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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #15 on: January 19, 2010, 11:36:16 AM »
Computers should be turned off and the use of cell phones and electronic devices should be minimized.
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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #16 on: February 07, 2010, 01:31:13 PM »
I think it is okay if you use your computer to play the party music. But people shouldn't be, say, posting on Ehell during the party. ;D
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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #17 on: February 07, 2010, 10:31:19 PM »
I think it is okay if you use your computer to play the party music. But people shouldn't be, say, posting on Ehell during the party. ;D

I think that if the computer has party music or other entertainment, it can be part of the agenda.  But otherwise, if it's people using it individually or a subset of the people there are using it, then no.
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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #18 on: February 07, 2010, 11:08:13 PM »
I think it is okay if you use your computer to play the party music. But people shouldn't be, say, posting on Ehell during the party. ;D

I think that if the computer has party music or other entertainment, it can be part of the agenda.  But otherwise, if it's people using it individually or a subset of the people there are using it, then no.
Oh yes, definitely. You just queue up the playlist and then turn off the monitor. Maybe attend to it once or twice if the music needs to change.
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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #19 on: July 12, 2010, 06:09:46 PM »
19. If guest need to throw things away or separate recycling (cans, bottles, etc.) into a different receptacle, please make sure the trash/recycling areas are obvious and please make sure they have room. I personally hate carrying around a disposable napkin or plate looking for the garbage can, only to find it overflowing with items.

Normally I only have one trash can, under the sink. I have a second trash can with a swinging lid that I only use for parties. I put it in the corner of the kitchen. I learned quickly that otherwise, the traffic all clogs up aroun the sink with people throwing stuff away, plus that can fills up in a hurry.

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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #20 on: August 25, 2010, 05:13:26 PM »
I think it is okay if you use your computer to play the party music. But people shouldn't be, say, posting on Ehell during the party. ;D

I think that if the computer has party music or other entertainment, it can be part of the agenda.  But otherwise, if it's people using it individually or a subset of the people there are using it, then no.
Oh yes, definitely. You just queue up the playlist and then turn off the monitor. Maybe attend to it once or twice if the music needs to change.

This is what I do.  I put together a fun playlist on my laptop (usually about 5 hours of music), put it on random and repeat and then set it up in an aout of the way corner.  Never had a problem with people hopping on it to surf the net or do other things. 
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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #21 on: September 04, 2010, 02:51:27 PM »
20  Before the guests arrive, take your coats off the hooks and put them away on a bed somewhere so that the hooks are all free for guests' coats, and they don't have to rummage around on a spare bed looking for their coat at the end of the party.

That's a good one.  I would even vote for vertical coat racks.

As an alternative, the removable hooks that 3M makes that sticks to the wall is terrific for extra coats. They also come in all sorts of styles and colors, so you can put up the decorative hooks that appropriate for the feel of the party, then take them down. They're also reusable, just need to get fresh sticky strips.

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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #22 on: November 06, 2011, 01:27:08 AM »
For 3) - For a party, I find that the best thing to do is prepare a variety of foods. Have some stuff that is vegan (which also handles vegetarian, lactose problems or kosher/halal restrictions), some that has no nuts, some that's wheat free, some that's soy free. Label the 'safe' items. That way everyone can find something to eat without you having to obsess over the details.

I live in an area with a lot of vegans and vegetarians and my family has issues with allergies. Seeing all of the delicious looking and smelling food and not being able to eat during a dinner party is not fun.

As for computer use, I do urge setting it up so the speakers are a part of your party, but not the computer if at all feasible. If people are tempted to browse the computer it might help if it is out of sight or in a non-public area of the house.

And my family are landlords, so while extra coat racks are great (especially in winter), do try any adhesive products out in a less obvious area and try to clean them up as soon as possible. The next tenants and the deposit will thank you.

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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #23 on: July 13, 2015, 10:31:52 AM »
I am becoming increasingly tired of lack of clarity in invitations.


I attended a birthday party, one of those big bashes for an adult birthday, held in a catering hall. The invitation said "1:00 to 4:00 pm." 

I figured they would serve cake and punch. Perhaps some light savory such as small sandwiches. I assumed it was a drop-in event to attend any time during those posted hours. There was no mention of food service on the invitation.

We arrived at 1:30 pm. They opened a buffet of meats, veg, potatoes at 2:00 pm. This is just odd. Everyone at my table had eaten lunch and so, ate only enough to be polite. Wish the invitation had been more clear. Not surprisingly, other friends arrived after 2:00 pm, puzzled by the food service.


That said, I know that I could have called the hosts to find out more about the party. And it seems rude to question this event of hospitality. But I feel as though I didn't give this party full attention, especially since we had  plans for later in the afternoon and we left after being there about 1.5 hours. I don't think the hosts expected everyone to stay for a full 4 hours, yet that what a full meal and open bar would imply.

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We got an invitation from someone else, hosting a retirement party. This invitation says "6 pm" with no mention of food service.

But because we've been to several parties at their house, we know this means:
*drop in after 6 pm
*drinks and heavy appetizers will be served
* leave any time

But if they were expecting us for a sit down meal, I wouldn't know that.



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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #24 on: July 13, 2015, 12:44:18 PM »
"I am becoming increasingly tired of lack of clarity in invitations."

Same, IrisLily!

My friend got married last year in a very small ceremony with just their immediate families. They waited until this year to have a reception (which I am not particularly a fan of), on the 4th of July.  They chose a place that used to hold my high school's prom, so I assumed it was somewhat formal. It turned out that it was a very relaxed, casual picnic, where most people were dressed in their red, white and blue,  in a pavilion that was also on the property. No mention of it whatsoever on the invitation.

I would rather end up overdressed, like my DH and I were, than under, but it bothered me. It could have easily been mentioned in the invite or on the RSVP website. There were people present that were very formally dressed and I could see their embarrassment. I had other people tell me they called the couple to clarify, but I didn't want to bother the couple while planning and preparing. Had it been mentioned somewhere, they would not have received dozens of calls and so much confusion that day.


On another note, I am tired of receiving supposed invitations to events through word of mouth, like my MIL says "cousin is having a birthday party on Saturday and you are invited." Apparently it's normal in his family, but if they can't bother to call me themselves, they must not care if we are there or not. Also, I am a huge fan of actual mailed invitations (with details!. A text is not a proper way to invite someone to a first birthday party.

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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #25 on: July 13, 2015, 06:11:54 PM »
I think if I got an invite for 1-4, I would assume I was expected from start to end. Those times do say "lunch" to me.

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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #26 on: July 13, 2015, 10:57:19 PM »
I think if I got an invite for 1-4, I would assume I was expected from start to end. Those times do say "lunch" to me.

You are likely right. But had I known that, I would have turned down the invitation. Half a day is too long for me to spend at an event like this where I don't know the principle all that well.

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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #27 on: July 13, 2015, 11:03:27 PM »
Big bash in a catering hall for three hours would've told me something more than cake and punch (especially the catering hall part -- it would make no sense to me to go to that extent just to serve cake and punch).  However, I went to an awful wedding reception last year where guests were left cooling their heels for three hours with only lots of booze and a limited amount of snack foods (cheese and crackers and some cut-up fruit) to hold everyone over until dinner (which we had no idea when it was coming).  Oddly, I went to another wedding reception last week for another family member (first one's cousin) where we also waited 2-3 hours for dinner (also, no time given for when dinner was happening).  However, there were a lot of appetizers available (and a balance of light and heavy appetizers), along with beverages of more than just alcohol; the appetizers were available the entire time until dinner was provided.

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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #28 on: July 14, 2015, 01:27:24 AM »
Catering hall and 3 hours listed would have said to me food would be served--drinks, cake, appetizers, maybe some sandwich meats.  I would not have figured a full meal during those hours--to me those hours are between lunch time and dinner time.

If it didn't say open house, I would have assumed that the party would last the whole time though.

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Re: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Parties
« Reply #29 on: July 14, 2015, 02:27:16 AM »
I am becoming increasingly tired of lack of clarity in invitations.


I attended a birthday party, one of those big bashes for an adult birthday, held in a catering hall. The invitation said "1:00 to 4:00 pm." 

I figured they would serve cake and punch. Perhaps some light savory such as small sandwiches. I assumed it was a drop-in event to attend any time during those posted hours. There was no mention of food service on the invitation.

We arrived at 1:30 pm. They opened a buffet of meats, veg, potatoes at 2:00 pm. This is just odd. Everyone at my table had eaten lunch and so, ate only enough to be polite. Wish the invitation had been more clear. Not surprisingly, other friends arrived after 2:00 pm, puzzled by the food service.


That said, I know that I could have called the hosts to find out more about the party. And it seems rude to question this event of hospitality. But I feel as though I didn't give this party full attention, especially since we had  plans for later in the afternoon and we left after being there about 1.5 hours. I don't think the hosts expected everyone to stay for a full 4 hours, yet that what a full meal and open bar would imply.

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We got an invitation from someone else, hosting a retirement party. This invitation says "6 pm" with no mention of food service.

But because we've been to several parties at their house, we know this means:
*drop in after 6 pm
*drinks and heavy appetizers will be served
* leave any time

But if they were expecting us for a sit down meal, I wouldn't know that.

I guess I don't understand the lack of clarity here. To me, this says it's a 3 hour party that starts at 1pm and ends at 4pm and they want guests to stay the entire 3 hours. I would expect a buffet/heavy finger food, maybe even a sit down meal, regardless of time of day.  The only thing I wouldn't expect would just be a drink and a piece of cake, maybe because that is just not done where I live.

For the 6pm party, it's my experience that it means come at 6pm, not an hour or so later (unless it explicitly stated 'drop in any time from 6pm'), and stay for a few hours. Again, I would expect enough food to completely fill me up, whether that be full buffet, heavy (and lots of) finger food or a sit down meal.
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