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mini-vent Ms PITA strikes again!

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wetblanket:
Argh!

Last week I posted about Ms PITA, who does many annoying things including dicussing projects that involve me with our boss without including me in the discussions, or even letting me know about them until they are over, and presuming to speak for me (as in "I told Boss what you said about such-and-such and Boss said this-and-that").  I think this is very rude and a sure way to antagonize your co-workers.

Last I week I sent her an email saying I want to be informed in advance of any discussions with our boss on Project X and to be present at those discussions whenever possible.  Ms PITA replied "sure thing".  That was 6 days ago.

Today she did it again!   I'm furious!  And there was absolutely no reason for it.  She didn't even attempt to include me in the meeting or bother to tell me about it until much later.

I'm going to wait until tomorrow to cool off, and then I'm going to send her another email telling her AGAIN that I want to be present at these discussions.  If this woman is going to drive me crazy, I can at least document why and how it is happening.

I LOATHE this woman.  She tries to come across as really nice person who doesn't mean the slightest bit of harm but in fact she's bloody incompetent fool who doesn't pull her weight and does passive-aggressive nonsense like this to have control.

I started out being nice to this woman.  I really did.  But she blew it.  I could go on and on.  This is just part of it.

 >:(

Banshee:
Do you two share a mutual supervisor?  If so, I would cc said supervisor on the next email you send requesting to be included in discussions of your projects.  This helps prevent her from boxing you out without a good reason.

gjcva1:
wetblanket, can you resend the e-mail where she agreed to include you in the meetings, ccing the boss who she is telling what you think, and ask her about your initial agreement?  what a woman!

wetblanket:
Yes, we have the same supervisor.  It's tricky though.  Our supervisor really can't handle conflict - she likes to believe that we're a jolly little team, and takes the shoot-the-messenger approach to bad news.

Ms PITA always frames her screw-ups as "just this once".  Just this once because I happened to be in the elevator with Boss and thought I'd bring it up then.  Just this once because I thought you were too busy and wouldn't want to be interrupted.  Just this once - oh, that's right, you said you wanted to be there, I guess I forgot!  That kind of thing.

Ack!!!!!

Banshee:
Well, it's your supervisor's job to mediate conflict, so I'd go ahead and dump it cheerfully into her lap.  And the next time PITA tells you about speaking for you to the boss, thank her for her efforts on your behalf, but you are quite capable of passing on your own opinions and don't want to burden her with something that isn't part of her job.

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