetic as it would with them.
With them, it would look like this, although you can kind of see because there are capital letters where there shouldn't be:
There nothing better than a car
A hundred miles per hour in the dark
I close my eyes and take my hands off the wheel
No better way to find out who you are
So, today a friend of mine comments on it "Yikes! Call me!"
I post: Why, what's going on?
She replies:well, if you're wanting to go 100mph in the dark and take your hands off the wheel to find out who you are, it sounds as if you already know that you are ready to fly into the arms of death
And I say: Or maybe I'm just listening to <favorite band>
And then, she replies: OK, sounds reasonable
Here's the thing. If you really thought one of your friends was suicidal, wouldn't you put that in a message that only they could see? I would. For one thing, it would save me the embarrassment of overreacting to what are just song lyrics. And if there really was something wrong, then my friend could have the opportunity to open up in private if something really was wrong.
For the record, the guys who wrote the song grew up near desert roads where you literally could go 100 mph in the dark and take your hands off the wheel to scare yourself silly and still live to tell about it.
Sooooo, should people not take things so seriously or am I just too old to use Facebook with my too old friends?