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Millicent63:
Hello,
I'm in the process of writing thank-you notes to those who attended my mom's funeral last week and/or sent flowers, memorial contributions etc.

We also received a number of greeting cards from co-workers, neighbors and so forth;   is it good form to respond to those with a written thank-you or just express appreciation the next time we see them in person.

Thanks for any advice,
M

Lisbeth:
I'm very sorry for your loss.

Thank-you notes aren't required for cards, but it's certainly acceptable to acknowledge them if you wish.

You certainly should send thank-you notes to people who paid you personal visits or did other special things for you to help you get through this time.

kingsrings:
If someone sent you a sympathy card, it is good manners and courtesy to write them a short thank-you note for their condolences to you. It also confirms that they received your card.

sammycat:
Firstly, my condolences on the passing of your mother.

I never expect a thank you for a condolence card, or even flowers, but that is just me personally and others may feel differently.  For some reason though I do actually seem to receive thank you notes for condolence cards more so than thank yous for wedding/birthday/baby gifts. Maybe it helps with the grieving process. However, if someone has done something extra like help organise the funeral, running of the household, supply meals etc then it would be nice to send a thank you note when you are ready.

ETA: I like writing thank you notes for everything and I would send a thank you after a bereavement but don't get upset if someone doesn't send one to me in that situation. 

ZipTheWonder:
Condolences on your loss.

I have only done this twice, but in both cases (grandmother, father-in-law), I felt like it was appropriate to express appreciation for letters, cards, and other kindnesses or acknowledgements -- including attending the funeral or visiting the mortuary.  I would say that, if you are feeling up to doing it, do so.  Perhaps other family members would be willing to assist, as well. 

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