But I do not think there is such a thing as a funeral invite. There is a death notice, which includes information about when and where the funeral is, but that is not an invite.
An invite to a funeral, would only work if it is a closed event where you want to exclude people from coming, which is usually not the case.
Yes, this. A boy I went to elementary school with suddenly died of a drug overdose this past summer, and I found out through Facebook. I mean, yes, I read the newspaper, but I don't generally check the obituaries, and why would I? After all, people my age aren't "supposed" to die. The only difference was, this was done properly--some friends of the deceased (let's call him S) sent a private message to everyone on his Facebook friends list, and invited everyone to join a memorial group for him. Then, when the details of the funeral were hammered out, they both sent them by PM to everyone, and posted them in the Facebook group. Come the day of the funeral, there was a huge turnout, and it was a really beautiful service......I mean, I'm still bummed out that S died, because he was probably the nicest person in the whole school--everyone else teased me, but he didn't. I saw him on a city bus last winter, and he started talking about the "good old days" at Braindead Elementary (okay, the school wasn't called that, but I think that nickname suits it). I confessed that I didn't HAVE very many Braindead memories, because I didn't have any friends, and he replied, "That's not true, Becca, I was your friend." After that, I added him to my Facebook......we didn't talk much, but it was just nice knowing that there was someone like him in the world. It's sad that S died, but I'm glad that I got to be there to "say goodbye" in a way. Also, ever since the funeral, I've been back in semi-regular contact with some other people from that school, so it's almost as if people are FINALLY picking up on S's example of kindness and acceptance that he tried to impart to us when we were kids.........and Marcel, you have it spot on--S wouldn't have wanted to exclude anyone.