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Cyndi:
This Saturday, my dad got up at 6 a.m., struck out into the chilly morning and drove to Home Depot to buy my mom a new ladder for Christmas. Msgr John(pastor of my church) happened to be there buying poinsettias. He told me he chatted with my dad for a bit and my dad's eyes lit up when he mentioned my mom's name during the conversation.

So that kinda got me thinking about what love is and what it makes people do...I think I'll list a few things my parents have done for each other as examples. Feel free to list your own! :)


Love is:

Staying at the hospital 24/7 after a spouse has suffered a perforated colon and is on the brink of death. Staying in the chapel for 55 minutes out of every hour and then going back to ICU for 5 minutes just to be with them, then going back to the chapel for another 55 minutes for a week straight(with maybe three hours of sleep a night on a cold bench).

Getting up at 6:30 to fix egg sandwiches for a spouse before heading out to help cook tacos for Taco Sunday at church.

Passing on a major social event because one doesn't feel well and the other refuses to leave them alone while they don't feel good.

Being a chauffer for a spouse whose health doesn't allow them to drive for a period of time, which includes going to Mass and other places not commonly visited.

Waiting with a spouse, outside in the freezing cold wind, for a tow truck to arrive and pick up a car with a broken starter.

Getting up at 4:30 in the morning to drive to a spouse's parent's house while the spouse is at work and tend to a terminally ill mother in law. This includes going out to buy diapers, paying for a hospital bed, guiding a hospice nurse to the house and then getting back home to take care of their own house and family.

Being there for the spouse when that parent passes away.

Scrimping and saving to buy a spouse a special gift for no real reason other than they love them.

A spouse at work finding time to call every day(even on hellishly busy days) just to say "I love you."

Giving long hugs and kisses before bedtime every night.


:) That's love.

DottyG:
My parents have been married for 44 years.  And, they are more in love now than they were 44 years ago (if that's even possible).  They were childhood sweethearts.

There's no way to list the ways they show their love, as it'd be too long a list.

Suffice it to say that both of them consider each other to be their "best friend" - and have said so many times.

Mom once told me that the best way to love your children is to love their father with all your heart first (and vice versa).  And, if that's true, my parents love me - and each other - more than I can even imagine.

(And, yes, I always was the envy of all my friends with parents like these. :) )

blue2000:
Totally GREEN with envy here. Can I borrow your parents for the holidays? :-*

My parent's marriage was over long before I was born (unfortunately, they didn't get divorced till I was almost nineteen). I can't say I learned much about good marriages from them - but I have a long list of what *not* to do.

Cyndi:
I think the reason a lot of marriages fail is because the people aren't willing to do things like that. With the medical problems my parents have both had in their lives, some would just dump them rather than spend the money.

Either that or after the newlywed rush of "bedroom time" wears off, they realize there's nothing else in the relationship.

At least that's what I've observed.

Clara Bow:
My parents have been married almost forty years and my grandparents for sixty three...and they are very much in love. My Granny is largely incapacitated and my Pop takes total care of her, he even does her catheter at night. He works himself to death to stay ahead of her OCD and he is absolutely a saint for the crap he takes off of her. He loves that woman with all his heart, we should all be so lucky.
My parents? They are as "hot" for each other as they ever were...I say it creeps me out, but I am tickled for them. They have this great relationship and they are both totally crazy and a lot of fun. I laugh my head off when I call and Mom doesn't answer...then calls me later and says they were taking a "nap"...yeah right... ;)

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