Well, we didn't go last night. We DID go to a lovely "welcome home" party for a gentleman in town, who had been hospitalized and nearly died, and is now back among us. Mr. Diva and his band DID play for that party...for free.
No money was solicited. Though there was a sign-up sheet for anyone who wanted to help with meals, cleaning, rides, etc., while the honoree finished recuperating.
A local ladies' choral group even seranaded him with a very moving piece. There wasn't a dry eye in the house. THAT's the kind of town I live in!
I was asked if Mr. Diva and I were going to the "benefit" later that evening. I reiterated the story about my mother coming in and having other plans. I did tell the truth to one woman, who is a friend and whom I know will keep the confidence.
She said, "Oh I'm so glad to hear how you really feel. My husband and I feel the same way, but weren't sure how we could get out of going." I said, "Just don't go! I wouldn't give them the $20 admission fee. How DARE they be so presumptuous?" She heartily agreed.
Today, Mr. Diva and I went to a surprise 50th birthday party for the husband of my former co-worker, who is also a musician. Again, many fellow musicians, including Mr. Diva (by himself this time) were there to help celebrate...and played gratis. It was a fantastic time!
A couple of people asked me how the "benefit" went last night. I told them I had no idea, as we had other obligations and did not attend. Nobody who asked me about it, had gone themselves either. I "fessed up" to one more friend about the truth of how I really felt. She too said she and her husband had the same feelings about it, and they'd stayed home as well. The consensus was, "Who do they think they are?"
I haven't yet heard how things went last night...particularly how many attended or how much was "raised." But as soon as I do, you'll all be the next to know!