Wait...those are my pictures, but where am I? Facebook

[Miss Marple]

I think you are handling it well by ignoring the situation.

She sounds spiteful and insecure to me. So staying off her radar is the best way to go. A piece of advice I read on ehell that I often chant to myself, is don't engage with the crazies. It really does help you in your own self preservation.

Keeping a dignified silence, means you are coming across to the other people in your boyfriend's life such as his mother as the classy lady you are.

Sometimes saying nothing is the dignified way to go.

Just keep living well and being happy, as that will get back to your boyfriend and be far more effective than anything you email or text him about taking down the photos.

People have told you they have noticed and have been annoyed on your behalf, let that be your satisfaction.

Finally, I am sorry that it happened to you, as it isn;t nice to be cut out of your own photos. But is says more about her and your ex that he is with her than you. Know in your heart you have behaved impeccably and with grace and have done nothing to provoke or deserve this treatment.

Take care and try not to waste any more of your happy life on their drama.

[rockchalk]

Hello! New here! Long time lurker, first time poster 

I'm going to go against the grain here. Pictures are very personal things. I would be furious if someone stole mine and edited them. If she's editing them to just crop you out, who says she's not editing them to add something that could be embarrassing for you? She's messing with your image, stealing your memories and taking the time to modify your photos.

Yes, she's creepy, but maybe she is because nobody calls her out on her rude behavior. She stole from you.

I really think you need to notify FB with at least her name and your ex's name. I'm sure there is something they can do. And if not, at least they can give you suggestions on how to make sure this situation never happens again. For instance, on Myspace, you have the option to make your photos "unsharable." Basically so that nobody can save them to their own computers.

Notify FB, get your pics back, find out how you can keep your pictures from landing in this situation again, and block block block.

[ACBNYC]

Wow, she sounds a bit unhinged.

I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that HE untagged himself from your photos, either. This kind of scary wouldn't have an issue hacking into his Facebook account and doing it "for" him.

[Drunken Housewife]

this woman is scarily jealous of the OP; i think the best is to not have anything to do with her.  She sounds more than a little off.  I would let the pictures go because interacting with this woman sounds risky. 

[smidget23]

OP here.

While I do agree that something is "off" with the new girlfriend, I really think it only involves a deep sense of insecurity coupled with immaturity. That's unfortunate for her, but it's not my problem and I will not be engaging her in any way to try to help her with it. I highly doubt that it has anything to do with me personally and more with the fact that I was "there first" (sort of like a second wife syndrome except with an ex-fiancee and a girlfriend ).

While the situation with the pictures is weird and creepy, I can't deny having a fun time laughing about it with my friends. This is not a situation where I feel physically threatened. If it came to that, I would NOT hesitate to call up the ex and read him the riot act or go to other levels of defense. I think what upset me was the fact that she stole things from me and claimed them as her own. It also upset me that he was untagged. I've had to exercise a lot of patience and understanding in order to salvage a friendship with him and this was another straw on the proverbial camel's back. Like a PP, I'd had some questions about whether or not he was the one that untagged himself, but I decided that 1. not my problem/business 2. I really don't care. I am glad that I defriended him. Maybe in the future, we will be close again one day but right now, he represents added stress that I do not need in my life. He was failing the friendship probation miserably and just upsetting me in the process.